Qian Zhongshu's long story "The Siege of the City" is a masterpiece of modern and contemporary Chinese literature, and it is also a satire**, which is known as"The Outer History of Neo-Confucianism".
Most people's impression of it may stay on the sentence "Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to enter, and people in the city want to come out".
But there is no such sentence in the book, it is just a similar meaning. However, there are indeed a lot of golden sentences about marriage in the book, and some of them are the most ruthless about love and marriage, which makes people feel that it is not just satirical, but the truth of marriage and love.
1. People outside the city want to rush in, and people in the city want to escape.
This sentence was said by Miss Su, and she followed Shen Ming's words. Shen Ming quoted an old English saying when talking about marriage, saying that marriage is like a gold-lacquered birdcage, the birds outside the cage want to live in, and the birds inside the cage want to fly out.
Miss Su quoted a French proverb that says that marriage is like a besieged castle, people outside the city want to rush in, and people in the city want to escape. In fact, our understanding of it is that people who have been married want to divorce, and people who are not married want to get married, which is a kind of hindsight.
I have to say that this sentence has made many people afraid of marriage, especially those who have no opinions, they dare not get married, for fear of being said by this sentence. I think the negative effects of it are greater than the positive effects of **, so don't let it affect you if you are not married.
2. The old man is in love, I heard that the old house is on fire, and there is no salvation when it burns up.
This sentence was said when Fang Hong gradually felt that he was in an old state of mind, and thought of falling in love when he was a teenager older, just like when the old house was on fire and could not be saved.
Don't say it, there are many people who fall in love vigorously at sunset, especially those who have lost their wives for many years, and they are more eager to fall in love again in their lifetimes.
In the TV series "It's All Good", the sunset love between Su Daqiang and nanny Xiao Cai is an obvious example. Although her daughter Su Mingyu drove the nanny home after learning about it, and threatened to cut off her living expenses, she did not let Su Daqiang obediently.
Although this sentence is Fang Hongji's self-deprecation, it also makes us understand that in marriage, whether it is a young person or an old man, the love is the same and respected, rather than treating sunset love as old and improper, which will hurt the old man's heart.
3. For an ugly person, it is cruel to look closely - unless he is a bad person, you have to punish him.
No matter at any time, ugly men and ugly women are not welcomed in love and marriage, in "The Siege of the City", Xin Ling said that ugly lesbians are even more scared to death when they drink, and Fang Hongjian also echoed that it is cruel to look at ugly people carefully, which is heart-wrenching for people who are not so good-looking.
But the strange thing is that in real life, what you see is a different scene, how many beasts are around beautiful women, and there are more ordinary-looking girls around handsome guys, and the kind of pair made in heaven in TV series rarely appears, which is heart-wrenching for handsome men and beautiful women.
In fact, whether you are in love or in love, as long as two people look at each other, it is enough to have a tragedy once you judge people by their appearance, because the years urge people to grow old, no one is forever young and beautiful, only like-minded people can be together for a long time, which many people have not figured out until they broke up.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu may not be a master of love, but he said a lot in "The Siege" that makes people feel a little"Ruthless".words, especially that one"People outside the city want to rush in, people in the city want to escape"., influencing generations.
But the relationship is your own, and the other half is also your own choice, and whether the marriage is happy or not depends on yourself, what do you say?