Some people are very inferior, not confident at all, always submissive, timid and afraid of things, bullied or yin and yang weird connotations do not dare to go back on the spot, or just go back with strong means, they will only blindly swallow their anger, and tell themselves in their hearts that as long as they endure it, it will pass. The reason why they are so cowardly and afraid of things is really inseparable from their original family.
Usually at home, there are one or two, or even more often pour cold water on them, constantly suppressing and belittling them, and letting them fall into the whirlpool of self-doubt and self-denial. More importantly, by suppressing them, he highlights his sense of superiority and control.
They are not so magnetic and not so pessimistic, but the original family seems to be unable to get along with them, and they have to set up all kinds of obstacles to prevent them from living a happy, lively and shrewd appearance. Because, at the bottom, the cognition and pattern are too low, in fact, I don't want the people around me to live better than themselves and be better than themselves.
The repression and cynicism they have been exposed to since childhood is simply too much. The words and deeds of parents are bullied by others, or their own interests are damaged, they will only keep silent, or they will be silent, but because they are too weak, they will not play any role at all. The most terrifying thing is that the rest of the family will band together to deal with the person who dares to say no. Such a native family portrays the timid and cowardly people who will only fight in the nest very vividly.
Therefore, living in such a distorted and unclear family of origin, there is no hope and happiness at all, and the ability to be happy has been lost early, and at the same time, there is no hope. They are Xi to destroying hope, keen to create all kinds of anxiety, and all kinds of internal friction, and the family fights all day and night over trivial things. However, all the energy and focus has nothing to do with how to improve life and how to make more money.
Although they are not good at fighting with outsiders, and they are afraid of contradictions or conflicts with others, they are very good at internal fighting, and if they don't fight for a day, it seems that they lack something. The lower the bottom, the less cognitive the family, the more they like infighting, like to embarrass their own family, and build their happiness on the pain of their family and losing to themselves. Therefore, their thinking and mentality are very screwed, they are not doing well, and other family members should not think about living well, otherwise, they will be regarded as betrayal and provocation to themselves.
In fact, they are ignorant of many things, and they are vague and confused about everything. They can't tell friend from foe, they can't tell the difference between relatives and relatives, and they can't even distinguish between right and wrong, and everything is based on their own feelings.
They seem to be short-tempered and have a bad temper, but they are easily soft-hearted and like to give their weak side to strangers, and can even be said to be overflowing with sympathy. However, they are very hard-hearted and give their cold and ruthless side to their families.
They are very confused, so their lives, work, and human affairs are all a mess. That is, they always like to give a piece of their heart to someone who doesn't deserve it.
Timidity and cowardice have become the label of their family, and it is even more difficult to get to the sky if they want to be prosperous and improve their lives. They have been fighting for decades, and they are still happy to continue to fight, consuming each other. One is prosperous, one is lost, but they have never thought of cooperating with each other, so as to walk out of a road, wider and wider.
People who come out of such a family can only be a person with a pleasing personality to gain a sense of security in their hearts. The stigma of denigration and curse installed on them crushed them to the brink.
Only by breaking this predicament, re-establishing their own personality and core order, and no longer being a person manipulated by the family, can they live like a normal person. You don't need to please anyone, just live without humility or arrogance. In fact, they really owe no one but themselves, and let themselves be devastated but powerless. Enough of the punishment they have been given, and it will be enough. Rabbits are in a hurry and will bite people.