Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a mutual process, as the saying goes, the first ten years to see the mother-in-law, the next ten years to see the daughter-in-law, this sentence has a lot of truth.
However, there are many people who don't understand this truth, so it has led to frequent conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
My husband and I have been married for five years, and during these five years, although my relationship with my husband is very good, and we both respect each other, there is one thing that bothers me very much, that is, the relationship between me and my mother-in-law is not so harmonious.
In the final analysis, it is also because my mother-in-law has always been indifferent to me.
When my husband and I got married, my mother-in-law didn't buy anything for me, and my husband and I only got married to a small house in my hometown, and later, as my husband's career got better and better, we both bought a house in the local county.
Normally, as a mother-in-law, even if you can't afford it financially, you should care more about your son and daughter-in-law in your daily life, but my mother-in-law is not like this, and I haven't felt my mother-in-law's care since I married my husband for so long.
Since moving to a new house, my husband always wants to go home, so I go back with my husband, but every time I go back, no matter how late it is, my mother-in-law has never cooked, and after returning to my mother-in-law's house, either my husband and I will have a casual meal or go to a restaurant to eat.
Sometimes I have heard my husband tell my mother-in-law that he wants her to cook at home and wait for us, however, my mother-in-law says that she is always busy and does not have time to cook.
Of course, whether I cook or not is only one aspect, but more importantly, I always feel that in my mother-in-law's heart, the status of me and my husband is not so important.
To be honest, my mother-in-law, as an elder, should have a leading role in many aspects, and my mother-in-law will only increase the conflict between me and her.
Seeing that my mother-in-law didn't care much about us many times, I thought at the time that since my mother-in-law did this, then when she was older, I would not provide for her old age.
I didn't tell my mother-in-law what I was going to do, but when I talked to my husband about it, I told her what I was thinking, and she told her exactly what I was thinking.
Since then, I can clearly feel that my mother-in-law cares about me a lot, and in normal times, my mother-in-law will also care about me, and sometimes, my mother-in-law will bring me some special products from my hometown to eat.
At first, I didn't know what was going on, but later I realized that it was all my husband's fault.
In fact, I also understand that in my mother-in-law's heart, I am also so indifferent to my husband, but I said that, when you are old, I will not provide for the elderly, maybe this sentence is what the mother-in-law really cares about, because at the current mother-in-law's age, in a few years, her side will need me to take care of it, if the time comes, I really like I said, will not provide for the mother-in-law, I am afraid that at that time the mother-in-law will regret it even more.
So at this time, after my mother-in-law heard my opinion, she would immediately correct it, every time I went home, my mother-in-law would also cook a meal, waiting for me at home, to be honest, I feel that all this is developing in a good direction, if my mother-in-law can always care more about me, when she is old, I will also support the elderly.