When a person is trained to the point that they don't want to socialize, don't want to talk, and don't want to deliberately make themselves look gregarious, but spend most of their time alone, in fact, their hearts have been cultivated relatively strong, and they will only live for their own feelings for the rest of their lives, not for others, let alone live in the eyes of others.
Perhaps, they were not like this at the beginning, but like other people, they always look forward to being recognized and liked by others, and they want to mingle with anyone the most, hoping that in the eyes of others, they are a very gregarious person, not an alternative. In their minds, they regard other people's likes and dislikes and feelings as more important than their own, and they live under the noses of others in their words and deeds, and dare not easily do what they want to do.
However, they are so wronged by themselves, always considering the feelings of others and taking care of other people's emotions, all they get is ignorance, even contempt, in the eyes of others, they do not have a little momentum and sharpness, more like a soft persimmon, they will only nod their heads when they meet anyone, they have no backbone and arrogance, just like a weak person.
No one likes the weak, even if the weak person is very kind, exudes the brilliance of his humanity everywhere, is enthusiastic to help others everywhere, and often sacrifices his own interests to fulfill others. Others will only think that they are too weak, and they will even sell themselves in a way to gain the pity or favor of others, and everyone will simply scoff at such behavior, to the point of rolling their eyes.
They have suffered enough before they wake up, and then they deeply reflect on their thoughts and actions. It turns out that if you want to mix in society, you can't get it in such a cheap and weak way, so you will only tell others that you are a weak person who has nothing, no background and no backing.
Showing favor and currying favor without strength is simply worthless, making yourself appear very cheap, and even becoming the target of suppression, ridicule and ridicule by people with ulterior motives, so that others have the opportunity to consume their blessings and energy, which is more than worth the loss. has no strength, no chips, even if you try to squeeze into a circle that does not belong to you, you are destined to be marginalized, in fact, it is a small transparent existence, without any value and meaning.
Therefore, in the end, they see through human nature and feel that people are just that little thing, that little ability, and it is not worth wasting time to deliberately please or obey. People, to make themselves look noble, not soft persimmons that can be handled at will, to have their own temperament and style, not to be submissive, timid and afraid.
They used to care a lot about other people's opinions, and always tried their best to get the approval of others to make up for the regrets and shortcomings that they never had in their original family. However, once a person pleases others, it will be like depreciating himself, and he will not gain the respect of others at all, let alone any recognition, and may laugh at him more.
Now, in their opinion, what is the evaluation of others, it is someone else's business, it has nothing to do with them, and others are not authoritative certifications and standard answers, what he says can be taken seriously?It's just used to fool people, as long as he doesn't eat his set, what can he do?It's nothing, actually. As long as your heart is strong and firm enough, there is no way for others to shake the order and rules in your own heart.
When a person is trained to the point that he doesn't want to speak, it's not that he doesn't speak, but he just wants to talk to the person he wants to talk to. The rest of life is very short, and there are regrets and errors in the past, so we should put time and energy, as well as emotions, on more worthy people and things. And those who come to consume their energy and frustrate their self-confidence, there is no need to invite them into their own lives to cause crowding.