In this life, there are often some things that you can't think about, such as why the person you love suddenly doesn't love you and wants to leave you;For example, why do you suddenly want to give up one day and can't hold on to things that you once worked hard to persevere?Another example is that you find that you want to get something, why you can't get it, or if you lose something like that, you can't keep ...... at all
Life never stops moving, and it always keeps creating some regrets and problems for us, making us suffer, confused, entangled and uneasy about it.
But life has to go on, life has to be good, what should we do?"The First Flower" gives us the best answer: when you understand these three points, you don't have to be anxious about life!
1. People are selfless, and things are also selfless.
Selflessness is also a universal property of things.
I am changeable", changeable things are not eternal, but change all the time with the change of external conditions and internal components. So, what is the ever-changing thing, how can there be a real me?The state of "me" is constantly changing and changing. Our selflessness is a matter of effectively eliminating suffering.
You can always remind yourself that everything is selfless, and feelings change at any time, so that in the face of illness and suffering, we will feel much more relaxed in our hearts. Rather than magnifying the original suffering, it will help us to face and bear the pain more easily.
2. Suffering comes from self-grasping and dharma-grasping, that is, attachment to oneself and attachment to the things around oneself.
Pain is to care too much about your feelings, to indulge in your past emotions and not be able to extricate yourself, to cling to having it, and not being able to accept the fact of loss. This causes psychological distress.
The relationship between people and people is not immutable. Parents and children, one day, will face someone who is leaving;A loving husband and wife, there will also be one who will leave you early;Not to mention lovers and friends. Money, materiality, status and reputation are things outside the body, and when we come to the world naked, we will not take anything with us when we leave.
What you are suffering for is that you can't let go of yourself.
3. It is really difficult to recognize the diversity of the world and respect differences and differences, because everyone only wants to change others, not themselves.
There are so many different people in the world, we can't try to change everyone, the only thing we can do is to try to change ourselves.
Confucius said: "Choose those who are good and follow them, and change those who are not good." "Choose the good aspects of others to learn Xi, and when you see the bad aspects of others, you will correct the shortcomings of yourself.
Walking in the world, we must be "tactful", learn to tolerate the mistakes and shortcomings of others, and treat others with a kind eye. It's much easier to change yourself than it is to change others.
Life is not only bad in front of you, but there are many beautiful scenery on the road ahead. We have to learn to give, to adjust our mindset positively, to try to change it.
Be kind to yourself and be kind to others. Not afraid of the past, not afraid of the future. The years are quiet, and the coming days are long.
Life is full of suffering, and only inner calmness is the best choice for us to face the long road of life. Because anxiety, fear, and dwelling are meaningless in themselves, do not solve problems, and can even make problems and suffering more difficult to accept.
"If there is a solution to the problem, there is no need to worry;If you can't solve it, it's useless to worry."This is a sentence from Khenpo Xi'a Rongbo's spiritual essay "The Blooming of the Second Flower", which is deeply affected and also relieves our anxiety.
Tibetan sagesKhenpo Shia Rongpo taught in his book The Blossoming of the Stages of Flowers: "Some people live in peace without a fixed place, while others live in luxurious homes all their lives.
Impermanence is not a transitional period of life, but a whole life。Because what we want to grasp and rely on is inherently unreliable, it is painful. It is not impermanence that causes suffering, but attachment. ”
Khenpo Xia Rongbo uses wise and soft words to tell the story in the way of thinking and expression of modern peopleSuffering, precious life, self-grasping, life, and practiceand other topics, giving us encouragement and inspiration.
Life is impermanent, except for life and death, the rest are just bruises. "The First Flower" also tells us:Once cause and effect are ripe, no action can prevent the manifestation of karma. If pain and embarrassment are inevitable, it is best to prepare ourselves.
To be prepared, you have to be honest with yourself and start your spiritual journey.
Life is notLose and have。Life is more like a practice full of suffering, which is not easy. If you want to get through this life, you have to cultivate yourself well and make yourself strong insideCalm and calmIn the face of all kinds of difficulties and obstacles, laugh at life.
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Remember, Fan Deng commented:"In 'The First Flower', I learned for the first time what true freedom is. The way to read this book is to turn a page at random, just read it, and there is a spiritual harvest. ”
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The author of the book says, "The secret of happiness is learning."Accept life's shortcomingsAccepting a less perfect self is actually what we often call contentment. ”
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