A man, after he is really emotional, will willingly break his rules and regulations for a person.I have a student Xiaomei,Her boyfriend has been talking for seven years. mentioned marriage to her boyfriend before, but her boyfriend kept using the excuse of "I have to work hard, otherwise how can I afford a home".
But this year, her boyfriend was promoted, but he still didn't mention marriage.
I used to see Xiaomei 2 or 3 times a month, but now I can't see Xiaomei many times in two or three months. When complaining to my boyfriend,He's still in PUA Xiaomei.
So Xiaomei came to me and said: Isn't it good for me to urge him like this, he just did it for our future...
I said, "You're not stupid?"
If he still loves you, he should marry you home.
But now you're just boyfriend and girlfriend, and it doesn't matter if he has more money.
If they break up, he can still marry another woman. He is now fighting for himself.
After Xiaomei went back, she called ** and asked her boyfriend: Did he never include her in his later life, does he still love himself?
Xiaomei just wants an accurate answer.
But her boyfriend replied impatiently: "Are you annoyed, didn't I tell you that I was busy?".Hang up**.
During this period, no one looked for anyone, and this relationship was like nightfall, quietly dissipating, leaving only Xiaomei groping in the dark, not understanding why the seven-year relationship ended like this.
When a relationship shows the following signs, it's time to think about your future.
If you start to spend a lot of time and energy explaining that your partner is good and beautifying your other half, it just means that your relationship is not satisfactory.
Be wary of those boys who pay lip service to the pay, but in fact always make you suffer.
On the surface, it is high-sounding and even reasonable, but in reality, girls are forced to fall into an increasingly isolated and lonely situation.
If a girl wants to get rid of this kind of guy who is trying to "drag herself to death and consume her feelings", the best thing to do is to respect your feelings, you calm down and ask yourself:
No matter what future this boy promises, am I happy to be with him at this moment?Do I feel lonely?Am I uncomfortable?”
If your own heart gives you all negative answers, it means that there is indeed a very serious problem in your relationship.
At the end of the day, it's still too easy for girls to take men's promises seriously.
I have a friend who has this kind of problem:Her boyfriend is not only reluctant to spend money for her, but also often cries poor and prefers to draw "big cakes".
They rarely go out to eat, watch movies, or give gifts, but my friend gave her boyfriend a lot.
My friend just thinks it's normal, after all, it's just starting to fall in love, and it's normal not to spend money on me.
Most guys will invest in girls when they first start dating, but some guys just don't want to spend more money for you.
He talks about how much he loves you and is willing to give you the whole world, but he rarely puts it into action.
The reason why men just talk and don't do it is also for different reasons in different situations.
The first situation is that if the other party is very critical of you in terms of economy for more than 1 month, and even finds various reasons to "cry poor", the meaning is to make you sensible and don't ask for money.
Then I can only tell you that in fact, he just thinks you are not worth it.
It may be that your value does not match his investment in you for the time being, it may be that he is still measuring whether he will pay you for a long time, in short, you have not yet met the standard of what he is willing to pay.
The second situation is that when the relationship is first established, you can't wait to expose your needs in material terms.
You must know that if your sense of need is exposed too early and too strong, boys will think that you are a money worshipper who loves money rather than others, and will think that you are too materialistic.
In this case, the guy will first set up a framework for himself, indicating that he may not give you the idea of investment.
Some people say that they still envy campus love, we didn't have anything at that time, but we were happy every day.
But if you think about it, even after you are born in society, you will always see that there are some men around you who will not hesitate to use their credit cards to buy jewelry and bags that their girlfriends have admired for a long time.
They do everything for a reason, to feel that you are worthy.
For another example, a boy treats his girlfriend as if he is dispensable, and he doesn't say anything about any holidays, even a girl's birthday, and says that he will make up for it in a few days, and then he will end up without a problem.
But he is simply meticulous to his next girlfriend, preparing roses for Valentine's Day and a surprise party for birthday.
What does it mean?It shows that the value of the next girlfriend is high, so it matches his efforts!
In a relationship, there is no man who is unwilling to pay for a woman, only a woman who makes a man feel that it is not worth paying.
Men who are simply not willing to pay for women have long since dissipated their genes in the evolutionary process.
But sometimes, you will find that even women who are good enough in their own conditions do not get the investment of men, and this is because of the lack of skills to guide men.
As the saying goes, it is difficult for a good woman to cook without rice, without skills, even if you are worthy, but he is not aware of it, he will think that you are not worthy.
First of all, you have to know that he has a liking for you, but the willingness to pay is not in place.
That's where we need to push him.
Regarding the sunk cost that men pay to women, there are these three elements: the cost of money, the cost of energy, and the cost of time.
A man in a situation like the friend above, since he has established the framework in terms of money, then we can break through from other aspects.
Starting from the two major elements of energy and time, you can bypass his money framework.
Moreover, in this guidance process, if you can skillfully use love skills such as pushing and pulling, coquettishness, flirting, and teasing, you can achieve a better investment guidance effect.
After a long time, the more this guy invests his energy and time in you, the more he will love you and rely on you. It's only natural that they'll let their guard down and spend money for you!
In fact, if you want to warm up your relationship and let the other party invest for you willingly, it is not a problem, the most important thing is that you must understand that nothing is taken for granted, and you will naturally gain from paying.
When you master these skills and methods, you will find that many problems in love can be solved through effective guidance.