In the workplace, if the relationship is not hard, the background is not deep, and you are not the kind of irreplaceable talent, it is best not to make yourself look less stupid.
Many people always complain that they have done a good job, not to mention that there is no hope of promotion, and even simple attention cannot be done. It's not that you don't work hard enough, it's not that you don't do well, it's that you're living in a world you've built, and your eyes are covered by yourself.
While respecting your own heart, you need to get feedback from the outside world to adjust yourself. For example, what clothes to wear, what watch to wear, what car to drive, what house to live in, ......Although it is used by itself, it also has certain social attributes.
There are always some people who think that they are doing well, but in fact, they are very "stupid" in the eyes of leaders and colleagues, even if you are very attentive, it is not surprising that you still do not get attention. The following points, cross-referenced, whether you are among them.
There are always such people in the unit, who have strong ability and good performance, and can be recognized by everyone, but they just can't get along with the leader. It's okay to have self-esteem, and it's good to have your own pride, but you can't overdo it.
The leader doesn't care about you, and you don't care about the leader, and you feel that you have strong ability and good performance, so you should be taken seriously. Not every leader has the capacity to accommodate people, and not all leaders can be polite and virtuous.
You have your pride, leaders have the pride of leadership, and those who can step into leadership positions, who doesn't have their own pride. Having ability and ability is definitely an advantage, and it is also the object that leaders hope to woo, but if they put on a high profile, most leaders will not lower their figures.
It is the norm for there to be a game between superiors and subordinates, but as a subordinate, you are already in a weak position, and the choice is in the hands of the leader, which can be you or someone else. Everyone likes to reuse those who make them comfortable, isn't it a way to let their value play on a larger platform.
There is a saying that says it well".No matter how strong your ability is, if the leader hangs you for a few years, it will basically be wasted.
There is a good saying: "When you help others, you are helping yourself." The truth is indeed true, but if you don't grasp the "degree" well, it will be a disaster.
To help others in a way that thinks it is "good" is to meet the needs of one's own heart, without considering it from the position of others.
It's good to help others when they're having trouble at work, but when they don't offer help, it's best to do the best way to help.
But some people always feel that they have good intentions and blindly offer help, which may be a deliberate behavior that highlights that you are better than him in the eyes of others. What's more, no one will cherish the things that are obtained for free, and it is not good to help others.
It's not that it's wrong to help others, it's that helping people out of bounds makes people feel offended. Because people want to show a better version of themselves in front of everyone, maybe because of your enthusiasm, you can break the image of others, and although you provide help, you make others dissatisfied. Good intentions do not necessarily lead to good deeds, nor do they necessarily lead to good rewards.
There's no denying it,Anger can indeed convey a tough attitude。For example, when others have touched their bottom line, expressing anger can more effectively let others know their attitude.
However, it is mentioned in the "Plain Book":Those who are angry and have no authority commit, and those who insult others will suffer. This means that anger without the power of deterrence will still be violated;Those who like to insult others in public are bound to suffer.
The leader of the unit is angry, and the people below are trembling, but if it is an ordinary person who is angry, he will only laugh in his heart, and there will be no change, and everyone can stay away at most.
It seems to express strength with anger, but it actually widens the distance between him and others. If you pay attention, you will find that those who use anger to express strength are often the first to be attacked.
If you want to take the initiative and get a strong position, either you have the power, or you have the money, or others need you, or you have enough means, otherwise the strength of the angry expression can only become a laughing stock.
As the boundaries between work and life blur and there are more and more opportunities to display personal information, "sincerity" is even more important.
But some people regard "sincerity" as unreserved, and even show vulnerability and shortcomings to bring interpersonal relationships closer. It looks stupid, but in reality there are a lot of people who do it. For example, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, crying poor, and complaining about ...... work
But what is the unit?It is meaningless to show things that have nothing to do with others, and others will not let you because you are not satisfied, nor will you give up the idea of competition because you are excellent.
Maintaining a sense of "mystery" and not revealing your "hole cards" is the key to ultimate victory. When there is no conflict of interest, the so-called "sincerity" may lead to a closer relationship, and once there is a conflict of interest, it will become the direction of others' attacks.
Presumably, many people in the workplace have encountered such people, and during the meeting, the leader asked everyone to speak freely and mention what kind of problems still exist at work, similar topics.
There are always some people who ask some questions, but think about the ideas and ideas that do not solve them, as if they have only discovered these problems. In fact, many problems are on the surface, and the reason why people do not mention them is because there are no corresponding solutions.
It's not that the leadership is turning a blind eye, either the problem isn't important, or the timing is wrong. Because some things, which seem to solve a problem, actually bring a series of problems.
When a subordinate proposes, it is equivalent to putting the problem on the bright side, throwing the problem to the leader, if there is a solution, it reflects the personal value, if there is no idea of a solution, it is looking for trouble for the leader.
In the logic of leadership, people who raise problems but do not have the ideas and ideas to solve them are the problems themselves. Because of his sense of existence, he seems to be very incompetent.
The act of thinking that he was smart is actually a process of constantly digging a hole for himself. When you ask a problem, you must first think of a solution, which is the behavior of a smart person.
Those "stupid" behaviors in the unit are not really bad brains, but only consider the problem from their own point of view, ignore the feelings of others, and think that they are right, maybe in the eyes of others, it is not like that. It's okay not to care about what others think, but you can't ignore other people's feelings. In the world you build, no matter how wonderful the interpretation is, it is in vain to get no positive feedback.
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