In the evening, after our family of four finished eating, I was busy cleaning up, so I asked my husband to play with my daughter.
Somehow, he looked at his daughter and suddenly sighed: "My daughter will find a partner in the future, and my old father will cry to death." ”
I laughed out loud. My husband is a daughter slave, but my daughter is only in kindergarten now. He's like this now, what can he do in the future?
So, I asked casually: "Then what kind of son-in-law do you want your daughter to find you?"”
I just asked casually, but my husband thought seriously for a while and replied to me
Of course, it is good to have money and power, but if it is an ordinary family, there is no pension or the in-laws whose pension is too low, you must not consider it. ”
Hearing this, my expression froze.
My husband also realized that he had said the wrong thing and quickly changed his words. Say, "Hey!."I was wrong!In fact, the main thing about finding a partner is that the person is good, and everything else is not important. ”
However, it was too late for him to make amends, and I couldn't laugh anymore.
Because in the future, I will be the mother-in-law and mother-in-law who have no pension.
My name is Zhou Meng, and I am 36 years old. I gave birth early, so I basically didn't go to work, so I returned to my family early.
Before the age of 30, I was mainly busy taking care of my son, and 4 years ago, because of my husband's "daughter dream", we had a second child.
My in-laws are not in good health, and my mother-in-law has no one to help, so I am up to myself to take care of the children.
Now the eldest son has entered junior high school, and the youngest daughter has just entered kindergarten. My husband always said that having a son and a daughter is enough for this life, but behind this happy life, only I know how helpless.
My family has been supported by my husband's salary all these years, although it is enough to spend, but it is not very rich.
We changed houses a few years ago and spent most of our savings. And although my family seems to be in charge of the accounts, my husband's salary is counted, and I can't spend it at will.
Over the years, our minds have been focused on saving money for a house and raising children, and I have also raised the matter of paying social security for myself several times.
But my husband blocked me back every time on the grounds that "you are still young".
Today, he mentions "pension" in this way, which makes me have to pay attention to it.
So in the evening, I discussed it with my husband again.
In fact, I have said hello a long time ago, I have been at home, I can pay a flexible employment, pay enough years, and I will be able to receive a pension in the future.
However, my husband's reason has not changed, he said: "More than 10,000 a year, how good it is for us to save this money ourselves, why do we need to hand over this money?"”
But I said, "People say that the sooner you think about retirement, the better, and I'm already too late." You also said that if you let your daughter find a partner and not find someone who has no pension at home, then I'm not holding my child back?”
The husband still didn't want to, he said, "I'm just joking, who knows if you're still serious?".Besides, now that you have delayed retirement, even if you pay this money, you don't know when you will receive it. ”
Seeing that I did not give up, he comforted me again and said, "You have raised your sons and daughters well, and you are afraid that you will not be able to enjoy their blessings in the future?"”
I've heard this I don't know how many times, but I know in my heart that the reason why my husband painted me cakes was because he wanted to hold that little extra money in his hands, so that he could feel safe.
After all, if you pay social security to me, you can't see the harvest right away.
However, he has a sense of security, where does my sense of security come from?
Seeing that I'm 36, I can't put it off any longer. So my husband didn't want to, so I had to find a way on myself.
After thinking about it, I had to go and find a job. Use the money you earn to pay yourself social security.
But after all these years at home, I don't know what I can do. I tried to submit some resumes, but I didn't hear back.
When I was depressed, I saw that the B&B in my building was recruiting cleaners, so I asked ruthlessly, and I was retained.
Because I live close to me, I can work at any time, and this job is not too difficult for me. After a few days, I was fine.
Although I don't earn much, it's enough for me to pay for my pension every month.
When I learned that I was working as a cleaner outside, my husband complained a lot. After all, he has always claimed that I am working full-time at home, and now I am a cleaner, and he feels that it is not very decent.
My husband shouted for me to resign, saying that there was no need to work so hard for that money.
But I won't listen to him again this time.
Because although I am working harder now than before, my heart is much more steady.
In the past, I always thought that if I took good care of my family and was a good wife and mother, then my husband and family would be my retreat and protection. But I have only now discovered that I can only rely on my own planning and fighting for my own interests.
My husband has always disagreed with me to pay social security because he looks at it from his own perspective and thinks the money is not worth it.
However, for me, if I want to make it worthwhile, I have to get it myself.
Fortunately, I didn't understand it too late, at least for now, I still have time to add confidence to my retirement life.
I've decided that I'll always work as long as I can get a job.
Relying on children to support the elderly and relying on husbands to provide for the elderly is not reliable. Because of the sense of security, you can only give yourself yourself.