"This kneeling, family affection becomes goodbye!The woman had a conflict with her in-laws, and her mother-in-law smashed the incense burner in front of her
My name is Liu Jia and I am an ordinary housewife. My husband and I have been married for several years, and we have been living with my parents-in-law since we got married.
I was stunned, it was the first time I had seen my mother-in-law so excited in front of her. I couldn't understand that her attitude towards me had been getting colder and colder all this time, and I was also treating her with a grateful heart, but she suddenly went berserk.
I immediately felt helpless and aggrieved, this was not the family harmony I was looking for. I could feel the pain and confusion inside, not knowing what I was doing wrong.
Mother-in-law, I really don't know that you** are dissatisfied, I will try to correct it. I tried to stay calm, "If there is any misunderstanding between us, we can sit down and communicate."
But the mother-in-law seemed to be enraged, and said angrily, "You still want to explain to me?"You uncompetitive daughter-in-law, do you know what you did?You didn't educate my son well at all, you might as well do more things and discipline your children yourself!”
I was so angry with her words that my forehead was bruised, and I was furious. "Mother-in-law, I have just become a mother, and there are many things I am also learning Xi, can you understand?Did I really do something wrong?"I tried to calm myself and tried to communicate with my mother-in-law.
However, she didn't give me any chance and continued to blame me, even thinking that I was deliberately treating her badly. I felt very aggrieved and began to get angry, "How can you wronged me like this, I really just want to get along with you and be a good wife and mother."
As soon as I finished speaking, I saw my mother-in-law suddenly grab the things on the table, "You are an uncompetitive daughter-in-law, I think you are like this, do you still expect you to teach my son and grandson well?"As she spoke, she threw the incense burner in her hand at me.
I hurriedly dodged, watching the incense burner shatter, and my heart suddenly ached. I couldn't believe what was in front of me, and I couldn't accept her accusations and attacks on me.
I stood there, my palms covered in cold sweat. My mother-in-law's words and the broken incense burner made it impossible for me to endure it any longer.
I went straight to the bedroom and sat on the edge of the bed, feeling physically and mentally exhausted. I think back to all the hard work I put into my mother-in-law over the years, and I never thought that my efforts would lead to such a result.
I'm really doing my best, and I'm very thoughtful about how I educate.
While I was immersed in pain and entanglement, my husband came in. He saw that I was emotionally abnormal, "What's wrong, why are you hiding in the room alone?".He asked with concern.
I couldn't hide my feelings, so I told him what had happened. Unexpectedly, my husband didn't show anger or blame, but comforted him in a calm tone: "Mom has been a little emotionally unstable recently, so you should bear with it more."
I was very disappointed to hear that. I was even more chilled by the fact that I couldn't even get support from the people closest to me.
I packed up a few clothes and told my husband that I needed to leave for a while, and he didn't stay. I'm going to stay with a friend for a few days to calm myself down and also calm the atmosphere at home.
When I came to my friend's house, she gave me a very warm reception and asked me why I had come so suddenly.
After listening to this, she was silent for a while, and then gently comforted: "There will always be some contradictions and misunderstandings between relatives, you should first communicate with your mother-in-law, maybe the knot can be untied."
Her words gave me a glimmer of hope. Maybe I should sit down with my mother-in-law again and have a good talk, find the source of the conflict, and see if there is any misunderstanding.
I was distraught by my mother-in-law's behavior and couldn't calm down. My mother-in-law's words and actions made me feel wronged and wronged.
I stood up, holding my baby, trying to escape from the situation that was suffocating me.
Liu Jia, you stop!The mother-in-law's voice was still full of resentment.
I ignored her and headed straight for the bedroom. I need to be calm, I need to think about it all quietly. However, when I first stepped into the bedroom, I saw a sight that I couldn't believe - my wardrobe was in a mess and all my clothes were thrown on the floor.
Mother-in-law, what are you doing?!I angrily turned to face my mother-in-law.
You useless girl, you can't even do a simple housework, and you're still here to point fingers!Do you say you deserve so many clothes?The mother-in-law shouted hysterically.
I was enraged, I was angry, the hand holding the child trembled slightly. My married life has never made me so desperate as it is now.
The emotions that had been endured for a long time finally collapsed at this moment. I hugged the baby and cried loudly, asking my mother-in-law, "What did I do wrong?"I just want to be a good wife and mother, why are you doing this to me?Am I worthless if I marry into this family?”。
The mother-in-law replied, "You asked me what I did wrong?".You ask yourself, how much have you done wrong?You useless girl, you can't even raise my son, and you still come to accuse me?”
I finally understood that this was not an impulsive contradiction, but a deep-seated cognitive conflict. I began to realize that the conflict between me and my mother-in-law had existed for a long time, and it was not just because of a disagreement over household chores.
I held the child and swore in my heart that I would not run away from this conflict, and I would be brave enough to solve it.
After my mother-in-law broke the incense burner, I was stunned, feeling extremely disappointed and aggrieved. This family atmosphere weighs so heavily on me that I can't do anything about it.
Over the next few days, the atmosphere at home became even more tense. Every day, I try my best to take care of the children and do the housework, but my mother-in-law seems to be deliberately making things difficult for me.
Until one day, after my child was asleep, I came to the living room. I was about to turn on the TV to relax, but I was stunned by my mother-in-law's words.
I tried to explain myself, but my mother-in-law didn't listen at all, "You are a mother like this, no wonder the child is not good!".You're teaching bad boys!Her words made me feel very aggrieved.
Mother-in-law, I just read the news, the child is already asleep, don't worry. "I tried to stay calm.
However, my mother-in-law attacked me even more, "You just won't admit your mistake!."You surf the Internet all day, if your child has an accident, can you bear it?You're a role model for being a mom like you!”
Hearing these words, I couldn't bear it, and a nameless anger surged in my heart, "Mother-in-law, I've really tried my best, why do you always treat me like this?."Am I doing something wrong?When I said this, tears flowed uncontrollably.
My mother-in-law looked at my tears and seemed to hesitate a little, "You ......."If you say that, you prove that you still know that you are doing something wrong.
I couldn't accept her attitude, and my heart was full of grievances and helplessness. Am I really doing something wrong?My mother-in-law's attitude was extremely confusing to me.
Just as our relationship was getting more and more strained, my husband's sister suddenly came to the house as a guest. When she saw the awkward situation between us, she looked dissatisfied.
Mom, why do you always do this to your sister-in-law?She is already working hard to take care of the children and do housework at home, why do you always point fingers at her?"My husband's sister finally spoke up.
The mother-in-law smiled at her sister, "I'm for her good, how can I watch her make mistakes and not advise?."”
Mom, you also have to pay attention to ways and means, you will only push your sister-in-law tighter and tighter. Have you forgotten that you were also stupidly bullied in front of your mother-in-law back then?My husband's sister was a little dissatisfied in her tone.
The mother-in-law's face changed, but she did not speak. I was also touched by my sister's words, I don't know what my mother-in-law was like back then, but I could feel the anxiety and uneasiness in her heart, and maybe she was also full of contradictions.
I looked at the shards on the table, and my heart was filled with grief and indignation. I didn't know what I had done wrong, and I didn't understand why my mother was so indifferent to me.
I need to find a solution to all this.
After this incident, I decided to talk to my husband. I needed his support and understanding. So, when he got home from work, I started the conversation again.
I need to talk to you, my dear. Your mother has been ignoring me more and more lately, and I really don't know what I'm doing wrong.
My husband looked at me and nodded thoughtfully. "I know, I found out too. She seems to be being more you lately.
I feel a little relieved that my husband's support for me has given me some courage. "Then we should find a solution.
The husband was silent for a while, and then said, "I know you didn't mean to offend her. Maybe she's been a little stressed lately, but that's not a reason to vent it on you.
However, in the days that followed, the conversation between the husband and the mother-in-law did not play any role. The mother seems to have become more emotional and mean.
You're just a useless daughter-in-law, you can't be a person or do things!Can you make something delicious?Why can't this meal be cooked well!”。
I felt a wave of anger and grievance inside, but I struggled to control myself and didn't want to clash with her. However, she kept picking and blaming me in my ear as if she were targeting me.
Faced with my mother-in-law's attitude, I couldn't help but start to re-examine the contradictions between us. Is it because I'm not good enough at housework?Or is she just looking for me to vent her frustration?I don't know, but I have to find the answer and solve all these contradictions.
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