In the work "Do You Know", Lin Hanshuang disguised herself as an infatuated woman, claiming that she would not become a serious lady, but chose to become Sheng Hong's concubine. She has deep feelings for Sheng Hong, and before she was taught by Mama Kong, Sheng Hong liked Lin Hanshuang's approach very much, and always agreed to her every request, which made her fall into deep tenderness.
In ancient times, Lin Hanshuang decided not to become an official lady, but chose to become Sheng Hong's concubine. This practice was accepted in ancient times, because in ancient times, men had a legal right to take concubines. But now, Lin Hanshuang's practice is not only based on moral considerations, but is also regarded as a legal act.
Although it is inappropriate to put the lady of the main room aside instead of doing small things in the current situation, her notion of choosing a partner, even in the moment, is very correct.
I revisited the original book, and after thinking about it carefully, I realized that Lin Shaoshuang did not choose to be her main lady, but chose to become Sheng Hong's concubine, which incorporated her three-point view of mate selection, even in the current situation, this is a choice worth considering.
Lin Hanshuang, she deeply understands the pain of poverty.
Although Lin Hanshuang was once the daughter of the official family, when she was seven years old, her home was seized. She never enjoyed a decent day of living, and her mother did not have any calculations and relied entirely on pawns to make ends meet.
At that time, her mother always lamented that she had not been able to marry into a good family, and that she was obviously a little sister playing with her, and some people enjoyed prosperity and wealth, while others were so poor that they didn't even care about her mother's family.
Before her mother died, she was sent to the Sheng Mansion and hoped that the old lady of the Sheng family would accept her. Although the old lady of the Sheng family did not have much friendship with Lin Hanshuang's mother, there were only a few brief contacts between them.
It's just that her mother feels helpless and hopes that the old lady of the Sheng family will adopt her poor daughter. At that time, the old lady of the Sheng family saw that this little girl was also pitiful, so she took her into her own house, planning to wait for her to grow up, find a good family, add a dowry, and marry out, which is considered a good thing.
However, Lin Hanshuang really felt very scared. So, when she first stepped into the mansion, she was fascinated by the fine gardens, the fine furnishings, and the satin feathers of the four seasons. She never imagined that in this world, there would be such a rich life and a superior lifestyle.
At that time, Sheng Hong was both handsome and educated, which led her to other ideas.
Therefore, when she felt poor and scared, she wished to stay in the Sheng Mansion. For her, being big and small is not the most important thing, what really matters is to have such wealth and status, so that she will not have any worries in life.
In fact, in modern society, many young women want their men to buy real estate and cars before marriage to ensure stability throughout their lives. Today's property and vehicle situation are the same as the wealth and status that Lin Hanshuang once pursued, because she knows that the true meaning of marriage does not lie in emotional satisfaction, but in the difficulties faced by poor couples.
In fact, Lin Hanshuang has a very deep understanding of money.
Since she was once poor, she knew the importance of money in her life and understood that in this world, no money was absolutely unacceptable.
The old lady of the Sheng family was born in the Hou Mansion, and she married the old lady of the Sheng family for true love, but in the end, she lost her life alone. Her death is her betrayal of love and her betrayal of marriage. However, the old lady of the Sheng family has the potential to combine with love, and since she is the only daughter of Yong Yi Hou, she has a noble identity and family background, so she can give everything for love without hesitation.
However, Lin Xuanshuang does not agree with the saying "It is easy to find priceless treasures, but it is difficult to find a lover". She knew that her fate was tragic, because her whole life was spent in the process of making wedding clothes for others, and she was a very traditional person, and she had been guarding such a marriage all her life. So, in the past, the old lady arranged for her some young people in the pure and unmlawless "Farming House", but she did not develop any interest in them.
She felt that the old lady's life was not easy and would not provide her with any dowry. But in fact, Lin Xinshuang doesn't have much understanding of this. Even though the old lady looks poor on the surface, it is actually because of deep emotions that hurt her heart. At that time, the dowry prepared for her by the old lady was also very rich.
However, despite this, I don't think Lin Hanshuang would have chosen to marry someone like that because she has a very deep understanding of money.
She recalled that when she first came to the Sheng family, the clothes she wore were not even as good as a servant, which filled her heart with pain. "I lived very hard at home, and every day before I could eat a bowl, I was called away, and I didn't know that I was poor until I ate, so I felt very inferior. "The monthly income of a widow is only six or seven cents and one or two cents, but the girl in the Sheng Mansion has as much as eight cents of silver per month.
She once told Mo Lan: "The jacket you are wearing is worth fifty or sixty taels, and the silver silk charcoal you make with your own hands costs two taels of silver and one catty, plus your daily diet and clothing, how can these children afford it?"”
Lin Maimaishuang had the opportunity to personally witness the characteristics of "poor scholars".
In the work "Do You Know", Sun Zhigao is a poor scholar married to Sheng Shulan, the eldest house of the Sheng family, which left a deep impression. He was poor, frustrated, and lacked talent. After Shulan married him, life was not satisfactory. Fortunately, Shulan later chose to divorce, because the Sheng family had enough financial resources to make it difficult for her daughter to live in an ordinary family.
However, Lin Hanshuang really witnessed Sun Zhigao's "poor scholar" characteristic, which is also the reason why she later became disgusted with "poor scholars".
One of Ms. Lin's cousins was married to a poor scholar who had hoped that she would be able to make a name for herself in the future. But not only was the scholar able to write two unsatisfactory essays, but he also failed in both the imperial examinations and business activities, and everything at home and outside the home depended on her cousin's arrangement and arrangement. She shared many hardships with her husband, bore him a child, and saved up acres of land for him.
That year, when the crop yield increased slightly, the poor scholar wanted to take a concubine, but her cousin refused, so she was criticized every day for being unvirtuous and even almost fired. Later, her cousin learned that Naxiu was a profiteer, and he wanted to sell her to that talented man as his wife, but he was afraid that he would be killed. Eventually, her cousin couldn't stand it anymore and let the concubine in, but it didn't take long for her to be, and the few children she left behind were also bullied. The poor scholar was a scholar, and in his days outside, in addition to reading and writing, he drank and chatted with the children of those poor families, and the most he said was those words. At first, when the scholar himself came to the door to propose marriage, his words were garish, full of the virtues and words of the saint, and he used the piano and song to show respect, but in the end it became empty words.
Therefore, Lin Maimaishuang is not optimistic about those poor scholars. She had rejected the equally poor scholars whom the old lady had introduced her. Later, Sheng Hong chose Wen Yanjing for Mo Lan. When he learned that Wen Yanjing was also a poor scholar, Lin Maimaishuang was very reluctant in his heart.
Sheng Shulan married a poor scholar and became his main room.
Lin Hanshuang's cousin married a poor scholar and became his main room.
In the end, Sheng Shulan ended up and left the scene, but Lin Hanshuang's cousin was so angry that she died directly.
If Sheng Shulan loses the support of her mother's family, she may end up being tortured beyond recognition by Sun Xiucai.
Therefore, Lin Hanshuang raised the question: "Do poor young people really have noble morals?"”
Therefore, she later expressed this opinion to Mo Lan: "Aren't women dependent on men all their lives?Men tend to be weak and incompetent, and even the strongest women have a hard time straightening their backs. This is my belief that no matter how old or young you are, as a husband, you must have excellent moral character, deep affection and outstanding talents, and be able to provide the necessary support and shelter for the family. Follow your father, although he is only a concubine, there is no need to worry or be afraid too much, at least there should be a stable living environment and a reliable child.
Although Lin Hanshuang's final fate was not satisfactory, her fate was not because she chose Sheng Hong, but because she chose Sheng Hong, which allowed her to enjoy more than ten years of good times, and her children finally found support.
Because Sheng Hong is the child of the concubine, and he himself is the child of the concubine. As a result, he has a deep understanding of the life dilemmas faced by concubines and concubines.
Therefore, he not only provided Lin Hanshuang with silver, but also allocated Zhuangzi from the family estate as her personal assistant. Although Lin Hanshuang is only a concubine, her daily living expenses are no problem at all. In addition to her monthly living expenses, she has her own farmland and shop, and has her own independent economy**.
In addition, because Sheng Hong was a concubine when he was young, he was often neglected and abused by his servants, so he occasionally visited Lin Mai Pulse Cream. If there was a servant in the family who was too harsh on his concubines and concubines, he would not hesitate to sell them.
Sheng Hong decided to let Lin Hanshuang raise his child alone, and did not hand over the child to his main family, but gave her more care and care. Even a daughter like Rulan didn't get too much pampering from Sheng Hong when she was a child, on the contrary, more of her care and love focused on Lin Hanshuang's two children.
Regarding Changfeng's education, he completely followed the standards of Changbai, the legal heir. Regarding Mo Lan's marriage issue, he also thought it through, and finally chose Wen Yanjing, who was of noble character. However, Mo Lan later became dissatisfied with Wen Yanjing and did some things in order to marry the Gao family.
Sheng Hong sincerely loves Lin Hanshuang, and Lin Hanshuang's choice to marry him is also a blessing, but Lin Hanshuang seems to be too greedy and not satisfied with this. In order to allow her daughter to climb to a higher status, she did not hesitate to let Mo Lan take risks, even at the expense of damaging the reputation of the entire family. In the end, she had a fierce conflict with Sheng Hong, revealing her true colors, and even lost the relationship between her husband and wife.
I have never agreed with Lin Hanshuang's view that she chose to become someone else's concubine because she didn't want to be a big lady outside, but I have a positive attitude towards her three views on mate selection.
The first thing to be clear is: marriage is part of everyday life, and the financial capacity of the partner is crucial to this.
Marriage means that two people live together, since it is for life, then what is involved is daily ingredients such as firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, which of them is free?
Therefore, in a relationship, we can not take anything to heart, but marriage is a realistic choice. The financial situation of the partner is something that we must take into account, because real life does not end with simple satisfaction. In this world, there are many poor couples who have experienced countless hardships, and like the old lady of the Sheng family, they will all end up tragically. She herself deeply regretted it, so later she would tell Minglan that she should not go her own way.
Why do so many people think that marriage is the end of love?Once you get married, you have to think about it, and you will find that almost all of your life is spent spending money instead of falling in love. In fact, most of the reasons for this have to do with money. I'm not emphasizing what high marriage is, but I really hope that women can deeply understand the value of money in marriage.
In fact, in this world, most of the troubles faced by ordinary people can be solved by money.
The second point is that if you marry lower, men are likely to value you more.
For some unknown reason, many women feel that marrying lower will lead to a straight body, while men are more inclined to care more about you, so that life in your in-laws' family will become more comfortable. This view is not only accepted by many girls, but also by many parents.
In the TV series "Know", Yong Yihou's only daughter, the old lady of the Sheng family, Sheng Shulan and Lin Maimaishuang, have a cousin role. All three women were daughters of high-ranking families. Which of them is not married lower. They are all nobles. In addition, the old lady of the Sheng family is the only daughter of Yongyi Hou, and her identity and status are so noble and honorable. Her maiden family is dignified enough, and her waist is solid. But in the end, she did not suffer such a tragic fate, the relationship between the husband and wife broke down, her young son was killed, and she spent the rest of her life alone in this mansion. If it weren't for the help of Minglan and Changbai, the old lady's life might have been disappointing.
Therefore, when girls are choosing a husband, they value not the other person's financial situation, but their qualities.
The third point: marrying an incompetent man is not a wise choice, but a truly capable man should be chosen.
The word "capable" here does not mean that the man has extraordinary abilities, but that he has the ability to live independently and provide for his family.
Sheng Hong once mentioned when choosing a suitable husband for Hua Lan: "The family background should be good, the family should be wealthy, and the population should be simple. Both in-laws and concubines love to serve, but the most important thing is that the younger generation should be talented, either academically successful, or professionally successful, or have a certain status in martial arts. ”
Here, Sheng Hong describes a young man with a variety of talents, whether it is academic success, or in handling affairs, owning property, and even in martial arts and knighthood, he wants the man to be able to support his family and live independently.
Lin Hanshuang's sentence "A man is a wreck, no matter how strong a woman is, she can't straighten her waist" is indeed very accurate.
In ancient times, divorce was usually not allowed. But in modern times, although the cost of divorce has decreased, it is very difficult for women who have children to live with them. If a man does not divorce, his character may be affected, and if he is not yet capable, then his life will be very depressing. Considering the length of life, girls should be more careful.
Therefore, when it comes to choosing a partner, indeed, the reality is completely correct. You can try to learn Xi Lin Moshuang's three-point view of mate selection. Marriage is not just the romance of love, in the long ten years, it is very risky to rely only on your love and my wishes when you are in love.
I hope that those young women who have not yet entered the palace of marriage can realize more clearly that while maintaining the love relationship between the two, they can also maintain a sober and rational attitude, with more realistic elements, because marriage is a lifelong commitment after all.
The topic of today's discussion is: What do you think of Lin Hanshuang's view of mate selection?
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