When I was in college, I didn't advocate falling in love The teacher has a good reason, and the breakup after graduation is not the main reason!
I don't advocate dating in college"The professor justifiably said that the breakup of undergraduate love was not the main reason.
Campus time presents a simple atmosphere, and students usually remain innocent when making friends, without thinking too much about reality. Perhaps it is because of this trait that love on college campuses is always desirable.
Especially in an environment where parents are more tolerant, many students consciously look for the right people to get to know them better once they enter college. Sometimes, you'll even hear advice from older students:"If you don't have friends in college, you may regret it"。But is this statement true?We can think of it by an example.
Approaching graduation, the boy quietly left, while the girl confessed that she had lost more than just a relationship. A college girl shared her experience when she and a boy met during a club event in their freshman year, when they were both helping the principal with some work. As a result of getting along, the two gradually became lovers.
For four years, they got along very well, eating together every day and studying for their final exams together. However, since the second half of last year, due to the different stages they are in, some changes have taken place between the two, and the boys' attitudes have also begun to change.
The girl at first thought that the boy was worried about their future after graduation and assured him that she could go to any city with him. However, to her surprise, on the day he received his diploma, the boy quietly left.
Not only did he not answer **, but he also directly deleted her circle of friends, and did not explain any reason to her. The girl tries to ask for help from other friends, but ends up discovering that the other may have had a better plan long ago.
Looking back, the girl regretted it, and she confessed:"I've lost more than just a relationship"。Because in college life, since being with him, she has neglected a lot of things that should have been cherished.
The professor was right, although the situation of this college student may be a bit peculiar, as it is not common for students to leave without making a sound. However, it's not uncommon for students to break up during graduation season.
One professor openly declared:"I'm not in favor of starting a relationship in college"。He admits that he has seen too many students break up after graduation, and couples with results are extremely rare. While breakups aren't the main reason, he thinks it's a more common phenomenon.
The professor went on to explain:"There's a lot to lose when you're in a relationship in college"。The students are usually very good"Be empathetic"Most people don't get angry when they see someone in a relationship.
Over time, college students who fall in love seem to lose touch with other classmates, limiting communication with them. This seemingly stealthy phenomenon can lead to students having limited horizons without them realizing it.
In fact, college is an ideal time for self-improvement. At this stage, you don't have a busy schedule and you don't have to think about the stresses of life;There is a wide variety of students on campus. If you can reach out to better people and learn from them, then once you finish your studies, your room for development will be very different.
Although some people are able to maintain communication and learning with other classmates after being in love, these people are generally in the minority. Most students may be like that girl and only realize after completing their studies that they have missed out on many opportunities to improve themselves, develop friendships, and broaden their horizons.
These losses of time and energy have a more profound impact on college students after graduation than the loss of love. During college, if you don't work hard to improve yourself and create a circle of friends who can introduce each other to work, graduates will face many difficulties in finding a job, let alone falling in love, and independent life is not a simple thing. Therefore, the teacher's point of view is not a cliché, but a reasonable phenomenon in reality.
For what is called"Love Brain"of college students must realize that only by improving themselves can it be easier to achieve the desired results. Whether it is the experience of the female students in the graduation season or the professor's point of view, it reminds college students to be rational when talking about friends, and the real good relationship is when two people make progress together.
Perhaps, as a famous quote on the Internet says:"Good relationships allow you to see a wider and more exciting world"。However, some students may involuntarily fall into it"Love Brain"Ignoring the colleagues and friends around him, he forgot the importance of self-improvement.
In fact, from a practical point of view, the key to success after graduation is to consider the abilities and conditions of both parties. If the other party successfully finds a higher job, but the gap between them is large, then it will be difficult for the relationship between the two parties to maintain.
Therefore, college students should realize that it is easier to achieve the desired results if they can gradually become good at what they do. Even if you have to give up in the end, at least you won't let yourself waste your time and avoid regretting it later.
Do you think the professor's reasons for not advocating for dating on college campuses are reasonable?