If these people come to your house, you'd better refuse
In the social sphere, there is a widely agreed principle: when dealing with people, do foreign business, and never introduce them into the family.
It is the freedom of each of us to choose who we want to deal with, do business with, or make friends with in the outside world, and it is also a manifestation of the collective nature of human beings.
However, we need to remember that we should not introduce our temporary passers into our homes or even reveal where we live. Otherwise, these people may cause us unnecessary trouble.
External affairs are best solved externally, and external people are better off getting along externally. The family is a place of life related by blood and should not be influenced by any outsider.
Many people may question, why is it so strict?Is it really that serious to bring an outsider home?
With the complexity of the social environment and the instability of the general environment, the human heart has become elusive, and individual behavior has become complex and diverse. At this time, introducing outsiders into the family is tantamount to luring wolves into the house.
People who are as ruthless as jackals, tigers and leopards have thoughts that we cannot fully comprehend. In light of this, the most basic bottom line is not to let outsiders break into our homes.
If there are three people in the house, it will bring bitterness. For these laymen, it is better to keep them all out.
1. It is best to turn away people who have evil spirits when they come to visit.
A harmonious family needs three breaths: harmony, calmness, and tranquility.
These three breaths actually represent the "tranquility" of the home. The lack of tranquility in the family often leads to constant quarrels and a gradual deterioration in the relationship between family members.
Some people may wonder what will replace the tranquility when it disappearsThat is the "evil spirit". Once evil qi grows, the individual's temperament will change, and family members will be as easy to explode as a powder keg.
The root of evil spirit is that those who have evil spirit enter our family, which not only affects the magnetic field of the family, but also interferes with the relationship between family members, thus causing great damage to the whole family.
When it comes to the issue of the "magnetic field" of the family, we should also think about the magnetic field of the individual. The magnetic field of a family member should be harmonious and gentle, while the magnetic field of an outsider is often irritable and full of evil spirits. Therefore, we must be vigilant and not allow evil people to break into our homes.
Be careful not to let people with evil spirits go home and don't let them visit frequently. This is not indifference, but a kind of "self-preservation".
Second, it is better to keep people from "family strife" coming to visit.
As the saying goes, "Shoot yourself in the foot." ”
Those who like to stir up trouble in other people's homes are usually the "source of trouble" of strife. They are like a "dissension machine" that only brings us contradictions and resentments.
For example, some relatives who always like to "sow discord" visit our home, and they immediately start spreading "negative words" about someone, thus ruining our relationship with that person.
Once we listen to these remarks, we will have a negative view of our loved ones around us, triggering disputes within the family, and those relatives who "sow discord" will watch the excitement triumphantly from the sidelines.
These people may not benefit materially, but they do not want to see others in peace. As a result, they will do whatever it takes to sow chaos, even if it is notorious.
The family should be a place of tranquility and peace, and although there will inevitably be some conflicts, villains who advocate "family strife" should not be left at home, because they are not good people.
3. The visit of a "resentful" person may consume the happy atmosphere of the family.
There is a kind of person who makes people feel very unhappy, and that is the existence of a "resentful woman".
Moderate complaining is not a bad thing, but it can release inner dissatisfaction. But excessive complaining is harmful. Once things go to extremes, it can have a "counterproductive" effect.
Some people, while becoming mother-in-law or daughter-in-law, always like to bring some negative emotions home and "complain" or "discuss right and wrong" with so-called outsiders. That's not quite right.
Some people's complaints are snowballing. If this outsider has bad intentions, he may choose to "add fuel to the fire" and instigate you to take some radical actions.
For example, there is a family in the community, and the in-laws own tens of millions of family assets. However, their daughter-in-law took the advice of a girlfriend and decided that her husband was not worth getting along with, so she took the initiative to file for divorce. Now, she is alone and has a miserable life.
When others see that you are doing better, they will do whatever it takes to disrupt your life. If you believe in these "resentful" people, then your future days may become unbearable. Eventually, you'll regret it.
At the end of the day, there are people who are kind helpers who come to us out of a heart to help. And some are insidious villains, whose purpose is only to take revenge and hurt us, and there is no kindness at all.
As the saying goes, "It is difficult to draw a cat and a tiger, and it is difficult to draw bones, and you know people and faces, but you don't know your heart." ”
In the world, the human heart is the most elusive. Unable to ** other people's motives, what they want to achieve, and may even want to destroy other people's families.
Instead of trying to figure out the hearts of others, it is better to reduce the interaction with unnecessary outsiders.
In order to maintain the stability of the family, for the sake of the tranquility of the day, it is better not to let these people set foot in our door. Otherwise, misery will grow, blessings will be lost, and calamity may befall you unexpectedly.