"University" study notebook 30.
Sitting quietly, grinding on things, and giving up.
Sitting quietly is grinding yourself, sitting there silently, no matter what your husband thinks, you just don't move anyway.
It's the same when standing on the pile, no matter how painful it is, anyway, insisting, this is grinding ourselves.
It's good to grind yourself, because you are to yourself, but if you deal with people, others may not cooperate with us.
Sometimes we have a good heart, full of enthusiasm, and we return a bowl of ice water, and after we do it a few more times, we have no confidence and give up.
When we are not deep in kung fu, in addition to sitting, we first deal with things, and it can't make a sound anyway.
Today I want to write 100 characters, and it can't resist, saying that I only allow you to write 99 times, and that doesn't work, I'll write 100, so three calligraphy.
In this process of cultivation, yesterday xx sent me a calligraphy experience, she said that since she started to write calligraphy, online classes, she whole, the words must be written much more beautifully, more, not here the harvest, that is, her heart has been nourished, and she found that she has changed.
I would like to call on you once again to pick up the symbol of Chinese culture for thousands of years, a logo of our culture, the brush.
The core of Chinese culture is yin and yang, Tai Chi gives birth to two rituals, two rituals give birth to four elephants, four elephants give birth to gossip, and the way of Qiankun.
A brush, the top is hard, the bottom is soft, this is yin and yang, it is not moving, you are moving, this is yin and yang again.
It can be heavy or light, it is yin and yang, it can be virtual or real, it can be yin and yang, it can be sparse or dense, it is yin and yang, all of this is in this word, which is called a magic pen of the Chinese nation.
A pen, which can not only write but also draw, and a lump in the back, directly point to the acupuncture points, and press it if it is uncomfortable, all contained in it.
It is one, the road to simplicity, so once again call on everyone, as a Chinese, pick up the pen, as a person who learns Chinese culture, if the brush is not good at writing, then this, right?
Deal with things first, the easiest thing is it, you can take it with you, it's also very convenient, right?
After dealing with things, you will cultivate yourself, self-cultivation, in this case, you will slowly deal with people, you will find that kung fu upper body.
Because you have learned how to be flexible, your kind of void and reality, that kind of yin and yang, that kind of sparseness, that kind of size, those things, you have been nourished by your heart through the process of writing.
In the process of grinding, in the end, you become soft, your heart becomes soft, your person becomes soft, and you end up a little like water.
Water has a characteristic, it originates in the high mountains, it is born noble, the mountains have good water, but it is in a low position, and the water flows to the lower places.
The second is that it has no dispute with all things, whether you are a tree or a grass, as long as it passes through the place, it will be moisturized, so water is the source of all things, and the water benefits all things without fighting.
The third one washes all things, and keeps itself forever, and many things can be washed with water, but after washing, the water is still water.
Fourthly, it can be formed with things, if you are round, it is round, if you are square, it is square, and what you put in it, it is what it looks like, and it is formed with things.
And finally what's left with water?When it is calm, it is extremely soft, but it is also very powerful, and once it erupts, it can also fall for thousands of miles, so the water can carry the boat and also capsize the boat.
The virtues of water, Lao Tzu later discovered, if we can do like water, we are almost close to the good, and the good is also the supreme good, stopping at the supreme good, like water.
By dealing with things, you keep grinding yourself, and finally you become mellow, transparent, and take shape with things, benefiting all things without fighting with all things, always being in a low position, the clear ones are self-purifying, and the turbid ones are self-turbid, this is water, but this process is cultivated.
To practice in things, grind in the heart, together it is called tempering, the edge of the sword is sharpened out, and the fragrance of plum blossoms comes from the bitter cold, it is not easy to become a real adult.
Deal with things first, and finally slowly deal with people, deal with people, first deal with "villains", deal with people who are easy to deal with, this villain, we are in quotation marks, that is, children, and finally you deal with people who are difficult to deal with.
When dealing with children, the first thing you have to do is change your concept, the child is here to save you, that is, to cultivate you, you must first change a mind.
The child is here to grind you, grind until you are good, grind until you are good to your parents, he is done with the task, he is here to teach us how to make cubs, he is here to make up lessons for us.
What did the ancients say?Only when you take this cub in person can you know how difficult it is for your parents.
So the cubs are here to repair us, the cubs are here to grind us, and the cubs are here to wake us up.
We grow up with our children, and we accompany them to maturity, and we grow with them, and they accompany us to maturity.
If you turn this mind, this cub is a little naughty, okay?Okay, this topic is a little more difficult.
It's like xx, if there is no xx, how can that xx come to the teacher's side?
That's it, of course, we can't talk about it, we have to be grateful, he is the messenger of culture.
You don't have this xx, xx will be like this today, tender like water, what was it before?
You see, xx is the same, things are very successful, all aspects are like a fish in water, in the case of a lifetime, but also make a xx, to grind you, fix you, you haven't finished the topic, and give you a set of questions.
So we have to change a thought, you say that my cub is very obedient, then he is also here to be a mirror, because you are disobedient, he is obedient, come to take a look at you.
The obedient cub is a mirror, to look at us, to wake us up from the front, to see how filial I am, two pieces of candy in the school, and I will keep one back for you to eat.
What about the disobedient cubs?It's because you're also disobedient that he comes to grind you, wake you up, and give you a question.
From this point of view, the cub is our application question, the husband is our additional question, and the others are fill-in-the-blank questions, multiple-choice questions, and the answers are not difficult.
Parents are our judgment questions, we just tick and cross anyway, it's so simple, get parents around, is there?
These people around us are all our questions, cubs are application questions, and husbands are additional questions, these are all here to fix you, so we must be grateful.
Things have not changed, the child is still the same child, things are still that thing, when we are sincere to ourselves, these things, these external things, are all helping us to go to the right path in the world, and we want to walk on the right path.
From this point of view, has there been a change in the perception of children?What's going on with our children now is that the topic is a little more difficult.
When xx came to me at that time, I said that this topic was a little difficult, and he told me that my problem was a little more difficult than the Olympiad problem.
I said that people are self-aware, you are good, you know yourself very well.
At that time, I felt that I was also a student when I was young, so I was not afraid of the Olympiad.
In fact, if you put it from this perspective, the younger the child, the more difficult the topic will be, and the child may be more productive in the future.
The fact that he is difficult to do this topic shows that his energy is great, and if he can channel this energy to the right path, his achievements will be great.
When we were children, we have to worry about a child who was too obedient, because he was sensible too early and suppressed himself too early.
Nowadays, many children are able to suppress themselves in order to cater to others, but after he has been pressing for a long time, he will break out one day.
In this area, we must first raise awareness, and children are God's gift to us.
Have you ever received a gift?Children are the greatest gift and gift that God has given us.
You take a gift today, the packaging is not there, do you say this gift is worth it?Just so.
The better the gift, the tighter the wrapping, three layers inside and three layers outside, and there is a rope on it, a flower on it, and maybe a box outside, and a lock on the box.
A precious gift, this shell on the outside of him, that kind of protective thing, isn't it?
Just like if you buy express delivery now, the more expensive the thing, the different the packaging it is, and you come back in a hurry to tear it indiscriminately, and finally damage everything.
The heavier the gift, the more careful it is to open it, and sometimes when the lock is locked, you poke it with a wire, block the keyhole, and finally use an axe to chop it, and when you split it, the gift is also chopped.
Sometimes we don't cherish this gift, and we are simple and rude to this gift.
The more precious this gift is, the more we have to be cautious, be patient, and slowly open it layer by layer, why are you in such a hurry?
Children are the best gift from God to us, the more precious this gift, the more difficult it is to open, you know, this is also yin and yang.
When we don't have children, how much we want a child and try our best to do it, but God brings gifts and we don't cherish them.
We ourselves have to reflect on what kind of mood did you feel when this child cried for the first time?
Especially as a mother, your extreme pain, you are that kind of pain and happy.
Do you still have that kind of sincerity now, can you still find it now, we have to come back to this point.
When a child comes into this world, he has his mission with him, and he is born to be useful, and everyone has his usefulness.
The joy, the excitement, the feeling of jumping up, the process of touching that stomach and watching him in it little by little, that joy.
At that time, you had countless thoughts in your heart, as long as he came to this world, how you would treat him, you thought a lot.
Why is he in a little bit of a situation now, you are like this, and even want to stuff him back, he is not like ** to buy goods, the child is born, he can't be returned, and he can't return it.
You go and ask yourself, we are still talking sincerely, are you really sincere?to your child.
He is not your private property, he is a whole, independent being, and we have to think about it.
He came to us, which is a gift from God, and in fact, he can also choose to go to another family.
We sometimes have to ask ourselves if our child could choose to be there for us again, and if we were truly kind to himIs everything we have paving the way for his whole life?
We need to ask ourselves now, do we really love our children or ourselves?This is the first sincerity, deceiving others is small, deceiving oneself is big.
In fact, if you really love your child, let him be yourself, be a child that parents can rest assured of, and become the master of your own life.
You have to rest assured, you have to let go, you have to let him be himself, you have arranged everything for him, you think it is good for him.
I remember my husband's education of xx, when xx shared that she wanted to be a good mother.
The teacher commented directly on her, xx, you can't just be a good mother, you have to be a good mother of xx, right?
It's xx, what's the use of being a good mother?You have to be a good mother to xx.
xx, what are you going to do?xx's good mother, this is back, this is called being a mother because of your material, others call you mom mom, mom, this is not right.
The true love for the son is deep, we must plan for it far-reaching, be responsible for his life, and educate the child from the perspective of his life, influence the child, and guide the child.
To put it simply, to love a child in the way of a child is to put him first and let him choose.
You really learn to Xi, to observe your own life growth experience, to compare with the education of sages, and finally to find out how to be responsible for your child's life, this is far-reaching love.
We must train our children to be everyone, that is, a gentleman, a gentleman is not a vessel, he is not a simple vessel, he can be formed with things.
The life that people yearn for is the direction we work towards, this is called a gentleman, and we hope to lead our children in this direction.
The child is the best gift from God to you, and this gift is not easy to open, because he is very precious, so the process of opening is the process of grinding you.
The process of opening this gift is to do the problem, and it is not a general problem, but an application problem.
How do I open this gift?There are three kinds of this, the first is in his own way, the second is in the way of the society in general, and the third is to open this gift with real wisdom and responsibility for his life.
I believe that everyone, if you want to choose, will choose the third one, be responsible for the child's life, do something for the child's life, grow up for a lifetime, and be happy and safe for him.
Cultural self-confidence. Encourage you together