My name is Xiaomin, and my mother-in-law's life is really different.
My parents have 2 daughters, I also have an older sister, and my husband's family, he is an only child.
My dad used to be in the construction team, and a few years ago, my mother was always by my side to take care of me, and it wasn't until my sister got married that my mother came back.
In order to help them, their parents gave them some money to pay a down payment to buy a house, and then my sister became pregnant and gave birth to a child, so my mother simply stayed in her hometown and helped my sister take care of the child.
And when it comes to me, the treatment is the same.
My husband and I are in the same factory, I am a clerk, he is a technician, my husband's hometown is in the countryside, when I got married, my future mother-in-law gave me 5,000 yuan to buy gold jewelry, and there was nothing else.
When we got married, it was also my parents who paid us a down payment to buy a house, and we took out our own loans to pay off slowly, my mother encouraged me at the time, you are still young, don't be afraid, when I was with your father, I was also poor and nothing, and now I don't have everything.
My husband and I actually have a good income, but then I had a child, I felt a lot of pressure, in order to continue to work, I took 4 months of maternity leave to work, at that time I wanted my mother-in-law to help me take care of the child, but my mother-in-law refused.
The mother-in-law's reason was simple, she said she would not take children.
Later, my husband told me that he was actually brought up by his grandparents since he was a child.
The husband said that his mother didn't know anything, neither went to work nor took care of the children, and couldn't do housework, and the family was used to it, and so many years passed.
Later, my mother helped raise the child.
My mother is in my house to help take care of the children, it can be said that the heart and lungs, she not only takes the children but also helps us do housework, buy vegetables and cook, I feel a little unhappy, and propose to let the mother only take the children, but my mother always feels very sorry for me and my husband, she said that her time is very good, she can do these housework.
In fact, the mother just takes the time to take advantage of the baby's nap, seize the time to do housework, clean the dishes at night, and fry the vegetables when we go home, so that we can eat when we get home.
Mother-in-law refused to come to take the child, when the baby was young, the mother-in-law didn't seem to care much, and she didn't play once a few months, only when the child was a little older, we went back during the New Year's holidays, and the mother-in-law took her grandson around, and told the neighbors that this was her grandson, and the mother-in-law was very proud at the time, and kept letting the baby call grandma.
Because the baby is not often mother-in-law, she is not enthusiastic about her mother-in-law, and she is not very willing to call her, and her mother-in-law later got angry, saying that it must have been instigated by her grandmother, and she said a lot of bad things in front of her husband.
Mom always told me, that's your mother-in-law, it's your elders, telling us to be filial, but I can't respect such a mother-in-law in my heart, my mother-in-law has neither money nor effort to me, my grandson has grown up and has not brought a day, but she is still trying to transfer the relationship between our family, this is my mother-in-law, if it is a stranger, I will never contact her again.
My mother-in-law had never been to work in her life, and she became obsessed with ballroom dancing in the first two years.
She wore her hair in big waves and dyed yellow, and she wore high-heeled leather boots and a little skirt, and she was much more fashionable than our young mothers.
In fact, my mother-in-law dressed up like this, and we all felt disgusted in our hearts.
My husband is uncomfortable when I look at it, but it's hard for my own mother to say it, my husband doesn't say it, and I can't say anything, I heard that my father-in-law has quarreled with my mother-in-law many times because of this.
This year, my baby is in kindergarten, and my mom feels that her tasks have been completed, and she has two options.
Either take care of your dad who works far away, or recuperate in peaceBut she didn't choose any of them, but chose to work part-time.
She found two families in the community by herself, the other party is a small couple, my mother came to do housework and cook, one morning, one afternoon, the two families added up to a monthly salary of 4,000 yuan.
My mom was very happy with the salary, and she said that she used to work the same way, and now she can create value.
In fact, I also understand my mother's thoughts, although she and my father have a pension, but she always feels that the future pension is very expensive, she feels sorry for our two daughters, afraid that we will spend money, she wants to save more, so that it will not trouble the children.
Originally, my mother went to work, and I was very opposed, but later I saw that she was in good shape, and the time arrangement was quite reasonable, so I accepted it, and all I could do was to go back to eat with her on the weekend, and then do housework, so that she was happy.
But my mother-in-law, since she became obsessed with ballroom dancing, it turned out that the 2,000 yuan pocket money given by her father-in-law every month was not enough, so she told us that from now onNo matter how nervous we are, we must give 2,000 yuan a month for retirement.
In fact, my mother-in-law is only 47 years old, and she has started to care for the elderly at such a young age.
But the key is not to provide for her retirement, but to buy various clothes and equipment for dancing.
Mother-in-law is lazy all her life to enjoy the picture, she married her father-in-law at the age of 20, gave birth to her husband the next year, and the child was thrown to her in-laws, she went out to play, did not work all her life, and the family's expenses were all counting on her father-in-law, resulting in no money at home.
Now that her son is married, she sees that we have children and a house, and life seems to be good, so she asks us for money.
I told my husband the truth, I don't give this money, I'm not used to such a mother-in-law.
If my mother-in-law is old, I will naturally be filial and take care of it, and I will pay a lot of money, but she is only 47 years old and wants to provide for the elderly, and the key to dancing is not to provide for the elderly, let me pay, I will definitely not come out.
My husband didn't say a word about my thoughts.
Think about my mother, who is 58 years old and helps me take care of the eldest children, and still chooses to work to earn money, while my mother-in-law is only 47 years old and thinks about supporting the elderly and only cares about her own enjoymentis the same mother, the same elder, the gap between people is really different.