We are a typical traditional Chinese family, and I lived directly in my in-laws' house after I got married. According to the Chinese thinking, the daughter-in-law has to listen to the mother-in-law. But my relationship with my mother-in-law has never been very good, she always thinks that I am not comprehensive and meticulous enough, and always finds fault with me.
For example, when I just gave birth, she criticized me for not being able to change diapers, washing my clothes badly, and feeding my baby in the wrong position. I felt very uncomfortable when I heard it, it was not easy to have a child by myself, and it was normal for me to be unhappy if she kept grabbing my pigtails like this.
Just yesterday, I was feeding my 1-year-old son Xiaobao milk powder, because the weather has been hot recently, and the little one's appetite is not very good. I coaxed him and breastfed him carefully, for fear that he would choke. At this time, my mother-in-law happened to come back from outside and saw that we were breastfeeding, so she came over and touched Xiaobao's face, and said in a loud voice: "Baby, hurry up and drink the milk!".”
I saw that Xiaobao was surprised by her mother-in-law, and the rhythm of drinking milk was completely messed up, and the milk flowed down from his mouth, making him very uncomfortable. I hurriedly said to my mother-in-law, "Mom, let Xiaobao drink milk slowly, don't mess with him." When my mother-in-law heard me say this, her face immediately turned unpleasant, she glared at me, and her tone was very dissatisfied: "I tease my grandson and still see your face?"Don't be so pretentious, okay?”
I was angry at the time, and I felt that her word "hypocrisy" was too much. I was obviously for the good of the baby, but my mother-in-law blatantly denied my rights and status as a mother, and I was very angry and sad.
I carried Xiaobao into the bedroom with red eyes, and helped him wipe his mouth while calming his emotions. At this time, my husband Li Qiang had just come back from outside, and when he saw that I was not in the right state, he quickly asked with concern: "Wife, what's wrong with you?"Did my mom say you again?”
I couldn't help choking: "I just mentioned to your mother to let Xiaobao drink milk slowly, she didn't say that I was hypocritical, do you think I can not be angry?".She always looks at me unpleasantly, I can't stand it anymore!”
My husband sighed, came over and hugged me, and said, "Honey, I understand your feelings, but as a daughter-in-law, you should be more forgiving and forgiving to your mother." Such a big family lives together, and there will inevitably be misunderstandings and contradictions between each other. ”
I cried even more fiercely, and said aggrievedly: "I'm also trying to adapt to life here, but my mother-in-law just doesn't like me and keeps scratching me about my problems." I'm really tired and aggrieved!You're always looking at your mother, but what about me?”
When my husband saw me like this, he was very distressed, and quickly hugged me and comforted: "Good wife, don't cry, let's discuss this matter slowly." I believe my mom didn't mean to make things difficult for you, you just didn't know each other well enough. I'm going to talk to my mom tonight to defuse her emotions, we can't just be stiff. ”
I was still taking care of Xiaobao in the bedroom, and suddenly I heard my mother-in-law calling me outside: "Xiaofang, come out, my mother has something to say to you." ”
I was a little surprised that my mother-in-law rarely called me so gently. I went out with Xiaobao in my arms and saw that although my mother-in-law's face was a little tired, she no longer had the anger of yesterday. She took the initiative to take my hand, patted it and said, "Child, Mom did take care of you yesterday, don't mind." ”
As soon as I heard this, my nose was sore, and I couldn't hold back my tears. Seeing this, my mother-in-law hurriedly came over and hugged me, patted me on the back and said, "Okay, okay, it's my mother's fault, don't cry, don't cry." When my mother gave birth to your husband, it was not easy, but now that you have grown like this, my mother saw Xiaobao, and felt a little sad and emotional. You'll understand, kid, later. ”
Since then, my relationship with my mother-in-law has finally been reconciled, and I have gradually understood my mother-in-law's intentions. She loves me and my children like her own daughter, but sometimes she expresses it in a more direct way, which makes me uncomfortable. Now I understand her good intentions, she just wants me to enter this big family quickly and become a competent Chinese daughter-in-law.
After the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was reconciled, we got along more and more naturally. The mother-in-law always came to see Xiaobao and bought him some clothes and toys. Once, she even enlightened me that I could add some non-staple foods to Xiaobao in the future, she has good skills, and she can cook some porridge and noodles by herself. I was very moved when I heard it, it seems that the old man is really loved as his own grandson.