Can expert advice still be called advice?
It's an interesting topic. Isn't the birth of an expert for the sake of the people?Aren't they on the side of the people?Is it to try to make life possible for the people?But for the current society, experts are really a little confused.
You must know that experts are the people's experts. They don't just exist for profit, but are based on facts. They need to tell the truth, tell the truth, and take responsibility for what they say, and not start babbling in the name of experts.
Specialist as a inAcademics, skillsand other people with specialized research or expertise, their words and deeds can influence others. Because in our cognition, experts are the most powerful people, and their analysis is the Tao, just like the existence of weather forecasts.
But today's "experts" have made people lose their curiosity and trust.
The so-called "experts" seem to have young people?
At present, there is a professor at Xiamen University, Zhao Yanqing, who said that young people do not have children
Appropriate penalties should be imposed.
This remark really aroused the anger and dissatisfaction of the young people.
It can be seen that these so-called "experts" have never thought about what they are about to face when having a baby. First of all, excluding the pain that we will face when giving birth to a child, we are still facing problems such as housing, employment, and how to raise a baby。Today's society is simply a word "volume", and it is really not the same as "volume".
I just want to say, is it true that young people don't want to have children?
Not. It's that we can't even solve our own food and clothing problems, so how can we talk about having children?
Do you really want to gnaw old for the rest of your life?
Speaking of the word "gnawing the old", another expert jumped out.
Zheng Bingwen expert said:It is difficult to raise a baby, so you can ask relatives and friends for help.
In his cognition, it is:
Young people, especially young couples, still have to look forward, difficulties are temporary after all, people's life is still long, seize the effective childbearing period, the temporary difficulties, borrow the strength of relatives and friends, otherwise after this age, I am afraid it will be a little too late to regret.If you borrow money from relatives and friends, don't they have to raise children?
Stop!Don't say I'm "raising the bar".
This is a fact, it is one thing for young people to have children and ask relatives and friends to borrow money, and whether to lend it to you or not. Not all friends and family will borrow money because they have their own difficulties. They have several babies in their own families, how can they borrow money?
If you borrow money well, you will get along for a lifetime, and if you don't borrow well, the relationship will break down directly.
Again, it's not useful to borrow money from friends and relatives, because they have families of their own.
Regarding what this expert said, some netizens said that they were indeed right, so they should ask experts to provide a plan on how to help young people have babies during the time of childbirth. I have to say that this irony is really real.
Since experts want young people to have babies, we must first solve our housing problems, don't you have a house to live in and sleep with a baby?After solving the housing problem, there must be some living security, otherwise what will the children eat. After these problems are removed, it is time for children to be enlightened, and when it is time to go to school, should they also take action?
Therefore, these "experts" should not take the birth of a baby as simple. Indeed, our mothers and grandmothers are very easy to give birth to a baby, and they can be done in one bowl. But is life really a bowl that can be done now?Today's society has changed dramatically.
First of all,It still has to be around why more and more young people are reluctant to have children
From the beginning of our school to the stage of going out of society, it can be said that we are carefree and do not have to worry about having children or housing at all. However, after leaving society, all the pressure seems to be directly on the younger generation. Because at this time we can already be called adults, and then it is time to marry and have children.
Marry a wife and have children" are easy to say, if you want to find a partner, you must have a beautiful nest, so that someone is willing to fall in love with you. But don't talk about this substance, if you don't have a home, the child you give birth to will really have to sleep on the streets.
In the past, it was necessary to have a home, but now it is not only necessary to have a home, but also to have a home in the city. And this is "involution", because most people buy houses in the city, and their children study in the city, and what they want is not just to have children, but to have a career for their children.
Just ask:What parent doesn't want their child to get over as much as possible?
So, sometimes not giving birth is also a kind of kindness.
We don't want our children to suffer, we don't want our children to have mortgages and car loans in the future, and we don't want them to face the pain of unemployment in the future. Today's economic pressure cannot be ignored, on the surface it is true that the wage level has increased a little (some have also cut wages and laid off employees), but in terms of housing prices, these wages are simply not enough.
Housing prices in small cities are tens of thousands;Needless to say, in big cities, there are millions of housing prices. Seeing such high housing prices, would you still be willing to have children?
Especially in our rural areas, my parents always warn us that girls and boys will not get married and have children, and that there will be no one to support you after you don't get married and have children. I really don't know if it's right or wrong, and even many young people are very confused, do they have to get married and have children?
This is true in their perception, and so do most Chinese families. But this is easier said than done, it's really hard, it's hard to get to the sky.
Nowadays, the generation that crushes young people is housing prices, employment, how to raise children, and then there are problems of housing and car loans.
To put it simply, it's because it's too "rolly".
How to find a solution?
I think the advice of experts is okay, it is not so easy to have children, it is useless to find relatives and friends, they themselves have a small family. But fortunately, today's parents are also very open-minded, they know that today's society is different, and the changes are quite large.
Even if you raise a child now, society will thank you, and the boss will thank you, but your child will never thank you. Because your pressure has been given to him, he will have to bear the mortgage and car loan in the future, and making money is not as easy as he imagined. Now it's useless to feel sorry for yourself, you can only keep working, so that you can support yourself and not trouble others.
What I want to say is:Today's stress is "destroying" the mind!
How do you solve it?
At the moment, it's still unknown.
At this time, it was also called,Can the abolition of bride price increase the fertility rate?
Not to mention canceling the bride price, it is a bit difficult to give a suite. It's impossible to have a baby and leave nothing behind, so that's another big difficulty. Our generation of young people is very thorough, they have already seen clearly, and now they just want to go to work.
Don't ask: Why do young people only think about going to work?
The question is:These wages can only be used for rent, living (food, use), and nothing else.