Due to the different growth environments of both parents and their different parenting philosophies, it is normal and inevitable to have disagreements when educating children. However, if it is not handled properly, it will not only affect the growth of children, but also cause tension in family relations and affect the stability and harmony of the family. So what should parents do when they disagree about raising their children?
1.Look for the greatest "common divisor". Seek to find the greatest common ground from the differences between the two sides. For example, the father wants to take the child for a run, and the mother is worried that the child will sweat in the cold and sweat will wet the clothes and cause a cold. On the surface, parents have completely different views, but in fact, as long as you can find a way to exercise moderately and avoid catching a cold, such as choosing an indoor sports venue, so that both parties can accept it.
2.Don't argue in front of your children. Arguing in front of children will weaken the prestige of parents, and it will also allow children to see loopholes and listen to whichever party's opinion is beneficial to them. Over time, children will also listen to whoever has weight to speak at home. If there is a disagreement between the two parties, they can argue and negotiate behind their backs, and try to only have one voice in front of the child.
3.Be a team player. Both parents should form a joint force and not go their own way. It is important to know that the main purpose of education is to maximize the physical and mental health of children, not to be more pleasing to children than their parents or parents. Do not engage in vicious competition, let alone tear each other down, and try to leave a good step for each other in front of the child. Both parents are comrades-in-arms in the same trench and cannot "go their separate ways".
4.Learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses to promote the convergence of visions. If the two sides look at the problem from different angles, they should fully discuss it, learn to look at the problem from a different angle, and look for positive and reasonable factors from the other side's point of view to correct their own bias. In this way, parents can learn to look at problems from multiple perspectives and reach a consensus in the integration of visions.
5.Listen to your child's voice. The child is the most direct party, and when it is difficult for both parents to make a decision, they may wish to listen to the child's thoughts and understand the child's psychological needs, so that the education can be targeted. Don't leave out the child who has the most voice, and respect the child's will and choice.
6.Consult a professional. When the two sides are at a disagreement, you can consult a successful parent among relatives and friends, or consult with an experienced teacher or education expert. As the saying goes, listening to a third party may make it easier to help parents make decisions calmly and objectively.
7.Formulate some basic principles. Parents can discuss and develop some basic principles. For example, wash your hands before eating and develop good habitsIf you make a mistake, you should take responsibility and correct it;Education is based on encouragement, supplemented by criticismNo online games are played during school hours (Monday to Friday);Obey traffic rules, keep traffic safety in mind, etc. Having basic principles for some everyday issues also reduces disagreements between parents. ▲
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