I've always felt that every INFP needs to be read and must be read.
Through reading, INFPs can find themselves, tap into their potential, and support their creativity to grow.
For INFP, there is an ideal fire within him, and he naturally likes to be alone. But in reality, the true self is too easily constrained, and the path it takes seems to be difficult.
Every INFP who is mired in internal friction, low self-esteem, and lack of subjectivity does not seem to have strong enough external forces to support his slow growth.
He had no choice but to save himself.
To complete salvation and move towards the "higher level", INFPs must learn to read, learn to be with books when they are alone, so as to strengthen their ideals, develop their potential, and shape their uniqueness day after day.
2. Sober and powerful personality.
It is only through the examination and training of reading that INFPs can truly strengthen the courage to shape themselves and grow themselves.
Psychologist Rollo. What May says: What we lack in our time is an understanding of the friendly, warm, tangible, unique, constructive courage that Socrates or Spinoza possessed. We need to restore an understanding of the positive aspects of courage – courage as an intrinsic aspect of growth, courage as a constructive way of personal self-growth.
Every INFP is inseparable from the support of courage, which is the inner strength of being alone from time to time, constantly reflecting, and gradually strengthening ideals and love.
I guess this is also the feeling that I was lucky enough to encounter 50 books in the whole year of 2024.
1 "How to excel in your field" Robert. Green
One should learn to discover and pay attention to the glimmer of wisdom that flashes in the depths of one's own heart, rather than looking for brilliance in the sky of poets and sages.
2 "Time Management" Jim. Randall
Clear your mind and good things will happen. I want to do very little, but I will get more, and I always want to do more in a limited time, but I can't do anything.
3 The Quest for Secrets*
Troubles and pains are all self-inflicted. Originally, life was very simple, and the material things were very simple, but they all created so many hardships for themselves.
4 "A Beautiful World".
It's better to love than not to love, it's better to love someone than not to love anyone, I'm here, living in this world, and I don't want to be alive for a moment.
5 "Distant Savior" Doudou
A strong culture is a culture that follows the laws of things, and a weak culture is a culture that relies on the moral expectations of the strong to obtain exceptions, and it is also a culture that expects a savior.
The strong culture is called the "cheats" in martial arts, and the weak culture has become a popular variety because it is easy to learn, understand, and use.
6 "The Anxious Man" Frederick. Buckman (Sweden).
If you can only learn the truth about something or something by reading reviews, you will probably never form your own opinion about anything.
7 "List of Life" Frederick. Buckman (Sweden).
We can't know when love will bloom, until one day, you wake up and find that it has bloomed, and it is also this virtue that the flower of love has withered - suddenly one day, you realize that it is too late.
In this regard, love and balcony plants have similar Xi.
8 "My Genius Girlfriend 1" Elena. Ferrante [Italy].
Lila doesn't stay the same, sooner or later she'll break it all again.
9 "Becoming Beauvoir" Kate. Kirkpatrick
In his diary, Beauvoir told himself to be yourself, not to chase the goals imposed on you by the outside world, and not to blindly follow the established social structure. What works for me is what works, so it's fine.
10 Siddhartha, Hesse
A seeker, Siddhartha, is often concerned only with what is being sought. He got nothing, he got nothing. Because he is bent on seeking, and he is swayed by the purpose. Seeking means having a purpose. Discovery, on the other hand, means freedom, openness, and aimlessness. Venerable, you may indeed be an explorer. But you're trying to pursue your goals and you're missing out on what's in front of you. ”
11 "Happiness as I Understand It" Russell
The higher we climb the social ladder, the more intense the pursuit of excitement becomes, and the less stimulation there is, resulting in a pathological craving;Too much stimulation and exhaustion. Therefore, the ability to endure boredom is necessary for a happy life and is one of the many things that should be taught to young people.
Every great work contains a dull part, and every great life contains a dull effort.
12 "Another Kind of Genius: Finding Your Extraordinary Hidden Talent" Chaisang
In fact, you are not very unhappy when you have something at hand, but the boredom and continuous depravity caused by idleness are the most devastating.
13 "Flow" Mihali
Nietzsche wrote when discussing how man can live to the extreme:
My prescription for greatness is "love destiny", that is, do not seek differences, do not seek progress, do not seek backwards, do not seek immortality......It's not just about enduring the inevitable ......It's about loving it......I want to gradually learn to appreciate the beauty of the necessity of things, so that I can become a person who makes beautiful things.
14 "Four Hour Workweek" Ferris
The limiting thinking we've broken down is, "Work smarter, not harder, and don't let yourself get bogged down in false busyness." Because all actions that are not thought about and chosen will constantly bring mediocrity and countless complaints and negative internal friction. ”
15 "Your Laziness Grieves My Heart: Fitzgerald's Letter to His Daughter" Fitzgerald
You must devote your most energy to the things that will enable you to live a happy and rewarding life.
If you don't do it now, wait for when.
16 "The Art of Observation" Rob. Walker
The whole point of life is to get the most out of the outside world as much as you can. Everything in the world is done with care. Your attention is your life force. It connects you to others and makes you feel craved. Always be hungry.
17 "Beyond the Impossible" Stephen. Kotler
Train your core strengths, those achievements that you are proud of, that have had the greatest positive impact on your life, analyze them, and look for all the key forces that will help you achieve victory.
18 "The Miracle of Early Rising" Howl. Elrod
Enthusiasm is the fuel that supports you to complete the journey. Having enthusiasm means having the courage to inspire yourself to work hard and continue to improve.
Without passion, it is difficult to persevere in the pursuit of wealth for a long time.
19 "Simple Things" Guo Junjie
In our time, many people have good material consumption power, which will also derive spiritual needs, and because of this, many products should be attached to the rendering of spirit and emotion on the basis of pragmatism.
20 "The Giant's Way" Tim. Phyris
If you can survive when you have nothing, the experience will pay off.
21 "Bullet Notes" Ryder. Carol
Many painters are afraid of blank canvases, but blank canvases are also afraid of painters who dare to break the spell of "you can't". - Vincent. Sanskrit. High.
Don't let fear take your life.
22 "The Psychology of the Intelligent," David. McLenny
In fact, you are very bad at making a personal mental state in the future. You are also not good at making choices between the present and the future.
On an evolutionary level, it's important to bet on the real "now".
23 "Love and Years: Love in Psychoanalysis" by Stephen. a.Mitchell
Romance is soul-stirring, making people feel even more vivid, profound, and exciting how "alive" is. However, romance will gradually decline because it is driven by idealization. As the name suggests, idealization is illusory.
We fall in love under the magic of fantasy, but time is the enemy of romance, and it brings real and inevitable disillusionment.
Romance is like fireworks in the night, it is exciting, but it is inevitably fleeting, only by simply accepting it, free and easy, we will survive.
24 "Insight: The Art of Precise Observation and Effective Communication" Amy. Herman
Psychologist Nilangana Dasgupta affirms that if we reconstruct our environment, leaving behind stereotyped associations and turning our surroundings into an egalitarian one, then those improvements we make will quickly form, and we will quickly change.
25 "The Autobiography of Benjamin" Benjamin. Franklin
It is very convenient to be a rational animal, because if man wants to do something, it will always make him find a reason or create a reason.
26 "An Invitation to Existential Psychology," Owen. Yaron
Psychology is not just used to diagnose maladjustment and mental illness.
Psychology must also show people how it is possible to build a more authentic life, gain a more energetic feeling, create more happiness, experience love, and accept the good and the bad in their own lives.
27 "The Death of Eros" Han Byung-chul
The most basic condition of pure love: it requires a person to have the courage to eliminate the ego in order to be able to discover the existence of the other.
28 "The Giant's Tools" Tim. Ferris
Don't overestimate the figures on the altar.
Once you discover the simple fact that your so-called "life", everything around you, is made up by people who are not much smarter than you, then your life will become much bigger.
You can change it, influence it, create something of your own, and let people use it.
29 "The Art of Writing: The Art of Nonfiction Writing" William. Zinther
A creator does not just use words to relieve emotions and entertain himself, what he needs is to use clever brushstrokes and some poetic language to give real vitality to what he sees, hears, feels and thinks. It can make some people resonate and set off a little ripple in the hearts of others.
30 "Note-taking Thinking" Huang Zhongyi
The most valuable thing about collecting information is not the information itself, but the inspiration, imagination, and extension of what you have been inspired by.
31 "The Artist of Life" Bruce Lee
Life is vast and unlimited—it has no boundaries and no borders.
32 "Antifragile" Daniel. Garnier
When you're vulnerable, you tend to stick to the rules and minimize change – because change often does more harm than good, which is why fragile things need a clear approach, and conversely, the system can only bring vulnerability.
If you want to make a change and don't care about the multiple possibilities of future outcomes, thinking that most outcomes will be in your favor, then you have an antifragility feeling.
33 "Valuable Life Advice" Kevin. Kelly
What kind of person you are depends on what you do. It's not about what you say, it's not about what you believe in, who you vote for, it's about what you spend your time on.
34 The Paris Review: Interviews with Women Writers, The Paris Review, USA
The first thing a writer has to do is to seriously "interact" with what is written on paper. When people are fully engaged in what they write, amazing changes happen – the ideas come to a well, and the pen comes to life. – Robinson.
35 "Think Like a Rocket Scientist" Ozan. Varol Thinking, Cognition
We're looking for formulas, shortcuts, and shortcuts. Over time, we lose the ability to live with the unknown.
36 "Quiet" Irene. Karg
When we are exposed to silence, our wisdom and thinking stretch.
37 "The Wisdom of Life" Schopenhauer
Subjective factors are far more important than objective factors in determining the happiness and happiness of human beings.
38 "The Art of Love" Fromm
Love is a personal experience that each person can only have through and for himself.
39 "Acceptance: Moving Flexibly in a Hard World" Ashley. Davis. Bush
Embracing life's infinite possibilities means being curious and open to the future, and saying to yourself, "This is the reality I already have – what's next?".”
We may not be able to control the specific events of our lives, but we can control our attitude of acceptance.
40 "The Arrogance of the Elite" Michael. Sandel
Meritocracy erodes the public good, and it leads to the arrogance of the victors and the humiliation of the losers.
It encourages successful people to become deeply obsessed with their own success, helping to forget about the timing and good results of helping them along the way, while also leading them to despise those who are less fortunate and less qualified than themselves.
As a result, meritocracy fosters antagonism and resentment between classes.
41 Making Consumers: A Global History of Consumerism Anthony. Galluzzo
Advertising sells not only luxury and prestige, but also romance.
42 "Miss Pear Gets Along with Herself" White
Monthly salaries can manipulate people like drugs, and it is a very mature domestication system.
43 "Man's Self-Seeking" Rollo. May
We are anxious because we don't know what kind of role we should aspire to, what kind of behavioral principles we should believe. Our personal anxiety is a bit like our nation's anxiety, it is a basic confusion and confusion about where we should go.
44 "On the Transience of Life," Seneca
Life is a service. All you can do is adapt more, complain less, and try to grasp the other benefits that life has to offer: no matter how difficult the circumstances, a healthy mind will definitely find solace in them.
As long as the planning is reasonable, no matter how small the area is, it can be dismantled for multiple purposes.
45 "Life is Action" Krishnamurti
Love is not an idea, love is a direct action. When you hold an idea, when you hold all kinds of ideas about love—how it should be, how it shouldn't—love ends, it's just a process of thinking.
46 "You Will Be Your Own Light" Krishnamurti
We are so conditioned by the old that we are unable to perceive the way into the new.
47 "Millionaire's Fast Track" mjDeMarco
Focus, dedication, and self-discipline are what make life great.
45 "Think Like a Master" Jay. Shetty
We've wasted a lot of time and energy trying to stay in the comfort ecosystem we've built. We are afraid of the pressures and challenges that come with change.
However, it is precisely these pressures and challenges that make us stronger.
46 "The Subconscious and Spiritual Growth" Jung
When great changes occur in real life, we should not stick to the old experience, nor can we deny everything by giving up on ourselves, but should have a new understanding of the surrounding environment and ourselves according to the current actual situation, and then reconstruct the correct world view and values.
47 "The Psychology of Money: The Eternal Truth About Wealth, Human Nature, and Happiness" Morgan. Hauser
Accept that things are constantly changing, and act as quickly as possible when you need to adapt.
48 "Burnout Society" Han Byung-chul
People should learn not to react immediately when stimulated, but to have the instinct to stop and isolate."
Mental deprivation and vile behaviour are due to the "inability to resist the effects of stimuli" and the inability to refuse stimulus responses.
Reacting immediately, responding to every stimulus impulse, is already a disease, a regression, a sign of fatigue, exhaustion.
49 "The Philosophy of Life of Cats and Dogs" Simple Psychology
Be gentle, patient, and caring with yourself, so that you will be able to be gentle enough to others.
50 "Becoming a Dark Horse: The Best Way to Succeed in Your Personal Age" by Todd. Ross
If you stick to a straight and narrow path, you'll miss out on many opportunities that are more suitable for you.
Documenting my romantic life