When men and women travel together, there are two types of male companions who are the least popular with women: the first is the man who walks alone with a silent face from the beginning to the end of the trip;Second, there are men who are foaming at the mouth, using exaggerated words, and are overly lively and noisy throughout the whole process. Regardless of the kind of companion, his presence is a great disgust to women. And these two types of men who do not understand the female mentality, it is quite difficult to relieve the vigilance in the hearts of women.
During the journey, it is not difficult to win the favor of the female companion, just carry the luggage for the female companion naturally, and chat with her casually, and slowly approach her with a calm look when the female is lax in her vigilance. This method is gentle and does not appear artificial.
On special occasions that are different from normal times, women will quickly build a "heart wall" (defense mechanism) and adopt a cautious and fearful attitude. For example, when a child is confronted with an unfamiliar visitor, he or she will suddenly fall silent and stare at everything with wide eyes. The same is true for adults, who often feel nervous and overwhelmed when attending job interviews. The situation of women is more obvious than that of men, and women are always passive and cowardly in daily conversations or actions, so they are very sensitive to men's unnatural attitudes and behaviors, and often increase the thickness of the "heart wall" and protect themselves heavily
The most effective way to lift women's innate vigilance and dismantle the powerful barrier of the "heart wall" is to perform "as if nothing happened". A man who is engaged in psychology research once experimented with this method at a book signing meeting and was very successful. When he was publishing a new book and going to the bookstore to do ** activities, he stood at a large table piled up hundreds of books, the banner of the autograph session was waving in the wind, and the large bookstore had few people who came to ask for autographs. He then changed his strategy, scattered the books on the shelves, and broadcast them in the bookstore: "Ladies and gentlemen, it is a great honor that the author of the famous book, Mr. XX, happens to be present in our store at this moment, and if you buy his masterpiece, you can get his autograph, please seize the opportunity." And the original propaganda of the big cloth strip was replaced with a small nameplate. In an instant, an endless stream of readers, holding this friend's masterpiece, came to ask for autographs. This example is a clear proof of the "sense of nothingness" to the limit, and the barrier between the reader and the author has been skillfully removed.
Recently, many business managers have become aware of the importance of lifting customer vigilance, and have adopted a friendly and natural way of treating customers. For example, a high-end clothing store run by a young woman does not require the clerk to wear **, but goes to work in the clothes she wears every day, and approaches the customer in the most natural attitude, so as to break down the "heart wall" of the other party and remove the vigilance. The way of talking to customers is not the hypocritical and courteous of ordinary store staff, but frank and sincere, like chatting with old friends. This kind of "no effort for you to cope" store can win the trust and favor of female customers.