Redefine the journey of life from Dink to "wanting two children".
Under the glamour of a well-off life, at the age of 33, I feel lost when faced with one - a child. After six years of marriage, my wife Xiaoqin always adhered to Dink's ideas, until my brother-in-law gave birth to a son, and everything seemed to change.
As the owner of a cigarette shop, I thought my life was carefree. The parents are alive and well, but the laughter at home is scarce due to the lack of laughter from the grandchildren. When my brother and I were both married, my father anxiously nagged, "Both brothers are 30 years old, and they are both married to daughters-in-law, and if we don't let him hold our grandson in the past two years, he will kick the two of us out." ”
The expectations of my parents and the joy of my brother-in-law have become worries in my heart. Xiaoqin's insistence on Dink's ideas made me feel helpless, until my brother-in-law gave birth to a child, and Xiaoqin's attitude towards the child has changed subtly.
In this well-off village, a piece of news broke the peace. There was a notice of demolition in the village, and the three buildings were no exception. Although the timing of the demolition has not yet been determined, the news has made the family look forward to the future. The younger brother was made a joke because of this, saying that the demolition money would be his. This joke may be an understatement, but in Xiaoqin's view, it touched her thinking about the future.
After my brother-in-law gave birth to a child, the atmosphere of our family changed subtly. The love of parents for their grandchildren makes us feel the warmth of family. I visited my eldest nephew frequently, and my parents tried to hold their grandson every day. Xiaoqin also began to take the initiative to participate, which seemed to awaken her certain expectations for her children.
Just when everything seemed to be moving in a positive direction, our family was once again lost in thought. One day in September, the person who was surveying the demolition at home left a casual joke, but the joke caused Xiaoqin to think deeply. The younger brother smiled and said nothing, but the implication of his words made Xiaoqin feel uneasy.
This casual conversation and laughter made Xiaoqin start to think about whether she should have a child. For the future demolition and the distribution of the family property, Xiaoqin began to rethink the position of the child in the family. She was worried that if we were gone, everything would end up at her brother's house, and we would have nothing.
This turning point became an opportunity for us to think about our children. Xiaoqin began to worry about her retirement and the inheritance of the family property after she grew old. She said to me, "Either we still have one child, preferably two, or when we are old in the future, there may really be no one to support us." ”
As a result, the mental journey from Dink's proposition to "having two children" quietly unfolded in this special context. We started to prepare for pregnancy, hoping that by this time next year, I would be a happy father.
The story may reflect the struggle of contemporary young people between individuality and family responsibilities. Although we seek freedom, people can't help but think about their own life trajectories in the face of family expectations and worries about the future. Dink's proposition seems to be rational, but when the variables of real life appear, perhaps we will find that family and affection play a far more role in life than we imagine.
Young people seek to liberate their individuality, but the twists and turns of life often make us re-examine our choices. Children may be a beautiful sustenance in life, a responsibility for the future, and a continuation of the past. As Xiaoqin said, "Although the child is good, but it depends on other people's families, and when you have a child, you will find that you have to worry about it every day, and there are all kinds of troubles." ”
At this unique moment, we redefine our lives and think about the trajectory of the future. Perhaps, for family and affection, we all need to perceive it with a warm heart and bear it with responsibility, so as to make life more colorful.