In recent years, the phenomenon of college students "gnawing the old" has aroused widespread controversy and concern in society. There is a stark case of a mother who issued a strong statement to sever the mother-son relationship after a big quarrel with her son, which aroused the support of a large number of netizens. This incident once again put the behavior of college students who rely on their parents and do not actively integrate into social work on the cusp. This phenomenon not only brings distress and frustration to parents, but can also have a negative impact on children's growth and independence. This article will explore this phenomenon and give advice to parents when facing such situations.
The phenomenon of "gnawing the old" has always existed, but in recent years it has been particularly obvious among college students. After graduation, college students often choose to return home to continue to rely on their parents, and find various reasons as excuses, especially choosing to prepare for the public examination or graduate school, rather than actively integrating into social work. This kind of behavior has brought a series of distress and helplessness to parents.
In order to better understand this phenomenon, we might as well consider several aspects. First of all, modern society has higher and higher requirements for college students' employment, and competition has become more intense. In the face of employment pressure and uncertainty, some college students choose to return to their home and rely on their parents, feeling more secure at home. Secondly, preparing for the public exam or pursuing graduate school has become an excuse that some college students find for themselves. They may want to avoid the pressure of employment and social competition in these ways, hoping to achieve a more stable and comfortable life. However, this choice often disconnects them from society and deprives them of the opportunity to interact with society and the real work environment.
For parents, in the face of their children's choice to prepare for the civil service exam at home, they should not only be understood and supported, but also limited and guided. In this process, parents need to pay attention to the following aspects.
1. Be keenly aware of the signs of children's behavior
First of all, parents must be keenly aware of their children's behavior and psychological changes at home, and observe whether there is escapism and negative attitudes towards social work. They may become addicted to recreational activities, such as excessive gaming, socializing**, and neglecting their normal academic and exam preparation progress. Parents can detect these signs in time through communication and observation with their children and take corresponding measures.
2. Provide necessary support and guidance
If parents find that their child is escaping from reality and lacking motivation for future planning, they should communicate with them in a timely manner to understand their inner feelings and provide necessary support and guidance. Parents can help their children establish clear goals and plans, guide them in planning their career paths, and supervise and help them build positive academic Xi and life Xi.
3. Encourage children to face real-world challenges
When educating their children, parents should encourage them to face real-world challenges and cultivate their independent thinking skills and ability to adapt to society. By guiding their children to understand the importance of career choices and providing them with certain psychological counseling, they can better understand that preparing for the civil service exam is not only a stable career choice, but also a response to social competition.
When the mother publicly expressed her decision to sever the mother-son relationship with her son, it was surprising that many people expressed their understanding and support for her. They believe that this choice is a warning to the irresponsible behavior of college students, and it is also the responsibility and attitude of parents. They believe that college students aimlessly "gnawing at the old" at home will only waste social resources and hinder the self-development of individuals. In this process, the demand for career planning and psychological counseling for college students has gradually become prominent.
However, there are still those who question and have diametrically opposed views about the mother's approach. They believe that family relationships should be based on mutual understanding and support, not on separation and breaking. They point out that severing the mother-child relationship will only exacerbate family conflicts and disharmony, and will not help the child's growth and development.
When looking at this phenomenon, I think parents should be understanding and supportive of their children's behavior, but also guide and limit when appropriate. Modern society has higher and higher requirements for college students' employment, and competition has become more intense, which has brought a lot of pressure and confusion to college students. On the one hand, parents can help their children clear their minds, plan for the future, and provide the necessary support and guidance. On the other hand, parents should also be keenly aware of their children's behavior changes and communicate with them in a timely manner to understand their inner feelings and confusion to better help them face real challenges.
At the same time, for college students, they should also be responsible for their own choices. Preparing for the civil service exam or pursuing graduate school may be an option for them, but it should not be an excuse for evasion and procrastination. They should strive to achieve their goals, actively integrate into social work, and embrace challenges and opportunities. After all, growth and development is their personal responsibility and opportunity, and parents can only do a certain amount of guidance and support.
To sum up, the phenomenon of college students "gnawing the old" does exist, which brings trouble and helplessness to parents and society. Parents should maintain an understanding and supportive attitude, but also pay attention to giving guidance and restrictions in a timely manner. At the same time, students are responsible for their own choices, facing real-world challenges and pursuing personal growth and development. Only through mutual understanding, support and guidance can we help them better achieve their goals and move towards success.