When it comes to marriage, everyone may have different opinions, such as people drinking water and knowing themselves whether they are warm or cold. Some people will feel very happy to be in it, and some people will regret that they have entered into marriage. As the saying goes, "Happy marriages are all alike, and unhappy marriages are unhappy in their own way." ”
Before entering the palace of marriage, when saying vows at the wedding, everyone is full of longing for the future married life, believing that the two can work together for a lifetime.
But after I really started my married life, I found that every family had scriptures that were difficult to read, and all kinds of contradictions, problems, and conflicts emerged one after another. If the husband and wife can solve it properly, the relationship will go further, but if there is no way to solve it, then in the end, it is inevitable to separate halfway and then move forward separately.
Marriage takes time to manage, learn from each other, and grow together to last. But women with these three characteristics often don't have a long-lasting marriage, and I hope it's not you.
1. Women with too many negative emotions
People are emotional animals, and when they are happy, they will naturally have times of depression, just like the word "emo", which was very popular on the Internet before, which is very normal.
However, negative emotions should be moderate, learn to release them correctly, and do not make yourself unhappy, and it is easy to cause trouble to others. The same is true in marriage, if you are always complaining and blaming, then the experience of marriage will be very poor, and it will also cause some problems.
I still remember reading a story before, the women in it are like this, always promoting negative emotions. Obviously, the man gave her everything he had, and he doted on her very much, but she was still not satisfied. She relied on men to be fearless about her love, thinking that no man would be bored with her no matter what she was.
But until that day, the man proposed to break up with her, "With you, I had happy moments, but now I can only feel depressed, let's separate." She regretted it, but it was irreparable.
The same is true of Aunt Taixue, the ninth aunt who is favored by Lu Zhenhua in "Deep Love and Rain", she is good-looking, can act, and gave birth to a son to Lu Zhenhua.
But she was short-tempered, and she was aggressive when she spoke to her children, uneasy about the status quo, and stole people behind her back, and was kicked out of the house by Lu Zhenhua, and the final end was very miserable.
A woman with too many negative emotions hurts not only herself, but also the people who love her. So if you are in a similar situation, don't continue, try some right ways to relieve your negative emotions, and don't wait until you lose it and regret it.
2. A woman who is sensitive and suspicious and lacks trust in her partner
If a relationship wants to last for a long time, trust is the foundation and is an essential point, and the same is true in the relationship between husband and wife. If there is a lack of trust between couples, you will be suspicious of whatever the other person does.
As long as the other person behaves a little differently from the usual, you will question the other person, which will hurt the feelings between each other to a great extent, and then fall into a vicious circle, which will eventually end in separation.
The more you doubt the other person, the worse your relationship will become, and then there will inevitably be a quarrel, and then you will question the other person, "You just have a ghost in your heart, otherwise why would you quarrel with me?".So the feelings between each other are consumed little by little, and the breakdown of the marriage is the inevitable end.
I still remember watching a movie "Wuhai" before, in which the hero and heroine love each other very much, and entered the palace of marriage under the witness of relatives and friends, but after really entering the marriage, all kinds of contradictions followed.
Especially in men's careers, there have been huge changes, after the failure of investment, women become more and more suspicious of each other, do not believe in his ability, see his mobile phone with other women's photos, make up the story of betrayal, forced him to confess the facts.
The man not only has to worry about his career, but also faces the suspicion of his wife, he is tortured and exhausted, and then he also begins to suspect women because of some clues. At the end of the movie, the man doesn't stand the humiliation and drives his wife off a cliff.
In fact, the sense of security is more for yourself, don't doubt the other party because of a little thing, and do something irreparable. You can hold the attitude of "make bold assumptions and carefully verify" and act calmly, which will avoid some unwarranted misunderstandings, which is beneficial to the relationship.
3. A woman who wants too much and cares too much about gains and losses
Everyone has their own life, there are good places and bad places, as long as they live happily, it is enough, there is no need to worry too much. But some women want too much, see other people's lives are good, envy, they want it too, and unconsciously will compare, often put such words on their lips, "Look at other people's husbands, handsome, and make money, and then look at you, except for the increasing meat on the belly, there is nothing." ”
Life is your own, it is enough to live your own life, there is no need to be too demanding. It is true that people go to higher places, and if they want to make life better, their ideas are also good, but they must also do what they can. When you blindly compare, you are actually invisibly belittling men, which will hurt the man's self-esteem and affect the relationship between husband and wife.
Besides, between husband and wife, no one should pay for whom, if you want to make your life better, you can work your own, don't blindly ask each other, and don't use the way to motivate men, which will hurt the feelings of husband and wife.