In family relationships, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is undoubtedly the most delicate and complex. Among them, a puzzling phenomenon is: why are some daughters-in-law more filial and less treated by their mothers-in-law?
To answer this question, we need to dig deeper into the reasons behind it and how to improve it.
First of all, we need to understand that the mother-in-law relationship is a special kind of interpersonal relationship, which involves multiple levels such as power, status, identity and emotion.
Traditionally, mothers-in-law, as elders in the family, have a psychological advantage, and they expect their daughters-in-law to respect and obey them.
However, when a daughter-in-law behaves too filtially, the mother-in-law may feel that her authority has been challenged, resulting in resentment and resistance.
Further analysis, we found that this sense of disagreement may also be related to the psychological factors of the mother-in-law. Some mothers-in-law may be "hostile" and "jealous" towards their daughters-in-law.
This hostility may stem from the mother-in-law's own psychological problems, or the differences with the daughter-in-law in terms of personality and habits. In these cases, no matter how filial the daughter-in-law is, it is difficult to win the approval of the mother-in-law.
In addition, social factors can also affect the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In some societies, there is a stereotype of female roles that women should be subordinate to men.
This has also affected the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to some extent. If the mother-in-law thinks that the daughter-in-law is not acting according to the traditional role positioning, then she may not develop a good opinion of the daughter-in-law.
So, how to improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?First of all, there is an effort on both sides. The daughter-in-law should respect her mother-in-law's opinions and feelings, while also sticking to her own principles and values.
The mother-in-law should also let go of the prejudices in her heart and accept the filial behavior of her daughter-in-law with an open mind. At the same time, both parties should strengthen communication and understanding, respect each other's independence and choices, and find common ground and interests to enhance mutual affection.
To sum up, to solve the problem of identity between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is necessary for the mother-in-law to let go of her preconceptions and accept her daughter-in-law with an open mind, and also for the daughter-in-law to respect and understand the psychology and expectations of the mother-in-law. Only in this way can harmonious family relationships be established.
In real life, conflicts and frictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are inevitable, but through the joint efforts and mutual tolerance of both parties, we can turn these problems into opportunities to enhance relationships. After all, family harmony and happiness are the common pursuit and expectation of every member.