In some things, people need to be measured by the scale of "human heart" to make sure that it can withstand it.
However, some of the behaviors done by Zhou Rong seem to be difficult to withstand the weighing of people's hearts.
At first, Zhou's mother betrayed her parents and chose to leave home to pursue true love, but because of her and Feng Huacheng's various behaviors, Zhou's mother was greatly frightened and became a vegetative person. Later, she handed Yueyue over to Zheng Juan and his wife to take care of, and she became the shopkeeper.
If she can be grateful and understand the efforts and hardships that her family has put in for her, then she may be able to accept it reluctantly.
However, in the TV series and the original book, I did not feel a trace of gratitude in Zhou Rong. On the contrary, I feel a deep contempt for Zheng Juan's attitude of helping her raise her children wholeheartedly and without complaints, which is really incomprehensible and unacceptable.
And rightfully so.
Since the accident between Zhou Rong and Feng Huacheng at the train station, Yueyue's daughter has been taken care of by Zheng Juan and her husband.
Although Yueyue is not Zheng Juan's biological child, Zheng Juan's concern for her has not diminished. At home, she was always very filial to her uncle and grandmother. Her attitude towards Zhou Nan is like her concern for Yueyue. She knew that her place in a family was important, but she didn't dare to change it easily. Therefore, Yueyue developed a deep love for her uncle, and she even thought that her grandfather Zhou, who came back suddenly, was a villain who drove away her aunt.
Zheng Juan and Yueyue are together, and several years have passed during this time.
In the end, when Zhou Rong was successfully admitted to Peking University and returned the family property with Feng Huacheng, who had restored his reputation, I always hoped that Zhou Rong would be grateful to Zheng Juan. However, Zhou Rong burst into tears after hugging her unconscious mother tightly, almost ignoring Zheng Juan's existence.
Tears poured out like rain, but at night, she eagerly invited Feng Huacheng to stay in that hotel, as if it couldn't accommodate them.
Although she had enough funds to live in the hotel, she couldn't improve the environment for her mother who was sick (because the weather was too hot, Zheng Juan always manually cooled Zhou's mother, and Bingkun barely squeezed out some money to buy an electric fan), nor did she give Zheng Juan and his wife any substantial returns, even if she left some money for Yueyue as living expenses to reduce the pressure on her younger brother Zhou Bingkun, she didn't have any intentions.
In Zhou Rong's view, it is natural for her younger brother and his family to care for and care for their mother, and similarly, Zheng Juan's careful care of Yueyue is also her responsibility, and for her, all this is a matter of course.
Zhou Rong's selfish character is hidden deep in her bone marrow.
As family members, Bingkun and Zheng Juan did not hesitate to stand up at the critical moment when she needed help. Not only did they help her take care of the children, but they also sorted out the mess for her. Although Bingkun was imprisoned because of her and Feng Huacheng, Bingkun did not complain. Zheng Juan endured all kinds of gossip and stayed in the Zhou family in obscurity, and Yueyue was never hurt in the slightest because of the Zhou family's emergencies.
However, as a family member, I really want to know what Zhou Rong didIn her opinion, she has been doing a very bad thing all these years. I don't talk about the past anymore, but when I got home this time, I didn't even do anything to take care of my mother's body and massage it, except for tears. In my eyes, she is a strong person. Although he said "I'm sorry" verbally, he didn't actually do anything, as if he had experienced a cry, which was already a blessing from God.
The next day, when she took Yueyue to the zoo, I couldn't help but think, why didn't she bring Nan Nan with her?
Whether it is as a nominal aunt or out of gratitude to Zheng Juan, Zhou Rong has a good reason and should also bring Nan Nan with her. She knew she was unlucky, but she didn't want to pass up this rare opportunity. However, she didn't, and perhaps she never thought about it, and what she was missing was not the cost of the ticket, but the lack of gratitude.
Therefore, she turned a blind eye to all the choices Zheng Juan made, let alone expressed any gratitude.
It's not that Zhou Rong can't raise Yueyue, but she feels that it's a "trouble".
She and Feng Huacheng both live in Beijing, but judging from the plot, they have neither real estate nor any income in Beijing**.
It is true that this is a challenge to raise a child, but no matter how difficult Zhou Rong is, does she really face the dilemma of Bingkun's family?
Zhou Bingkun went to work alone, responsible for supporting his sick mother, the unemployed Zheng Juan, and two children, including Nan Nan and Yueyue. In order to alleviate Bingkun's financial pressure, Guangming even chose to run away from home. Bright is taking care of their daily life, and at the same time, he also has to give lessons to these children and help them with their homework. In addition to the financial expenses, the level of effort and difficulty required to take care of Zhou's mother and two children, who are unable to take care of themselves, is obvious.
In this context, Feng Huacheng and Zhou Rong, who have a large salary, are really not qualified to raise Yueyue?
Obviously, this is not the case.
In many families, it is common for two people to share a child, and although this may present some difficulties, few parents will easily entrust their children to other families to raise. However, if there is such a girl, she can raise herself very well, which cannot but be said to be a great thing!Moreover, if it weren't for the existence of Bingkun's family, Zhou Rong could only choose to raise her alone.
Therefore, it is not that Zhou Rong and Feng Huacheng can't take Yueyue to Beijing, but she doesn't want to burden herself for the time being. She feels that her life and work are simple. If Yueyue chooses to follow her, she will definitely have to reallocate some of her energy to Yueyue, and Feng Huacheng's situation is no exception. He knew her abilities and character, and knew her plans for the future. Therefore, she prefers to pass on this "burden" to Zhou Bingkun and his family, so that she can do what she wants to do according to her own wishes.
In the original work, Zhou Rong did not bring Yueyue. Although Feng Huacheng had already had his own residence, paid his salary, and became the deputy director of the library, creating a comfortable environment for the children, Zhou Rong did not bring Yueyue back in time. Instead, she chose to go to college while living a romantic life with Feng Huacheng.
Becoming a shopkeeper who doesn't cost anything is obviously easier than the hard work of raising a child, and it doesn't require much effort, effort, or money.
However, the relaxed atmosphere that Zhou Rong has is based on the unremitting efforts and dedication of Zheng Juan and Zhou Bingkun.
Zhou Rong has never really thought about the complicated relationship between Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan, they have an extra child, not just because they have more mouths, this fact Zhou Rong is not unaware, but she accepts their efforts without guilt. Because she knows that she is a woman, and a woman should have her own independent personality, and she should not let her children treat her as a burden. It seems that taking on the responsibility of raising Yueyue is actually the responsibility of Zheng Juan and her husband, and even when Yueyue doesn't want to live in a hotel with them, Zhou Rong doesn't seem to be aware of the root of the problem.
Yueyue is a child, and the longer a child spends time with someone, the closer he will naturally become to that person. Yueyue's rebellious behavior did not make Zhou Rong realize her failure as a mother, nor did it make her understand the hardships that Zheng Juan went through.
If Zhou Rong doesn't know how to be grateful, it is already unacceptable, and Zhou Rong, who is not interested in Zheng Juan, is even more angry.
expressed "dissatisfaction" with Zheng Juan.
I mistakenly thought that the little widow who made my brother Bingkun fall in love with and desperate must have some resemblance to Guanyin, but in fact, she was more like an incarnation of Maitreya Buddha, and I really didn't understand what happened to Bingkun at that time. ”
This description is Zhou Rong's inner feelings when she first met Zheng Juan in the original work.
The implicit meaning of this sentence is that Zheng Juan is not outstanding. She is the kind of person who is very ordinary, and most of the time, she feels like she is ordinary. If Zheng Juan hadn't taken care of Yueyue for her for so long, Zhou Rong's opinion on this could not be regarded as how disgusting she was. Although she is well aware of everything Zheng Juan has done for Yueyue, she still arrogantly evaluates Zheng Juan's appearance, which is enough to prove that she does not really value Zheng Juan's deep affection for her, nor does she have real respect and gratitude.
Zhou Rong's dissatisfaction with Zheng Juan is not just because of their first encounter.
Zhou Rong and Feng Huacheng ended their marriage relationship, and after returning to the city where the Zhou family lived, she would take Cai Xiaoguang back to the Zhou family every important festival. When the whole family gets together, Zhou Rong rarely talks to Zheng Juan, and compared with Cai Xiaoguang, who is traveling with her, she respects Zheng Juan even more, and often takes the initiative to talk to her for a few words.
In the original work, Zhou Rong once expressed her feelings for Zheng Juan, but it was difficult for her to completely like her from the bottom of her heart.
I used to think this was Zhou Rong's unique pride. After all, she has qualifications to be proud of. During that time, she had been promoted to associate professor at a major university. Not only did she have a high education, but she also had a fairly high status in society. She is not optimistic about Zheng Juan, a housewife who is busy with housework and taking care of children all day long, which is also her norm.
But in retrospect, everyone in the Zhou family may look down on Zheng Juan, only she, Zhou Rong, does not have such qualifications. She is a very smart, talented, capable, promising woman. Zheng Juan was not busy with housework every day, because after she got sick, Zhou's mother became crazy, and there was no housewife Zheng Juan, and there was no her Yueyue to take care ofHow did she get abandoned by others and become a woman?How could she have wholeheartedly completed her university studies and been promoted to associate professor? Her daughter, now a professor, is still studying for a doctorate. Now I am beginning to look down on Zheng Juan, what was my original thought, since I look down on her, then why should I let her help take care of the children.
A standard approach is to put people before people, not people before people. A lack of gratitude is inappropriate, and what is the basis for a lack of even the most basic respects
Zhou's father once told Zhou Bingkun that it is immoral not to repay the favor, so this sentence is perfect for Zhou Rong. Her attitude towards Zheng Juan shows that she lacks the emotion and gratitude that she should have as a person.
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Frankly speaking, deep down in Zhou Rong's heart, she thinks she is more valuable than Zheng Juan. Zheng Juan's selfless dedication, enduring difficulties and fatigue are her responsibilities. But she is different, she sees herself as a "valuable" person who naturally deserves to be supported by others, and who deserves to enjoy a carefree life.
But in my opinion, despite Zheng Juan's lack of cultural accomplishment, her insight and achievements are not as good as Zhou Rong's. She is just an ordinary woman, but in the eyes of many people, she has a special temperament and character - tenacity, perseverance, and a sincere and beautiful heart. However, this does not mean that Zheng Juan is not qualified to be respected and recognized by others. Compared with Zhou Rong's arrogance, narcissism and selfishness, Zheng Juan's heart and quality that are both kind and willing to selflessly dedicate are truly worthy of respect and respect.
In the end, although Zhou Rong looked down on Zheng Juan, her life was happier than Zheng Juan's, at least emotionally and spiritually. Moreover, the children educated by Zheng Juan are not inferior to Zhou Rong's Yueyue, which is also something that Zhou Rong was very worried about:
Zheng Juan, a woman with a low IQ, unexpectedly gave birth to a son, who had the opportunity to study at Harvard University and eventually obtained a Juris Doctor degree. Although she is generally considered to be an extremely intelligent person, she can only be ashamed of herself compared to the daughter of the poet's ex-husband. ”
Until this moment, Zhou Rong's attitude towards Zheng Juan has not changed in any way. Because of her excessive self-esteem and lack of gratitude, she always focuses only on the shortcomings of others, but rarely realizes how serious her mistakes are.