In recent years, a new type of unfilial piety has become increasingly common among young people, especially among college students. This phenomenon is manifested in the fact that some university graduates choose to rely on their parents for long periods of time, are overly comfortable at home, and are reluctant to integrate into social work under the pretext of preparing for public service or graduate school. This kind of behavior has brought a series of troubles and helplessness to parents. Some parents may not realize that this phenomenon can have a negative impact on their child's growth and independence. They may think that this is a way for children to plan for their own future, and that they should be supported and understood.
However, people are beginning to realize the negative impact that this kind of "gnawing at the old" behavior can bring about and a waste of social resources. The longer this phenomenon persists, the greater the obstacle to the individual's self-development. This has led to questions and criticism from society, which believes that this kind of behavior is not only a waste of social resources, but also an obstacle to the growth and development of individuals. The need for career planning and psychological counseling for college students is also becoming more and more prominent.
Recently, a mother's breakdown** went viral on the Internet. She publicly appealed to her biological son, saying that if he had not yet settled and planned for the civil service examination, she would decide to sever the mother-son relationship with him. The mother recounted in detail what happened to her son since he graduated from college. It is understood that it has been three years since his son graduated from college, and he has always claimed to be preparing for the civil service exam at home, but he has never succeeded. The mother finally found the time to have a morning conversation with her son, and advised the college student son to go outside, because although the life in the small county town is comfortable, it is limited after all.
The awakening of this mother is touching, she does not take the future of her children completely into her own hands, as some old-fashioned parents do. Sadly, however, the son did not live up to the expectations of this enlightened mother. It is said that my son studied computer science during college, and it should not be difficult to find a suitable job, and then hone it while preparing for the civil service exam, so that he will not be completely divorced from modern life. But now that he's almost 30 years old, he doesn't even have a clear plan, does he treat his biological parents as an endless ATM?Besides, parents will grow old one day and it is impossible to take care of college students for the rest of their lives. The mother mentioned that she saw that the child next door was 25 years old and already had two children, which was enviable. And her college student's son is still defending himself, always trying to find an excuse to delay. Mother finally couldn't take it anymore and said, if you don't go out, we'll move out to work. What's the difference between you and the waste?
It is surprising that many people have expressed understanding and support for this mother, believing that she is doing the right thing and that college students should not be allowed to grow old comfortably at home and waste precious time.
Parents need to be sensitive to the behaviour of college students preparing for the civil service exam to get a more complete picture of their child's condition.
First of all, if a college student is addicted to recreational activities for a long time, such as excessive gaming games, indulging in social**, and neglecting normal Xi and exam preparation progress, it is likely to be a sign of escape. Parents should pay attention to their child's Xi attitude and time management to ensure that they are focused on the preparation process.
Second, if college students show signs of feeling down, lacking motivation, and lacking planning for the future, it could mean that they are running away from facing real-world challenges in their careers and lives. At this time, parents need to communicate with their children, understand their inner feelings, and give necessary support and guidance.
In addition, the lack of self-discipline at home and the failure to establish a good Xi and lifestyle Xi habits are also a sign of concern. This could mean that they don't really face the pressure of preparing for exams. Parents can help their children establish clear goals and plans, and monitor their execution to help them develop a positive attitude towards Xi learning.
Finally, if college students rely too much on their parents and lack independent thinking for their future development, they may be evading their independent responsibilities as adults. Parents should help their children better understand the importance of career choices and encourage them to face various challenges in society positively.
Through observation and care, parents can better understand the real state of college students when they prepare for the civil service exam, so as to avoid them missing out on opportunities for growth and development due to avoidance. Establishing good communication channels and stimulating your child's inner motivation will help shape their attitude towards the future.
To sum up, the emergence of a new type of unfilial piety has aroused widespread concern in the society. Dependence on parents for a long time and lack of positive integration into social work have brought helplessness and distress to parents. Parents need to be sensitive to the signs of escapism and give the necessary support and guidance. By establishing good communication channels, stimulating children's inner motivation and helping them face the future positively, they can grow and develop better.