Wen Xiamo. Marriage is like a cup of tea in your hand, cold and warm.
Whether the relationship between husband and wife is good or not, only those who are in it will have a clearer understanding.
The affection shown in front of people is not necessarily real, but the state and communication between husband and wife before going to bed is the real state of each other's feelings.
Whether the relationship between husband and wife is good or not can be seen from what they say before "going to bed".
I've seen such a paragraph**, which says:
A couple, the man is busy with work all day and has little time to spend with his wife.
Once, the wife had something she wanted to discuss with a man. finally waited until the husband was busy with work and was ready to rest, but before the wife finished speaking, the man said impatiently: Okay, okay, whatever you do, don't disturb me to sleep.
The wife sat alone on the side, looking at her husband with his back to her, and she couldn't help but cry.
The husband and wife have a bad relationship, they are very indifferent before going to bed, they are immersed in their own worlds with each other, and they only care about their own affairs.
Even if there is occasional communication, there is not the slightest warmth in the words, full of perfunctory and impatient.
The time before going to bed is the best time for couples to connect with each other.
After a long day of hard work, before falling asleep, it is the time to really slow down. You can exchange feelings with each other, share interesting things in life, or discuss the itinerary for the next day.
If the relationship between husband and wife is not good, they will be very indifferent before going to bed, and there will be basically no communication.
Bai Yang once said: "For the continuation of love and the happiness of marriage, the wife must please her husband, and the husband must also please his wife, as for how to please him, it is a high art." ”The relationship between husband and wife is good, and the communication between two people is with love and care.
For example, before going to bed, each other will pay attention to each other's mood and take care of each other's feelings. When you speak, you will think about your lover and give them understanding and tolerance.
If a man loves his wife deeply, he will not complain about her freely, and he will not criticize her.
He will cherish his wife's dedication to the family, recognize his wife's value, and strive to give his wife more care.
And a woman cares about a man in her heart, will care about his health, and tells him not to stay up all night.
Women, before going to bed, will sort out the clothes that the man will wear for the next day, and gently remind him of the next day's itinerary.
Husband and wife have a good relationship, they will pay special attention to the way they speak, and they will also take everything their lover says to heart.
How two people talk to each other is how they love each other.
Couples who love each other speak gently, considerately, and even more with love. When you talk to them, you will feel love in your heart and feel taken care of.
The cultivation and maintenance of the relationship between husband and wife is indispensable for the communication between each other.
Couples who love each other will give all their patience to their lovers and cherish every moment with each other.
For example, at bedtime, some women will tell men what things have risen in price again, meet a neighbor in the elevator who has returned from a trip abroad, how they want to arrange their next vacation, and so on.
A man will not feel that a woman is verbose, he will patiently listen to the woman's chatter, wanting to know what is happening in the woman's world during the time when he is busy with work.
He does not interrupt women's words, and occasionally gives his opinion and presents his own opinion.
Men will also tell women about their plans and goals for work, and look forward to bringing women a better life.
Austin said: "A happy marriage requires not only the exchange of ideas, but also the exchange of feelings, and keeping feelings in one's own heart also pushes the wife out of one's own life." ”Between husband and wife, the better the relationship, the more they know how to communicate and communicate well.
In good communication, each other's feelings will be deeper, and they will cherish the time with each other more.
After entering the marriage, the relationship between the husband and wife will gradually become dull.
The love between two people is not gone, but exists in each other's lives in another way.
It is necessary to manage the feelings between each other with heart, master the way of speaking and communicating, and let the two hearts get closer.
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