The Book of Poetry says: Qin Se is in the palace, and the years are not quiet.Women play the piano, men play drums, the husband and wife are very harmonious, and life is very beautiful.
Good love must be a lover who can be a lover for a lifetime, the kind of beautiful encounter when you meet, thrilling, the kind that disturbs people's hearts, thinks about it day and night, and longs to see the beloved.
When you meet, love is very beautiful, and that beauty must be to another stranger, producing a kind of light on the top of your head, shining in your eyes, which makes people yearn for it.
However, in the long years, time is a knife to kill pigs, marriage is the grave of love, and the beauty of love has long been dimmed. A good relationship must need each other's management in order to be a lover for a lifetime.
The spirit is right at home.
There is a saying in Jane Eyre: "Our spirits are equal, just as you and I walk through the grave and stand equally before God."Husband and wife are equal to each other for a lifetime, and each person has his own soul, and he is an independent individual, with his own thoughts, preferences and personality.
When people are together, they are equal in spirit with each other, and they can stand at the same height, talk to each other in the same time and space, communicate with each other, and produce soul resonance and harmony.
Only through communication can people enter each other's hearts, and only then can they truly live in their hearts, and the world will have a taste.
Stand at the same height together, look at the world together, and talk about all kinds of bits and pieces of life together.
Keep your distance from each other and share the fruits of love with each other.
Gibran, The Prophet. On Marriage: "Love one another, but let not love be a bondage: let it be the sea that swells on the shore of your souls." Fill each man's cup, but not from one. Give your bread to another instead of sharing it from the same slice. Sing and dance happily together, but let each of you be independent. ”Some people's love is to love and kill each other, and good love must not bind each other, give each other distance, and maintain independent space and freedom.
Love is not one party to satisfy the psychology of the other party's giant baby and unilaterally ask for each other, but everyone takes out their due bread, enjoys the joy of food together, sings and dances together, toasts together, and enjoys the beauty of life together.
A good marriage is not about intimacy, but about knowing how to keep a certain gap, and the gap is to let the breeze blow through it, and each other is an independent person, and at the same time inseparable from each other.
Support each other and grow together.
Yang Lan once said: "The bond that binds marriage is not children, not money, but spiritual growth".Holding the hand of the son and growing old with the son, a promise at the beginning of the marriage, swearing, a lifetime. However, it is so easy to promise to say it, but it is very difficult to really hold hands for a lifetime.
It's easy to fall in love, but it's too hard to get along. When everyone loves, they love so passionately, so persistently, and so affectionately.
A good relationship, a good husband and wife, a lifetime is a growth and practice, go through every spring, summer, autumn and winter of life hand in hand, witness the beauty of the world together, support each other, and grow together.
Only on the road of life, keep the same frequency of thoughts, independent space, rely on each other, and do not bind each other, and give each other enough freedom.
Share the fruits of life's victories with each other, enjoy the surprises of life together, spend the darkest time of life together, maintain soul communication together, soothe each other's lonely souls together, and become each other's warm harbor.
A good lover is a lover who can be a lover for a lifetime, a teacher, a friend and a lover, independent of each other, growing together with each other, snuggling up to each other for warmth, and walking through this limited life together!
Written by Maple Leaf.