My aunt is my distant aunt, and she and my uncle (in fact, he should be called uncle, because he is my father's distant cousin) and the couple have raised 2 sons and 2 daughters.
The eldest mother has always been very strong, and she is not willing to trouble others in everything.
The eldest mother gave birth to four children, and she did her own laundry, cooking, and taking care of the children before she was confined. Her mother-in-law, my second grandmother, is a two-inch golden lotus, and she is chronic, so she walks very slowlyIn addition, her health is not very good, but the eldest mother is acute, and she can bring a wind when she walks. Maybe the eldest mother doesn't like what her mother-in-law does. So even during the confinement, I do things on my own.
The eldest lady always sat by the well and washed clothes. And no matter the cold summer, autumn or winter, she always washes her clothes with water that has just come up from the well. I don't want to boil hot water to wash in the weather!
In winter, someone passed by the well and said to her, "In this winter, you are still in confinement, isn't the water cold?"Don't get sick from the cold. The eldest lady said, "The water from the well is hot in winter!"”
My mother and I am about the same age. My mom never washed her clothes in cold water in the winter, she always used a coal stove to boil hot water.
My grandmother was always unbalanced and thought that my mother would not be as good as my aunt. My grandma watched my mom waste a briquette washing clothes in hot water. will say distressedly: "You see that your aunt uses well water to wash clothes in the winter in the future." It's good that your mother will live half of your mother!”
I said, "My grandmother is a midwife, and my grandmother said that women can't touch cold water during confinement!Otherwise, you will sit down and get sick. ”
My eldest mother may have been sick during the confinement period, so when she was in her 50s, she suffered from rheumatism in her legs, arms, and joints!But in this way, the eldest lady is reluctant to go to the hospital to see, always buy some plasters and stickers, or treat herself according to the earthwork that I heard without money.
Fortunately, the eldest mother has 4 children, 2 sons graduated from junior high school, and 2 daughters got married and had children early before they finished elementary school. So when the eldest mother was in her 50s, her grandchildren were brought up.
The eldest mother's illness is also serious, she has to walk with a stick, her fingers can no longer be straightened, and she can hardly do things, but fortunately, the uncle's body is okay.
At this time, the eldest mother said that she would not live with her youngest son, and she and her uncle would build another small house and live alone. Just rely on a rice cooker to cook rice and eat. That's why I always put rice and vegetables in the rice cooker and eat them. She said she just had enough to eat. Such a simple meal is always said by the eldest lady, and the uncle does it.
"That way it won't drag down the kids!," she said"Even during the New Year's holidays, the eldest mother is reluctant to go to her son's house for dinner, for fear of causing trouble to others!The two sons' families can only let the children send some meat dishes to whoever makes them. Every time, the eldest lady said angrily: "Didn't I call it and didn't send it, it's strange to be troublesome!."”
The uncle did the work in the field alone, and also found time to do odd jobs to make money. The two elders have always been self-sufficient. Don't want a penny from your children. The eldest lady said: It's all useless and can't help the children, so it's not easy for any family, how can you bear to spend their money again!
The eldest mother and uncle have lived on their own for 20 years. When the uncle was 70 years old, he not only had cerebral thrombosis but also Alzheimer's disease, and not only could not take care of his mother, but he could not even take care of himself. Uncle always can't sit still when he can walk with his legs, he always has to go out and run around, and he doesn't know how to go home, so he always needs to be watched.
The eldest mother's two sons will discuss serving for a month, or one family.
Later, I waited for the family one by one!The eldest lady didn't know if she was in a hurry or something, her condition worsened again, and she couldn't stand up directly, and she was paralyzed in bed.
Her son took her to the hospital to check, and the doctor said that she could not be cured, but he was not sure. The eldest lady is not in the hospital, she has to go home. What I didn't expect is:
The eldest lady couldn't eat the next day after she went home, and she couldn't even drink a sip of water.
I went back to my parents' house and listened to my mother say that my aunt hadn't been in for two days. I'm afraid it won't work.
I'll go to my mother's house to have a look.
When I arrived, my aunt was lying on the bed, and I asked her if she was uncomfortable, and she said that she couldn't eat without being uncomfortable. Looking at her talking, I really can't see that there is pain, and her spirit is fine. It was a particularly hot day. The eldest lady's bed is in the corridor of the building, there is no air conditioning at home, and her grandson is fanning her with a banana fan.
My cousin saw me crying and said, "Why can't my eldest sister and my mother eat all of a sudden?".”
I said, "Auntie, think about it, if there is anything special you want to eat, let someone make it for you to eat." ”
The eldest lady said: "His eldest sister, I can't swallow it!."It's okay to leave early, otherwise our old couple (uncle is the meaning of the big daddy) will sleep one as a family, and we won't drag the two children's family down!”
While talking, my cousin's son brought a bowl of tomato meatballs and egg soup. It is said that the eldest lady loves to eat the most.
When the eldest lady saw the child bringing the food, she hurriedly said: "Xiaoyu hurry up, don't bring it over, I can't eat it, I can't smell it." ”
The child came over and fed her a small meatball with a small spoon, and she closed her mouth tightly and her eyes closed. The child can only take the food away.
I saw that my cousin's house was selling ice cream in a freezer on the side of the road at the door, so I asked the child to bring an ice cream to lick a few bites for my aunt (I thought to myself that I might not be able to resist this).
Who knew that the ice cream was used to block the aunt's mouth, and the aunt bit her lower lip directly with her upper teeth this time, and she was about to break her lips. Say nothing and don't eat. She quickly wiped off the cream that stuck to her lips with paper.
When the child left, I said, "Auntie, it's not that you can't eat, you deliberately don't eat it!."Why are you so troubled, sons and daughters are filial? ”
Auntie: "His eldest sister, I really can't swallow it!."”
I also told my aunt a lot about the benefits of living, and my aunt always shook her head, saying that her life was a drag, and she dragged the uncle for more than 20 years. Now that the uncle is like that again, it's good that she can go like this, she is free for herself, and the child is also free.
When I finally left, my aunt took my hand and said, "His eldest sister, your aunt is going to be strong for a lifetime, I really didn't mean to." I just can't swallow it!As he spoke, he squeezed my hand vigorously. ”
I understood what my aunt meant: she told me not to tell me about her hunger strike. She hopes that her 4 honest and kind children will never know the truth, lest they feel guilty if they can't accept it!
I couldn't hold back any longer, my tears came out of my eyes, I ran out of my mother's house as if I had escaped, my cousins followed me and called my eldest sister, I didn't dare to look back.
Originally, I was going to go back to Shanghai the next day, but my mother said, "Your aunt has always been in poor health, and now she can't eat or drink (I didn't tell my mother that my aunt is on a hunger strike.) It is estimated that the limit is in these two days, or you will go back two days late, send your aunt away and then go back to Shanghai. "I agreed. I was mainly shocked by the perseverance of the eldest lady.
Sure enough, three days later, the eldest mother passed away.
The eldest mother's youngest daughter and his eldest brother hugged and cried, and the other children were also grief-stricken
They don't know why the eldest lady can't eat all of a sudden.
The life of the eldest lady is ordinary, she is as ordinary as a grass on the earth;Her love for her children is also ordinary, ordinary like a small grass flower in the mountains!
Only a few people know what a feat that requires perseverance in the end!How much ** and pain she endured in order not to be a burden to her child!
The reason why I wrote about the eldest mother today is that today is the death day of the second anniversary of the death of the eldest mother, and I can't go to her old man's grave to worship!can only express the reverence and admiration for her old man in the headlines!
The second is to ask all children to remember: all mothers in the world love their children, but their abilities are big and small, and the way of love is different, so the amount and way of love they give their children are also different!
Third, I hope that all children can be grateful to their parents, treat their parents well, and do their best to give their parents a happy old age!Although the love given to parents by children is not as much as one-tenth of what parents give to their children!But just do your best!
Finally, I hope that all the children in the world will not stay: "The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise but does not wait for the most regretful!".”