If parents can do these three things well, then education will be more than half successful.
For parents, educating their children is a long practice.
Every word and action of parents directly affects their children, and every decision made by parents has the potential to change their children's lives. However, there is no model, no standard, only whether or not you are attentive to educating children. If parents can do these three things well, then education will be more than half successful.
The first hurdle: accompany with heartI often hear parents say that their children are too difficult to raise nowadays. If you buy a few better tutoring books, you will lose hundreds, and if you sign up for a few better cram schools, you will lose thousands.
"I'm busy making money to support my family, how can I have time to spend with my children?”But if you don't accompany your child, no matter how good the workbook is, the child won't be able to do it, and no matter how good the cram school is, the child won't be able to learn. Without discipline, education equals zero. And companionship is the education that children need most. Harvard student Zhan Qingyun, the champion of "Wonderful Story" last year, did not have good grades when he was a child. In order to encourage her, her mother said every year that she would definitely fight back next year, although she has been disappointed. Dad was very open-minded, read her all kinds of books, took her on business trips, and saw the world. Accompanied by his parents, Zhan Qingyun thrives like a seedling under the sun, not only learning better and better, but also becoming more and more confident and excellent. Good children are managed, and excellent children are accompanied. Parents' education has an "expiration date", once you don't cherish it and miss this expiration date, it will delay the growth of children. Some parents accompany them, but they don't do their own thing, they just play mobile phones, watch TV, play mahjong, and just "accompany" their children. Children with thick lines may find mobile phones interesting, and even parents are reluctant to put them down, so they are also hooked on mobile phones. Sensitive children, however, perceive the neglect of their parents, consider themselves unimportant, and become more and more distant from their parents. This kind of companionship has no guidance, no education, and no sense of security and happiness for children. Companionship does not have to be by your side all the time, as long as you are attentive, it is a high-quality companionship. There was a teacher who couldn't educate his own children because he couldn't educate his own children every day, so he thought of a solution. He asked his son to write down what he wanted to say and the questions he wanted to ask and put them on the coffee table, and then he would answer and reply them one by one when he got home. Although the father cannot always accompany his son, he participates in the happiness, troubles, doubts, and confusion of his son's learning life. The father and son have a conversation in a short relationship, and education also happens back and forth. When the role of "parent" is still effective, we must give them the most attentive companionship.
The second hurdle: be a good role modelChildren are natural imitators and will unconsciously imitate their parents' words and actions;Even the small movements and mantras of the parents are very similar. We may not be aware of this subtle influence, but it will change the appearance of a child's life. For example, when some children learn to speak, they will imitate their parents' pronunciation, tone, and wordsOne day you accidentally say a dirty word, and after a few days you will find that the sentence actually came out of the child's mouth. This is the power of the child's "absorbent mind." The critical period when the absorbent mind is the strongest, that is, at the age of 0-6 years. At this stage, anything the child is exposed to, language, will leave an imprint on his brain. Dr. Montessori made a metaphor for the "absorbent mind":The sponge absorbs water。Children absorb information from their surroundings like a sponge, and in doing so, they build connections with the outside world and form their own personalities. As parents and educators, we should cherish this special power given to our children by God. Giving up preaching, practicing and taking the lead in setting an example is the best habit education for children. Zeng Guofan was a famous minister in the Qing Dynasty, but even when he was busy with business, he would find time to educate his children. Not only do you always ask about your children's reading and learning, but you also make a strict study plan and urge your children to implement it. Children are not only required to know books and etiquette, but also require them to be "diligent, filial piety, thrift, benevolence, perseverance, and humility". From eating and walking, to governing the country and the world, everything is strictly required, and children are not allowed to slack off. It is precisely because of Zeng Guofan's strict discipline and leading by example that the Zeng family has cultivated many accomplished people. To cultivate children's habits, you can't point from above, you must demonstrate immersively. Parents can't do 100% well, so how can they ask their children to do perfectly?The closer you are to your child, the more willing he is to be close to you and learn from youThe more appropriate your attitude towards your child, the more willing the child will be to respect you and trust your education. We don't know how far the child can go in the future, but the education pattern of parents determines the height of the child's future. Parents are the eternal life model for their children!What kind of person do you want your child to become, you first show him that kind of person. 
The third hurdle: be responsible in placeEducation is a long practice, and every parent must take responsibility for the education of their children. Life is like "sailing against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat", and all today's gains come from yesterday's accumulation. Mr. Bingxin said: The flower of success, people only envy her current brightness!However, at the beginning, her buds were soaked in the tears of struggle and sprinkled with the blood of sacrifice. Please tell your child that there is no such thing as being born with excellence, and that behind it is the accumulated hard work. Behind every outstanding child, there is a parent who is serious and responsible for the child's future. There are no children who can't teach well, only parents who don't want to teach. On the road to educating children, if parents only know how to be lazy, then they are really delaying their children. Every child is a seed waiting to emerge from the ground. As a parent, you can only provide fertile land for your children to water every day;And according to the characteristics of the child to choose the appropriate training method, you are qualified to wait for the flowers to bloom. Work is important, but in the long run, children can develop into a better version of themselves by giving them a complete family education.
Advice for moms:
Mothers are usually emotionally delicate, must be emotionally stable, give their child a sense of security, and accompany him to grow up with rich emotions. Mothers are good at observation and can perceive their children's emotional changes, so they should listen patiently to their children's voices, recognize their children's emotions, and guide their children to express their emotions in an appropriate way. When the child encounters troubles and setbacks, the mother should interpret the child's spiritual code in time, give the child spiritual strength support, comfort him, and encourage him to get out of the predicament.
Advice for dad:
Dad should be the mentor of the child's life and give the child guidance on the direction of life. Help children establish various learning and growth goals, establish life aspirations, and help children find endogenous motivation for growth. Dad should take more children and cultivate his hands-on ability. The famous pedagogue Sukhomlinsky once said: "A child's intellect is on the tip of his fingers." "Children's hands-on ability is stronger, which is more conducive to intellectual development. Repairing broken chairs and electrical appliances, doing small scientific experiments, and Dad's hands-on and demonstrative role will drive children's interest and stimulate children's desire to explore and creativity. Dad should read more to his child, tell stories, visit the library, Dad's voice is different from Mom's voice, it is deeper and more magnetic, and a variety of experiences can enrich the child's feelings. Fathers take their children to exercise more often, and men are more talented in sports than women. Moms are always worried that their children will be injured and that they will accidentally bump into them, but fathers are usually more calm, and they are more willing to teach their children a sense of rules and competition. Countless parents want to send their children to the best schools, receive the best education, and do their best to create the best educational environment for their children. But it is often overlooked that parents are the best teachers for their children. 
On the way to educate our children, we are all people who cross the river by feeling the stones. Although we are not the most perfect parents, we are the most authentic selves. For the sake of our children, we can move forward courageously and tirelessly, because we are participating in the growth of a life. The royal way to educate children is to cultivate themselves persistently.
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