Which of the following two situations can better reflect a person's self-confidence?
a.Be confident before doing anything, and if you fail, move on to another with confidence.
b.Try your best to do one thing, accept it if it fails, and insist on doing it in continuous improvement.
Of course, for people who are easily anxious and apprehensive when doing things, the first state of self-confidence is also worthy of envy, because this kind of self-confidence is like a match, which can go anywhere. But the second type of self-confidence is more like an iceberg, although the part above the water is inconspicuous, the part below the surface is deep and heavy. I appreciate the second type of self-confidence, because the highest level of self-confidence is not to believe in yourself unconditionally, but to always have a normal heart in the midst of all kinds of uncertainties.
Some people may say that not everyone has a normal heart?Doesn't everyone have a normal heart?
So let's take a look at the following ordinary behaviors, how ordinary these behaviors are, and how rare ordinary minds are:
1.When I am anxious, I go to burn incense and worship the Buddha, hoping that the mysterious power will solve the unsolvable things for me.
2.Only believe what you want to believe, and don't believe what you don't want to believe.
3.I only want others to tolerate my shortcomings, but I am unwilling to accept the fact that others will also have shortcomings.
4.When you are lucky, you mistakenly think that it is your own strength, and when you are unlucky, you think that God treats you too thinly.
5.After failure, I am slumped, and I can't accept that anyone and anything has the possibility of failure.
It is believed that the above situation is not uncommon in our daily lives, and people are best at shackling themselves to their subjective consciousness, as if the earth revolves around them, but they are blind to the probabilities and laws in reality.
Han Feizi Five Worms recorded: "The Song people had cultivators, and there were plants in the fields, and the rabbits touched the plants, and they broke their necks and died;Because of the release of its plowing and guarding the plant, hoping to recover the rabbit, the rabbit can not be recovered, and as Song Guoxiao. ”
A Song man was very happy to see a rabbit that accidentally crashed into a tree, thinking that he would be able to eat rabbit meat if he stayed here, so he put down his farm tools and waited day and night, hoping to have another rabbit. As a result, he was so hungry that he didn't wait for Venus to come, and he became the laughing stock of Song Guo.
Before eating this unexpected rabbit meat, the Song people would never think that the tree would "produce rabbits", and just because of a lucky delicacy, he abandoned common sense and sat next to the rabbit with wishful thinking. Maybe we think that normal people are so stupid, but there is no shortage of various types of "Song people" in real life.
I feel too happy to get rich overnight because of speculation, so I don't want to do things in a down-to-earth way anymore, but wait for the next time I get rich. Because I have made boyfriends and girlfriends who are much taller than myself, and have experienced the "delicious taste of the world", it is difficult to accept the "right match". Because of a promotion and appreciation, his fate changed greatly, and he tried the taste of "riding a rocket", so he continued to look forward to being promoted by nobles.
In the face of desire, people are often very small, so that they confuse desire with reality and easily abandon their ordinary mind. And the story of "Waiting for the Rabbit" has been passed down through the ages, and it is constantly conveying the meaning of ordinary heart to us.
Whether we gain great benefits or losses, we must keep a normal heart. The so-called ordinary mind is to always look at things with a common sense mentality.
Therefore, it is not necessary for ordinary people to have a normal heart, it is often those who are not ordinary who can cultivate a normal heart. Ordinary minds are the soil for their rational thinking, allowing them to fully accept and analyze the problems they face. They respect the objective laws of this world, understand that it is not subject to personal will, and clearly know that it is only possible to truly grasp destiny on the premise of acknowledging objective laws and objective probabilities.