The dream of supporting the elderly in a group is shattered, why did my life with my sister collapse

Mondo Social Updated on 2024-01-30

I am 62 years old this year, I only have a pension of more than 2,000 yuan a month, and I have raised my daughter alone, she is now married, and I also went to live in her house for a while, but finally moved out. Hey, the two generations have different living Xi and different concepts, and I will return to my hometown with my grandson.

People really have their own difficulties when they get old. The children have their own homes, and my sister and I live alone. That day, my sister told me that we might as if we were going to live together, and I thought it was a good idea. My sister has a larger pension than I do, and her house is also spacious, with two south-facing bedrooms, which is also comfortable to live in.

I agreed to my sister's offer to rent out my house and collect some rent. Now we two lonely old people have the same sickness and sympathy, and we can take care of each other by living together.

It's really laughable to say. When my sister first proposed to live together, I thought it was a good idea, after all, we two elderly people have the same feelings and need to be taken care of. And the kids were also supportive of our idea and brought us double gifts every time they came back, which made us feel happy.

However, after actually living together, I realized that this type of retirement may not be a long-term solution.

Living with my sister, I realized that she was too frugal in life, which was a bit excessive. The two of us clearly said that the AA system would be 1,000 yuan per person for living expenses, but she was really too economical for herself.

My sister takes a bath once a week to save water, but I Xi take a bath every day. I wash it once a week, and I'm worried that I'm going to start to smell old.

My sister left all the water we usually used to wash our vegetables and hands and faces, and bought a large bucket to use to flush the toilet, which is also called "secondary use". This water has been used by us, and it is easy to breed bacteria and small flying insects when left for a long time.

In order to save electricity, my sister often turns off the lights when watching TV, which is simply hurting her eyes!

I admit that thrift is a virtue, but thrift affects your quality of life and health, and it really outweighs the loss. I like to keep my home clean and clean, and I like to live comfortably, so I don't take the extra mile of saving like my sister.

She likes to buy discounted, wilt-looking dishes, and she always buys them in large batches and eats the same dishes for days on end.

I prefer to buy fresh vegetables, just enough to stir-fry one meal at a time. This way, there is no waste, and the freshest and tastiest dishes are guaranteed. Moreover, even if the dish is expensive, it only costs a small amount of money, so there is no need to buy so much at once like my sister.

My sister's Xi and I are not in sync.

She always slept late at night, scrolling through her phone until eleven or twelve o'clock, while I went to bed before 9:30 on time every day.

Although we are in two rooms, there will always be a faint voice in her mobile phone and her own laughter from time to time, resulting in me also lack of sleep later, and often have no energy during the day. I think Xi routine is very important for physical health, especially for us seniors, we should pay attention to maintaining adequate sleep.

My sister's two sons and daughter-in-law are also very speechless, since I moved in, they come back every other day and five weekends to eat, each time they bring a dozen children to come, and after they come, they don't do any work, and my sister and I have to serve them. And my sister always wants to cook a few more dishes because of the face of her two daughters-in-law, and every time they come back, I am very busy.

The expenses are all ours, not to mention, every time we leave, the house is messy, and I have to let my sister and I clean up the kitchen and living room, and we are tired enough at the end of the day. These people are simply behaving at the old and completely ignoring our feelings.

I was indeed a little depressed in my heart, but after all, it was my sister's child, so I was embarrassed to say it directly. After staying at her house for about half a year, I decided to move back to my own house.

To be honest, no matter whether it is a golden nest or a silver nest, I still feel that my shabby little home is the warmest. When you are too old to walk, you may want to go to a nursing home or find someone to help take care of your life. To be honest, you can't rely on others to be reliable.

Husbands and wives also fight for three days, not to mention the two sisters, there are more things between women, so this kind of group pension sounds very good, but it doesn't work at all!

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