Yang Jiang said: The people who are besieged in the city want to escape, and the people standing outside the city want to rush in, whether it is marriage, career, or most of the desires of life are like this.
Yesterday was the last day of 2023, and I suddenly sighed that the years are rushing and life is impermanent. The days have passed day by day, looking back on this year, many people and things around me have changed beyond recognition, and it is inevitable to sigh, the coming days are long, and live and cherish it.
Recently, I read "Pride and Prejudice" by British writer Jane Austen again, I read this book when I was in school, and I basically read it at that time, and I wondered how the title of its famous book came from
Pick up this book again, the book is not thick, the simple cover, or the way it is remembered, turned a few pages, the name in the memory slowly returned to the mind, five daughters to be married, with distinct personalities, especially the second daughter Elizabeth's love road is more exciting, although Darcy fell in love with Elizabeth Bennet at first sight, but because Elizabeth heard that he was an arrogant person, he stayed away from him, and was prejudiced from the bottom of his heart, and Darcy put Eliza as lively and lively during the day. The straightforward character is regarded as a frivolous and rude person herself, and because of these misunderstandings and prejudices between each other, their stories are more interesting, and their mood rises and falls as the story progresses.
Later, they realized that their view of each other was wrong, and the happy couple eliminated the estrangement, arrogance and prejudice between the two, and the lovers eventually became a family and came together, and finally achieved a beautiful love story, making the reader happy and gratified.
After reading their stories, I am very skeptical about love at first sight in life, and living examples are in front of me, and the stories of Cinderella and the prince can only be fairy tales.
2023 Let's turn the page My cousin is 35 years old this year, and her marriage age is 10 years old. Personal cultivation depends on herself, others can only be outsiders, watching her cry bitterly no one can save her, only a few words of comfort. I didn't listen to anyone's advice back then, and insisted on marrying after knowing each other for 2 months, and at first my life was smooth and sweet, but my cousin-in-law didn't have a job, and he also loved to drink on weekdays, and followed his father to do a small business.
Later, the small business was not easy to do, so they switched to other businesses, and this change made their family unbearable. The family's economy mainly depends on the cousin, and in the end, the cousin also has a lot of debts, and there is an endless stream of people who come to collect debts all day long, and the bank is collecting money every month, and the family conflicts are becoming more and more intense, and the cousin-in-law is drinking every night and does not go home, and quarrels have become commonplace. The cousin was worried about the impact on the child and decided to divorce, and the person in his 30s looked exhausted and sad, and decided to leave with the child when he saw that the child was in elementary school. The harvest of 10 years of marriage is a child and a debt, which is embarrassing.
Shakespeare said: A hasty marriage is less than a happy one.
My cousin said: "There was some love at first sight, I feel good, the rest is not in her consideration, I think it's all nonsense, as long as I have a job, work hard together and life will get better and better, who would have thought that life would be like this." He has also changed, he doesn't tell me a lot of things, and he no longer takes care of his family, I yell at me when I ask a few more words, and sometimes I want to do it if it wasn't for my mother-in-law. I have no hope at all, and I would rather live a hard life alone with my children than worry and anger about these things."
Now it is emphasized that women should be independent, and it is really not okay not to be independent, you don't know when it will be difficult to defeat you.
I also wondered if I was an independent womanLooking back on the past, it was basically a messy life, is there a day when you will become a cousin?
The so-called love at first sight is just a temporary attraction, no one knows whether the prince and princess live happily together, the key to whether a relationship can last is whether both parties are willing to continue to invest, manage with heart, and in the face of challenges and conflicts, whether there is enough understanding and tolerance to maintain the relationship, advance and retreat and bear together, obviously sharing weal and woe is not something that everyone can do.
No matter how marriage came about, we still have to cherish this relationship in marriage and work hard to manage this family well. 2024 is a great year!