Wen Xiamo. Human affection is as thin as paper, old friends, if they don't contact for a long time, the love will be much weaker.
When we meet again, it's still those people, but the taste has already changed.
said that after graduation, we should keep in touch and get together more, but in the end, we can never get together again. Because, some people, never attend class reunions.
When I was studying, there would always be endless topics to talk about among my classmates, and there would not be too much other pressure. When people reach middle age, their lives have changed, and there is more pressure.
People who never attend class reunions can't escape the following reasons.
Fluttershy and I went to high school and college together, and we both returned to our hometown to work.
For so many years, there have been many large and small class reunions, and she has not attended.
When others asked me what was going on, I just said that she was busy with work and had a cold personality, and she didn't want to make any fun.
In fact, her parents are from the countryside, they have no retirement salary, and her father has a bad kidney, so he spends four or five thousand yuan a month on medical expenses.
My mother didn't have much work, so she did odd jobs during the day and went to the restaurant to wash dishes and dishes at night to earn some pocket money.
Fluttershy spends most of her salary on her father's medical bills, and she has a hard time working various part-time jobs at night.
Ordinary gatherings, she refuses. She didn't want to join in, and because she didn't have decent clothes to wear out.
When people reach middle age, everyone's life has changed.
In life, everyone has its own difficulties. Some people, who are under great financial pressure, will reduce expenses such as class reunions.
Shakespeare said, "Money is a good soldier, and with it it can make a man a hundred times more courageous." ”People do not share the joys and sorrows of people, and some people will feel that a gathering is nothing but one or two hundred dollars.
For some, however, one or two hundred dollars may be a month's worth of breakfast.
The biggest reason for poor economic conditions, difficulties in life, and not participating in various social activities is that they are shy in their pockets.
There is a show called "A Party" in the annual comedy contest, a girl wants to celebrate her best friend's birthday, but she is more introverted and a little "socially phobic".
She arrived at the door of the box and kept encouraging herself to knock. It's just that every time I push the door, I retreat.
After struggling outside for a long time, I decided to pay for this party, leave the gift at the door and leave.
was seen by the girlfriend who came out and pulled her in, she was at a loss to communicate with everyone, not happy at all.
People who never attend class reunions may have a sensitive personality, are shy, and do not like to socialize. Unable to break through such psychological barriers, subconsciously reduce contact with people.
Andrei Moloya said: "Men, women, and even the proudest people have a certain inferiority complex. Beautiful people doubt their intelligence, and strong people doubt their charm. ”Some people are not confident and don't know how to talk to people they don't know.
Or, when people reach middle age, their classmates are all mixed up with human appearances, afraid of comparison, and they can't get by on face.
It's awkward to get along together, there's no topic to talk about, it's better to be alone.
People are changeable, they are simple when they are young, and their hearts are full of sincere emotions.
When I grew up, I entered the workplace and learned a lot of principles about how to behave in the world, and I became cautious. He said a lot of insincere words, wore a thick mask, and couldn't tell the truth from the fake.
Some class reunions, in fact, have long found that the once friendly classmates can't talk to them.
There is a line in "Langya Bang" that says: "How many good friends in the world, of similar age and like-mindedness, could have intersected for a lifetime." But who would have expected that the changes would change overnight, and from then on, they could only watch the end of the world go away. ”Participating in class reunions, because of different lifestyles and changes in hobbies, they have developed a sense of distance from each other.
When you are together, you can only feel bored, boring, and useless. I don't feel happy with it.
Therefore, some people are gradually reluctant to have too many intersections because of the large gap between classmates and the different things they like.
The level and circle have changed a lot, and instead of gathering together, everyone is more comfortable.
When people reach middle age, people who never attend class reunions live as they like. There's no need to go to a party you don't like in order to fit in.
You can make three or five close friends and help each other when they encounter difficulties.
Those who spend money to chat leisurely and have no practical meaning will participate in less activities.
Seriously manage the circle of friends that can make you progress and grow. Among them, they can feel understood, supported, warm and happy.
You don't have to be liked by everyone, being yourself is the most important thing.
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