It has been said that life is like a plate, but the way you approach life determines how it returns to you.
When you complain about life's difficulties, you don't know that trying to escape will only make you sink deeper and deeper. If you live for the evaluation of others, you will lose yourself. Only when I was there. If you live for others, your mind will be influenced by others.
On this road called life, there are always some people who have gone through the worst road, and there are people who have walked the best road.
In order to go further on this path of life, we must learn to reconcile with ourselves.
1. If you live in the judgment of others, you will eventually lose yourself.
The Tao Te Ching says: "We must not be afraid of what people are afraid of. ”
Human beings are born small, and as soon as they are born into this world, they are destined to endure all kinds of hardships in life.
Our birth, growth, and maturity are all tests that God has given us.
If we can't accept our shortcomings, we will live in misery. In your life, you are the most important person in the eyes of others. If you worry about what others think, you will eventually forget about yourself.
As human beings, our greatest fear is to be labeled as "boring" or "hypocritical" by others. You can't deny everything about yourself just because of how others see you.
You have to believe that no matter what others think of you, it will not affect who you really are.
So, instead of living according to other people's opinions, listen to what you really want to do in your heart. Rather than being ruthlessly defined by others and not letting others define your life, it is better to be firm in your own life. If you're doomed to fail, it's best to define success for yourself. It's better to try to be yourself than to get frustrated because others are judging you.
Remember: you can only live once. Nothing is worth wasting your time and energy.
2.If you live in comparisons, you will eventually become physically and mentally exhausted.
When we envy what others have, we often lose what is most important to us.
When we envy others, we are actually denying ourselves. However, there are people in life who do not hesitate to exhaust their body and mind in order to satisfy their vanity and desire for comparison.
Not long ago, a woman in Shanghai not only spent all the living expenses her husband had saved for herself, but also kicked her husband out of the house because of blind comparison.
Surveillance showed her standing happily on the street in gorgeous clothes.
But in reality, she "left" her husband to satisfy her vanity and desire for comparison. She thought that her husband would sympathize with her, but she didn't expect him to abandon her "ruthlessly".
In real life, this phenomenon of blind comparison or excessive comparison is not uncommon.
Not only will this make you fall into pain and not be able to get out on your own, but it will also make you lose yourself, lose yourself, and erode the love that others have for you.
3.If you live an obsessive life, you will miss out on a lot.
It's a little story. Some people are saddened by the loss of their beloved shoes.
One day, he saw the shoe reappear on the market. I thought, if I had these shoes, I wouldn't be sad anymore.
So he tried his best to make money and finally bought shoes. But he was also worried that others would laugh at him for not being able to buy shoes.
So he started running again, but the pain of losing his shoes still haunted him. So he spent all his money on the shoes.
Later, people finally discovered his behavior. However, by this time he had passed away.
At the end of his life, the man realized that what he needed most was not a new dress, but a pair of shoes.
Writer Yoo Young-tae put it this way. "Life is about losing, there will always be something lost on every road, and you will always pick up something at every corner. ”
4. Living in lust will only sink you deeper. Or even deeper.
There is too much greed in life.
We always want to be better, but we forget what we really want. It has been said that the greatest sorrow of a person is to live forever in the eyes of others and forget to be himself.
A truly mature person knows how to suppress desires and live life the way he likes. Really smart people know how to control their temper at the right time so that they can have a better life. A truly transparent person knows how to enjoy life. The present moment is every moment in life.
Because they know that too much desire will ruin not only the present, but also the future.
It has been said, "Don't be satisfied with things, don't be sad about yourself." ”
Only those who can do these things in life can spend many years in peace and tranquility.
We often get into trouble, and when we are troubled by it, we have to learn how to deal with it psychologically.
Mindset is a kind of strength, a magic weapon to solve emotions. You can turn your worries into clouds, your sorrows into gusts of wind, and your worries into motivation. For your progress.