Everyone wants to be treated with kindness, but sometimes we may meet people who are scheming and seem to be kind and honest, but they are often bullied as fools. InSocial, asHonest peopleIf you want not to be regarded as a stupid person, you need to remember the following three sentences: kindness must have a ruler, tolerance must be moderate, and don't be too soft-hearted. Although these words are simple, they contain important wisdom in life.
We are taught from an early age to be kind to others, which is our basic etiquette and moral code as human beings. However, we are seldom told under what circumstances we should fight for ourselves. InSocialMedium, kindHonest peopleThey are often bullied because they are not good at discerning the true intentions of others and always use kindness as a reason to back down. In fact, kindness without scale is a kind of stupidity, which not only makes people soft-hearted, but also leads to their own injuries.
In the face of betrayal and hurt, we must not overindulge others and make them directly responsible. Even if it is inconvenient for us to criticize openly, we should let them be punished mentally. Because for those who hurt others and don't care about it, your tolerance will only make them think that you are a fool who can be easily taken advantage of.
Forbearance is a virtue that allows us to live in harmony with others and reduce conflict and friction. However, if excessive tolerance makes people feel that we are weak and can be bullied, it will attract more bullying and harm, likeBroken window effectThe same. Broken window effectis a concept in psychology when someone breaks a doorwindowsLater, if it is not properly punished or repaired, others may see it as connivance and break morewindows。The same applies to relationships, when we are too tolerant of others' wrongdoings and do not receive the necessary punishment and lessons, they are likely to continue to hurt us. Therefore, when facing harm, we need to make clear boundaries and let others know that we are a person with a bottom line and that we will not tolerate injustice and aggression.
People are often blinded by their kindness and empathy, and remain overly tolerant of those who have hurt them. Doing so may seem noble, but in reality it is hurting yourself. When He Jian faced the betrayal of his wife Xiaoying, although he was conflicted, he finally chose to forgive. However, his tolerance did not make Xiaoying repent, but made her feel that her behavior could be connived upon. We must not let our soft-heartedness become a tool for others to use, we must be clear about our bottom line and protect our own rights and interests.
When others hurt you, you must dare to stand up for your own rights and interests, and don't be bound by your own soft-heartedness. Don't let yourself be bullied by others anymore, and let others understand that you are not an easy person to be bullied. Don't be afraid to lose something precious, because that may be just the surface of the thing, you lose it and you get more and better things. So, don't easily forgive anyone who has hurt you, you have to protect yourself and make your life better.
InSocial, asHonest peopleWe must maintain the original intention of kindness and not easily hurt others. However, when we are faced with betrayal and hurt, we need to remember the three sentences of kindness, tolerance and moderation, and don't be too soft-hearted. Kindness must have a ruler, fight for one's rights and interests within a reasonable range, and not be bullied as a fool. Tolerance should be moderate, do not give in excessively, and protect your dignity and interests.
Don't be too soft-hearted, don't easily forgive those who have hurt you, and protect your rights and interests. Only then can we be thereSocialProtect yourself and make people respect us. Everyone should strive to be a kind person with a bottom line, not to be bullied as a fool, and at the same time, to be clear about their bottom line and protect their own interests. I hope you can draw wisdom from these three sentences and make your life better.