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Writer Bai Xianyong said:
"All maturity in life begins with loss. ”
In many cases, there is no need to be complacent when you get it, and you shouldn't be overly frustrated when you lose it.
In human nature, it is difficult to accept things, but it is precisely because of loss that we can mature.
Therefore, one of the most important lessons in this life is to allow yourself to learn to lose and reap maturity.
Bearish on gains and losses
Every day, every moment, we are going through the process of gain and loss.
For example, when we eat, our body gets energy, but at the same time, the body is also operating to consume energy.
Consuming energy also means losing energy, and in this synchronous process, life completes the energy cycle, renewing and iterating.
Human growth, indeed.
However, in the face of visible gains and losses, many people are often uneasy and difficult to accept, and they are bent on getting and never wanting to lose.
However, gaining and losing are always the inevitable process of life, and they are also the reality that must be faced.
Lu Yao once talked about it in "Life":
"Life is always like this, and you can't be satisfied everywhere. But we also have to live with passion.
People live a lifetime, there are many things worth loving, don't be discouraged because one is not satisfied. ”
When people live, they should let themselves continue to mature in a psychological journey that seems to be disappointed and unwilling.
Learning to lose and look down on loss is the fastest and most effective shortcut to maturity.
Loss is maturity
Haruki Murakami said
"Growing up is when people struggle with loss, hurt, and loneliness, and they have to live despite losing everything. ”
In the course of life, there will always be all kinds of problems, and these problems arise because of the imbalance between gain and loss.
People who can see through will also see through the successes and failures, so they will not hurt themselves in life.
People who can't see through can't face loss no matter what, and once they lose, they fall into pain, constant internal friction, constant suffering, extremely difficult to grow, and even stop growing.
Eventually, in the process of gaining and losing, the whole person will become more narrow-minded, more ignorant, and even more naïve.
So that in the future life path, constantly creating trouble for oneself is also causing trouble for others, consuming more energy for no reason, but not getting real happiness and beauty.
Yu Dan once said:"People who suffer from gains and losses will not have an open mind, will not have a calm state of mind, and will not have true bravery. ”
Be brave, be proactive, be generous, and even in the face of short-term loss, we must also get mental growth.
When one day we truly become mature, strong, and independent, then we will definitely perform better and live better for the rest of our lives in the face of the next few years.
If you can put it down, you can afford it
Half an acre of flower field" said:
"In life, we all get different scripts.
Some are bland, some are intense, some are laughing, some are tears
No matter what, I have to do it well until the curtain ends. ”
Life is just an experience, there are gains and losses, and there are losses and gains.
Life is like that, always going round and round, and history is always strikingly similar.
But no matter what, only when we learn to let go thoroughly, but also learn to lose, and boldly let go, can we grow and become mature.
In this way, if we see it openly, look down, and see it through, then everything will be transformed into our energy and support us towards a better tomorrow.