Wen Feiyu.
The way of fate, two people from meeting each other to know each other, because of mutual love and appreciation, deduced into a romantic love. In the red dust, it is not easy to meet, but between tens of millions of people, they just happened to meet each other, maybe this is a beautiful encounter destined by God. It is a kind of happiness for two people to be lovers, so how can they become a pair of lovers for eternity?Love needs to be carefully managed, and both parties need to know how to trickle the water and flow for a long time in order to achieve a lifetime of beauty.
01 Between lovers, get along easily and stay true to yourself. Huang Lei said: "Marriage is a process of mutual appreciation. "When two people are together, the key is to feel comfortable. In order to stay comfortable together, mutual respect, appreciation, and tolerance are essential. Don't deliberately please each other, and don't expect each other to live as they like, but ask for common ground while reserving differences, tolerate each other's shortcomings, and let each other be true to themselves without reservation. In a relationship, don't let suspicion get the upper hand, as suspicion can damage trust. As Wang Xiaobo said: "I only hope that you and I are good, not suspicious of each other, and not praise each other, as good as usual." You talk to me as you speak to yourself, and I talk to you as you speak to yourself. "Learn to accept your own shortcomings, appreciate each other's advantages without inferiority, so that two people can show the most real side in front of each other, and the heart is connected, so that the relationship can flow.
02 Between lovers, you need to consider each other's feelings and abandon selfishness. If you want a long-lasting relationship, you must learn to empathize, think from the other person's point of view, and don't just care about your own feelings. As Jack Ma said: "What is the algorithm of marriage, do you love me a little more, or do I love you a little more?".Feelings are not clear, in the end, forget it, this is the best algorithm. "In order to be a good lover for life, you need to understand your place in the relationship, and you also need to understand the weight of the other person in your heart. As long as both of them have each other in their hearts and care about each other, they will naturally know how to think about each other. When you are able to put yourself in the other person's shoes, the relationship becomes more intimate. Be considerate of each other, don't always blame, but through good communication, accommodate each other and make the relationship deeper. Such intimacy can be envied.
03 Lovers support each other and grow together. When two people live together, they need to support each other, and they can't just care about their own growth and ignore each other. Some people are in a relationship where one partner is growing rapidly in their careers, while the other partner is standing still. When the fast-growing partner leaves the other in place, the relationship becomes estranged. In order to be a good lover for life, you must learn to support each other, help each other progress, and don't dislike it. Shen Huixing and her husband in the movie "Our Marriage" are a typical example. Because Shen Huixing chose to take care of the children at home, while her husband was successful in his career, the two had a conflict because of this. Later, the husband realized his mistake and helped his wife return to the workplace, and the two helped each other at work, and the family was much more harmonious.
Overall, it's a blessing to be able to be a lover for the rest of your life. In order to maintain this happiness, both parties need to tolerate and appreciate each other, show themselves authentically, consider each other's feelings, abandon selfishness, support each other, and grow together. Feelings need to be managed, you need to know how to think about each other, and only with each other's efforts can this relationship be deepened. May every pair of people who love each other become lovers for life.
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