Hello, I'm Jian Shuxin, and I love reading and writing.
Yesterday, someone asked me again to open a small shop in Fan Deng, and it is cheaper to listen to books. I'm glad to be able to help everyone.
Let's start today's topic: If you really love your children, don't let yourself be a parent who curses your children.
Yesterday, the child's grandmother brought a kitchen knife to the sofa to peel apples for us (there are three different types of fruit knives at home, and the old man has his own personality when he reaches a certain age).
It really scared me, and I was afraid that I would accidentally hurt the child, so I was surprised: "Oh my mother, slow down."
I've been fiddling with knives for so many years", apparently she didn't understand what I meant.
The child said, "I want to take a knife too."
Grandma said, "When you grow up, you have to take it if you don't want to."
I couldn't take it anymore and interrupted the conversation: "Don't say it anymore, she can live the life she wants".
reminds me of what Dou Jingtong once talked about in an interview, which basically means that she hated Faye Wong very much when she was a child, because Faye Wong would always tell her when she was happy, "Don't be happy too early, because nothing is permanent", she would feel very disappointed.
I think it's sad that her next words: "At that time, I was young, and I didn't understand my mother's kindness. But when I grew up, I realized that this was the case."
She resigned herself to her fate. She was completely caught up in the nightmare woven by her mother, and those "cursed" words became her subconscious, the trajectory of her life.
When I was a child, my dad used to complain to me, "You know what I'm going to do when you grow up."
I was so disgusted by this that I shouted inwardly several times, "Why should I grow up hard?"Why can't I live a happy and free life?“。
Despite all this shouting, at least until now, my subconscious mind is still affected.
So, everyone, whether you are grandparents, grandparents, parents, brothers and sisters, I want to appeal from the heart
If you really love your children, please put away your worries, let go of your "shoulds", forget your painful experiences, give your children more praise and blessings, and please believe that your children will live a happy, healthy, peaceful, free and unfettered life.
For parents, just a few words can be done in a few seconds, but the impact of each sentence on the child is long-standing.
If your words do not have a positive impact on the child, it is possible to subtract the child's future happiness.
If you are not sure what the impact of a sentence will have, then it is better not to say it.
In addition, after coming back from Sanya, I began to insist on live writing, today is the 6th day, if you like writing, if you have any questions and confusion about writing, you can connect Maiha.
That's all for today, I wish you all the best and all the best.
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About the Author:Jian Shuxin, a post-80s mother, is a lifelong practitioner of Xi. Adhere to originality, hoping that through my own sharing, I can influence more Chinese to fall in love with reading and writing and personal improvement.