In the process of guiding your child through homework, it is not uncommon to encounter situations where your child makes the same mistake over and over again. Even if parents repeatedly emphasize a certain knowledge point, children will still inevitably make mistakes in the same place.
At this time, the parent's emotions may be greatly affected, and it is easy to say something that is not quite appropriate, such as:
How many times have I talked about this knowledge, why don't you still know it?”、
Why don't you have such a long memory?How many more times will the same mistake be made?”、
How can you do that?How can the results be good?”
Why are you wrong again, you don't even think about your homework?”
These end with "you......The accusatory rhetoric at the beginning, often with a strong tone of reproach and criticism, is easy for children to panic, unable to concentrate on the mistake itself, and thus difficult to solve the problem of repeating the same mistake. In fact, there are many reasons that cause children to make the same mistakes repeatedly, including the following four aspects.
First of all, it may be that the knowledge points are too complex and beyond the child's level of understanding.
Secondly, children may be distracted when doing questions, and they may not understand the knowledge points well, and their understanding is not thorough enough.
Third, parents may be too serious when tutoring their children's homework, causing children to choose not to know how to pretend to understand in order to escape the tense atmosphere as soon as possible.
Finally, children may lack the ability to reflect, lack deep reflection on mistakes, and do not actively look for the causes, and as a result, they fall into a situation where they make mistakes again and again.
While it is infuriating for a child to make the same mistake repeatedly on the same type of topic or on the same point of knowledge, getting angry does not solve the problem.
Therefore, when facing this situation, parents should first stay calm, and then use reasonable words to guide their children to analyze the reasons for the mistakes. Here are some suggested words.
1."I noticed that you always make mistakes in this knowledge point, is it because this knowledge point is too difficult?”
2."It's not good to make the same mistakes all the time, let's find out why we make mistakes, okay?”
3."Why do you make mistakes so often with these types of questions?Is it because I was too impatient and rushed to write without waiting for the topic to be finished, thus ignoring the meaning of the second half of the sentence?”
4."Why do you keep making mistakes here?Is it because you don't understand enough knowledge points, or because you don't pay attention?”
Parents should keep a calm mind when their children make the same mistakes repeatedly, avoid loud blame, and do not attack their children with words, so as not to make the children feel nervous and scared, and then produce unreal performance, which will eventually lead to repeated mistakes repeatedly.
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