Posts on social platforms are a good channel to understand a person, and what he posts is mostly what he pays attention to.
Whether it is using Weibo or WeChat Moments, this has become an important way for modern people to show their livesAlthough the content you write will not be the whole picture of life, you can also get to know part of you through the content you post.
And he may see part of you and think that all of you are like this!
Social platforms are like a business cardIt is showing everyone your life and personality, three views.
Although it is their own platform, they can post whatever they want, but smart people will not dig holes for themselves to jump, ruin their own image, and let themselves suffer.
People who often post the following 3 types of posts really deduct points.
Osho said in the Book of Faith:
"All negative emotions need energy, they exhaust you, and all positive emotions and positive emotions are generators of energy, they create more energy, they never exhaust you. ”
Looking at your negative energy will make your friends tired, so everyone doesn't like to look at negative things.
Gentler people will unfollow or block your content, and people with more extreme personalities will even leave sour comments on you.
The content that often leaves negative energy gives people the feeling that it is negative, and your joys and sorrows are not in line with others.
No matter how much you have been wronged, others will not really empathize, and no amount of support and comfort can really help you, just a momentary quick tongue.
But the impression is that you are doing badly, that your partner is not treating you well, that your parents or friends are treating you badly, and so on.
Others will start to wonder, is it because of your mentality that life is like this?
If you send some extreme texts, it will confirm his conjecture.
I used to have a friend who was as affectionate about pets as I was, and he never forgot the loss of his pet.
From time to time, he posted a post to miss it, and then someone ridiculed him for always posting some crying dog articles, which was very difficult to hear, and he was even more sad.
We have the same experience, although I sympathize with him, but every time he posts it, I feel uncomfortable watching it, and it will bring back negative memories in my heart.
It's really bad now, it's a kind of negative energy, but I didn't know how to stay away from it at that time.
Occasionally say something negative, everyone will support and understand, but every day when you say it, some people will feel angry:
"Why do we look at something so negative?”
There was a woman who always complained about family problems in the group, and then someone jumped out and choked her.
Besides, luck gets worse and worse the more you talk about it, and complaining all the time will only attract more things that make you complain.
A lot of people will shout that she has free speech, and that's true, but you also have to bear the change in other people's opinions of you later, but think about whether you really want that?
It will also bring your own fortune, is this really what you want?
Learn to stabilize yourself, ignore your negative energy, not suppress it, but cover it with more positive energy.
Don't let your negative energy wash other people's pages, and don't let other people's negative energy wash you.
Many people have a lot of anger in their lives and dare not express it, so they use social platforms as a medium to accuse Sang Huai of scolding others and saying bad things about others.
Because he clearly said that he would bear the consequences, and he didn't have the courage to say it directly to the man, so he insinuated at others like this.
Saying bad things about people or gossiping about others will lead to their own behavior, and others will only think that this person is yin and yang, will they say the same about me one day?It looks very obscene.
If someone guesses the person you want to talk about, tell that person, and you will get into trouble for yourself.
Even if someone upsets you, it won't do you any good, it's up to you to adjust.
If you can adjust well, you don't need people in your circle of friends to help you get angry, you should ignore those negative energies and say more good things about others.
Let others think that you meet good people, and they will think that you must be a good person.
It's not that you want to be fake, it's that you focus on the bright side of life.
There are really many people who have done good things for you, but you often don't feel it, such as the waiter serving you food and smiling at you, which is also a good thing, and you should be thanked.
Don't dwell on the mistakes of others, you are a smart person, he has done bad things to you, it is his negative energy, you respond to him, and the energy between the two is connected.
Even if you just complain about him in private, you are strengthening that negative energy, which is extremely detrimental to yourself.
In the early years, I would see many friends complaining about private matters, but later everyone may be afraid of the elders and begin to silence them, so they turn to showing off.
Later, I saw all the good things, how expensive things I bought, what luxurious trips I went, how high-end food I ate, and so on.
Ryunosuke Akutagawa once said in "Kappa":
"What we want to emphasize most is what we don't have. ”
It's not that you can't talk about your own goodness, butMentality, if you want to show off to make others feel inferior and highlight your nobility, others will definitely feel it.
It is precisely because I don't believe that I am noble that I do this.
Schopenhauer once said in "Schopenhauer's Philosophy of Life":
"Vanity makes people talkative, but self-confidence silences them. ”
Because vanity is meant to be shown, and confident people tend to be calm and don't care if others know how good they are.
Jane Austen also said in Pride and Prejudice:
"Self-confidence is mostly about how we see ourselves, while vanity is about how we want others to see us. ”
If you are always showing off yourself, let others have an inferiority complex, and feel that you are not as good as you, it is actually a very strong negative energy.
Not everyone has the conditions to be as good as ours, and you don't need others to know what you have.
The praise of the outside world is just an illusion, and more people are disgusted in the hearts of those who look at it and show it off.
I have even seen many Internet celebrities suffer from the calculations of their friends because they make a lot of money by showing off, which is all attracted by themselves.
As "The Grandmaster" said:
"People live in the world, some live to be faced, and some live to be inside. And only Lizi can win real face. ”
Restraining one's desire to show off is also a kind of kindness.
Unless your show-off can help others grow and be a role model for others.
People who really believe in their own goodness will not go around showing off, only people who are not sure whether they are good or not, need to disguise themselves as good to show off, and affirm themselves through the reactions of others.
Sometimes your ostentatious flaunting is unintentional, but in the eyes of those who lack it, it becomes uncomfortable flaunting.
So instead of showing, it's better to hide, unless it's in the workplace and you need to show your abilities, otherwise in general life, it's better to keep a low profile.
Everyone loves positive energy, but not many people are interested in your boring triviaEveryone cares about their own life, and what can you give him?
If you often see useful information on your social platforms, he will naturally have a crush on you.
Once upon a time, a boy added me as a friend because I left a message in my friend's profile that he thought was very wise, saying that he wanted to pursue me.
Positive words can give people a feeling like a spring breeze, and naturally everyone likes it, and they will have a better impression of the person who said it.
Those useless negative energies are just a heavy burden on others, and they will be annoying, and then change the perception of you, which will do more harm than good.
If you really want to post it, then limit it to the best relatives and friends, at least don't affect the perception of people in the workplace, otherwise the impact will be greater.
Vanity is vain after all, and it cannot bring you any substantial benefits. It may also be annoying to others and make enemies for yourself.
Some women are terrible, seeing how good your husband is to you, she wants to rob your husband and ruin your happiness even more, so why bother?
Although it's your own version, you still have to think about it before posting, and you'd rather post boring but happy content than offensive content.