Mo Yan: "Horses don't compete with cows for speed and slowness, the sun doesn't compete with the moon for light and darkness, husbands don't compete with their wives for winning or losing, brothers don't compete with their younger brothers for face, sisters don't compete with their sisters for warmth, their grandfathers don't compete with their grandchildren for leisure, friends don't compete with friends for popularity, and teachers don't compete with migrants for work."
Young and aggressive, he always likes to fight with others: compete for superiority, win or lose, fight for fame, fight for honor, wait until life suffers a loss, plant a fight, and be beaten by society again and again.
When a person is alive and wants to fight with others everywhere, he must be painful when he can't fight, and after he fights, he feels that the result is nothing more than that, and fighting for the end is often a lose-lose situation. A win is also a loss.
In life, people fight with others a lot, worry a lot, worry a lot, worry a lot, can afford to put it down, naturally tired.
Flipping through history, a contention for words, stringing together a big defeat, I don't know how many tragedies in the world have been deduced, which is suffocating.
and life, in the end, you will find that it will only add to the burden.
Fight with relatives, and in the end, you will find that you will be extremely contradictory, alienating feelings, and the gains outweigh the losses.
Fight with your lover, and in the end you will find that life is a chicken feather, and there is no quiet day in the family.
Fight with friends, and in the end you will find that friends will be estranged, and the boat of friendship will capsize.
Venerable Hongyi once said, "Whatever you want to control, you actually control." Everything you are obsessed with actually torments you. One thought of heaven and one thought of hell. It's never anyone's emotions that torment you, it's your fantasizing expectations. ”
That's true. There are two kinds of human intelligence, one is great wisdom and the other is small intelligence. A wise person, in fact, if a wise person is foolish, he will not fight. A smart person competes with others everywhere and takes advantage of small advantages, but often suffers a big loss. And knowing how to judge the situation, act with the camera, and not fight meaninglessly, is the great wisdom.
The ancestors said that if you don't fight for a short time, you can get the length of a lifetime. It is indisputable, it is the wisdom left by the ancestors. The strong do not fight, the wise do not show, and the good do not show. If you are not strong, if you are not strong, no one can fight, if you are strong, you have reached the realm of surrendering without a fight, why do you need to fight with others.
The real strong man is indisputable, as long as the strength is strong enough, he can also become the king. A true wise man, clumsy and unrevealed, can also reach the realm of still water flowing deep. The real benevolent person is not prominent, but virtuous, and cultivates and accumulates blessings by himself.
The Buddhist scriptures say: "People have five poisons, greed, hatred, ignorance, and suspicion, all because of the obsession of the heart." If you can break the obsession, then the five poisons will be clear. ”
People, even if they have seven emotions and six desires, chasing after the wind and shadows will only increase the shackles. The great Confucian Wang Yangming said that it is easy to break the mountain and the thief is difficult to break the heart. As long as we cultivate everything according to fate, we will gain it calmly, lose it, and be indifferent. Do not fight with fate, but walk with fate, let go of the obsession in your heart, and go with the flow, in order to live happily, relieved and at peace with the situation.
Lao Tzu said: "The way of heaven is to win without fighting, and respond well without words." He is not called, but he is frank and scheming. ”
It can be seen that it is best to do it without fighting. Time is too wide, finger seams are too thin, life is short, after the prosperity is over, a pot of turbid wine talks about heroes, and the fight is just how many things in ancient and modern times, an empty one, are all laughing and talking.
If you don't fight, the world can't fight with it. Just like Mr. Yang Jiang's classic quotations: I don't fight with anyone, and I don't disdain to fight with anyone.