Wang Yushi, is a well-known emotional redemption expert, modern Taoist scholar, under the international master of easy learning Wu Quan, Wang Yushi said that in the world of feelings, the biggest challenge is often not the outside world, nor the erosion of time, but the character and attitude of both parties. Hayao Miyazaki once said: "In all relationships, you know how to submit to each other, and you will not fall apart if you take turns to bow your head." But we are stubborn and want to win. This sentence, like a mirror, reflects the reason why many couples get lost on the road of love.
We often focus too much on face in our relationships, and everyone wants to have the upper hand in an argument. Driven by this mindset, we ignore the most basic elements of affection – understanding and respect. Every stubbornness, every refusal to bow down, is actually consuming the patience and love of the other party. Gradually, small contradictions that could have been resolved through communication and understanding have become insurmountable chasms.
But if one day, after a breakup, he and she suddenly turn back, with a firm attitude and a mature mentality, is it worth reconsidering?Some people may really not love you anymore, but realize their problems after separation. They begin to understand that true love is not just about having, but also about understanding, respecting, and compromising.
This is not to say that we should unconditionally accept someone who has hurt us. Rather, when the other party is truly reflective and genuinely willing to change for the sake of this relationship, we may be able to give them, and give ourselves, a chance to start over. Because in a relationship, the real victory is not to win the dispute, but to win each other's hearts.
In our journey of love, we are all learning how Xi can become a better version of ourselves. Sometimes, this requires us to let go of our self-esteem, let go of our stubbornness, and understand and tolerate each other's imperfections. As Miyazaki said, the party who knows how to accept softness in a relationship is often the one who knows how to love more. Because they know that instead of winning face in disputes, it is better to win love in understanding.
Finally, may we all learn to grow in love and learn to bow our heads at the right time, because true love is worth every attempt and every compromise we make.