It's a pity that Zhang Youyi was born in the wrong era.
If in modern times, there are platforms and opportunities for her to show her strengths, and there will be no such a bad marriage at all.
The order of the matchmaker is subject to her parents. Xu Zhimo's disregard for his marriage with Zhang Youyi stems partly from his disgust with feudal etiquette, so I don't think Xu Zhimo is a simple scumbag who will be beaten to death with a stick, it is difficult for people to transcend the general environment of their own existence, and it will inevitably be affected by the times, at that time, literati tended to oppose feudal marriage and advocate freedom of marriage. Didn't Lu Xun also snub Zhu An's life?
Zhang Youyi is a traditional woman, and she just doesn't happen to be the one Xu Zhimo likes. Virtuous and capable, good at managing the family, reserved and dignified ladies, these advantages fall in the eyes of the romantic and independent poet Xu Zhimo, which is synonymous with boring and dull.
Zhang Youyi once made a metaphor for her married life: "I am a fan in autumn, only used to drive away blood-sucking mosquitoes." When the mosquito bites the moon, the owner tears the fan apart. ”
The two got married in 1915, and in 1918 Zhang Youyi gave birth to her eldest son Xu Jikai, and soon Xu Zhimo stayed abroad. In 1920, Zhang Youyi went to Europe to reunite with her husband, but Xu Zhimo was reluctant. During his time in London and Shaston, Xu Zhimo was very impatient and even cruel to Zhang Youyi.
In Shaston, Zhang Youyi became pregnant. At that time, Xu Zhimo was upset because of Lin Hui, and his first reaction after hearing it was: "Hurry up and beat it." That year, the moon ** was in danger of life, Xu Zhimo said coldly: "There are still people who die because of taking the train, do you see that people don't take the train?"”
This is really a prophecy, and later Xu Zhimo died in a plane crash.
Xu Zhimo wanted a divorce, but when he saw that Zhang Youyi did not agree, he walked away, leaving Zhang Youyi alone in Shakespeare. The delivery period was approaching, and Zhang Youyi had no choice but to turn to her second brother Zhang Junmai and went to Berlin. After Xu Zhimo got the news, he chased her to Berlin and forced her to sign a divorce agreement. In 1922, Zhang Youyi gave birth to her second son Peter in Berlin and officially divorced Xu Zhimo. This is also the first Western-style civilized divorce case in Chinese history based on the Civil Law.
Zhang Youyi's family put her in this marriage, and she herself lived in this marriage, and they were all submissive. On the contrary, Xu Zhimo, as if helping her, rushed to free her from the shackles of marriage, forced her to become herself, and let go of her hands and feet to do her own business.
After giving birth, Zhang Youyi quickly recovered from her grief, her resolute and rigorous personality was very compatible with the Germans, and living and studying in Germany Xi made her quickly find self-confidence. She studied German Xi and attended the Pestalozi Academy, where she specialized in early childhood education. In 1925, Peter died of peritonitis at the age of 3. The pain of divorce and the loss of a child made Zhang Youyi grow up overnight. Her indomitable and determined will even Xu Zhimo had to admire, and Xu Zhimo mentioned in a letter to a friend that Zhang Youyi "is a woman of ambition and courage......She's really 'not afraid of anything' now. ”
In 1926 Zhang Youyi returned to China, where she learned German fluently in Germany, and in 1927 she taught German at Soochow University.
Zhang Youyi was originally born in a scholarly family, and her family status was also very prominent, and her brothers and brothers were all elites in the political and business circles at that time. In 1928, with the support of her fourth brother Zhang Jiaxuan, she served as the vice president of the Shanghai Women's Commercial and Savings Bank, and she was imposing for a while. Later, the eighth brother Zhang Yujiu co-founded a Yunshang clothing company, and Zhang Youyi served as the general manager of the company, and he also did well.
In 1934, her second brother Zhang Junmai presided over the establishment of the National Socialist Party, and she was invited to manage the party's finances. All these have made her business ability have been greatly developed. After the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War, she hoarded military dyes and made a windfall.
I may be biased, but I can't help but be a woman. It is believed that marriage has been exploiting, restraining and hindering women since ancient times.
I'm not alone.
Marx and Engels said in their book Private Property in the Family and the Origin of the State: "The institution of marriage is the last link ,...... human slaveryMarriage was created to make it easier for men to exploit and enslave women. ......The essence of marriage is to ensure that every man has his own slave. ”
To put it too much, even in the current era, isn't Miss Dong going south to Guangdong to achieve Gree's career when her husband is gone?And until now, people who are so strong and capable have to be pulled out from time to time to make a yellow rumor. It is surprising to see the level of human thought in the 20s of the 21st century. Lao Gan Ma Tao Huabi, if her husband is alive, may be a housewife in a remote mountain village in Guizhou who makes chili sauce very delicious. I didn't mean to congratulate the death of someone's husband, but there is a saying that "middle-aged men have three joys, and their wives die when they are promoted and rich." "It's been widely circulated, and I've never seen a woman (or a man) come forward and say anything.
Why are so many female celebrities divorced now, but everyone is rejoicing?On the contrary, the whole world celebrates?Instead, I ran to the female celebrity's Weibo to congratulate her
Stand-up comedian Huang Ali has a famous saying: Do you know how successful I would be if I had a wife?
What if you were given a husband?
Hehe. It's better to save it.