What is the 100 1 0 rule?If you are kind to someone ten times, he may not remember it, but once he is not happy, he thinks that you are not good to him. In this way, no matter how much you pay, it is not worth mentioning in the eyes of others.
If you treat someone well ten times, he may not remember it, but once he doesn't like it, he thinks you are not good to him. In this way, no matter how much you pay, it is not worth mentioning in the eyes of others. Therefore, at any time, there must be a bottom line for paying to people. Whether you are making friends or working together, you must see the person clearly before making friends with them, so that you will not let yourself be hurt and make real good friends.
Therefore, there must be a bottom line for people at all times. For those who don't know how to be grateful, don't connive, and don't pay for those who don't appreciate it. Here today, gone tomorrow. It will only be meaningful to give kindness to people who really deserve it.
Keigo Higashino once said that there are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart. Human nature is unfathomable, this dislike of the poor and love the rich is the reality of human nature, liking to listen to lies is the weakness of human nature, and remembering bad or good is also the evil of human nature. As the old saying goes, you can't have the heart to harm others, and you can't do without the heart to prevent people.
Human nature is that you treat him well, he takes it for granted, and his appetite will grow bigger and bigger. If you are good to him ten times, he may not remember it, but once he is not happy, he thinks that you are not good to him, so no matter how much you pay, in the end it is not worth mentioning in his eyes. Therefore, you are born as a human being, don't be too well-behaved, you can refuse what you don't want to do, and pretend not to hear if you don't like it. At any time, there must be a bottom line for paying to people, not conniving at those who don't know how to be grateful, and not paying for those who don't appreciate it. Your life is not about pleasing everyone, it's about being kind to yourself.
So remember, don't get yourself wet by holding an umbrella for someone else.
True kindness is easy-going without losing edges, soft without losing edges, the rest of your life is not long, you should be kind and powerful.
Here are some of the "honest guys" in action, see how many of them you hit?
1. Slow response, slow answering, unable to understand the meaning of others' words.
2. Others bully, will not fight back, and keep giving in.
3. When you meet someone of the opposite sex you like, you won't confess that you won't take the initiative to ask the opposite sex to eat and watch movies.
4. Speak realistically, say whatever you have, answer whatever others ask, and don't know how to detour.
5. Straight eyes, high upset others can see at a glance that they don't know how to hide their emotions and expressions, or dare not look directly into people's eyes to speak.
An honest person is good a hundred times, even if it is not good once, others may erase all your efforts, so just do your best, and leave the rest to your conscience. Life is your own, not for others to see, there is no need to care about other people's opinions, don't get lost in other people's evaluations, learn to lower expectations, and become less dependent.
To love life in the people who like you;To those who don't like you, see the world clearly.
Someone spoils you as a surprise, and it is the ability to spoil yourself, and in this life, I wish you to live a fierce life, and not be burdened by the eyes of others to live your life as you want. Leave a sentence of "live yourself" to motivate yourself, and also inspire more people to live their own lives, move forward freely, and get rid of anxiety and live leisurely.
A very touching passage: "Your goodness, others can't remember, and your mistakes will be infinitely magnified by others." So, when others say bad things about you, don't be sad in the eyes of people who don't like you, no matter how good you are, it's useless. ”
Don't be sad when others accuse you, people who don't understand you will be wrong no matter how hard you try. The fish trusts the water so much, but the water boils the fish;The leaves trust the wind so much, but the wind blows off the leaves. Between people, it all depends on one heart;Between love and affection, it is all based on a true falling leaves to know the autumn, it is difficult to know friends, life is not easy, and do it and cherish it!”
The most important thing to get along with friends is: proportion.
No matter how close friends are, they can't lose their proportions, they think they are familiar, and the result is isolated, no matter how good the relationship between people is, they must also grasp the scale, there is no sense of proportion, it is a taboo in interpersonal communication, and the best way for people to get along with each other is not to distinguish between you and me, but to be familiar and not to exceed the rules.
We often say that we must pay attention to the heat when making soup, if the heat is not enough, it is difficult to adjust the mouth, and after the heat is over, things will be burned, and this heat is the degree, and only by grasping the degree can we maintain a relationship. Many times, when we get along with others, it is not that we don't know how to be close, but we don't know how to be estranged, blurring the boundaries between ourselves and others, which leads to the relationship becoming weaker, and the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water.
There is a degree of intimacy, and there is peace between far and near.