Betrayal is like a needle stuck in your body, at first you just feel a little sore, which can be tolerated, but then this needle penetrates into the **, and every move brings pain, if this needle is pierced in an important area, the pain will be even more intense.
In order to make ourselves a little more comfortable, we can only endure quietly, or put the pain aside for a while, however, in fact, prolonged patience can lead to severe psychological trauma, and choosing to forget does not eliminate the pain, it is only a stopgap measure to relieve the pain.
If there is an opportunity to remove these needles, I believe that no one will want to leave them on their bodies, and if they can leave the person who betrayed them, no one will want to continue to suffer from them.
However, many women, after suffering betrayal, insist on breaking up, but in the end they still choose to stay, for those women who do not have children, they may think that they have been together for a long time, they have become acquainted, and they have spent many years, after all, there are feelings there, forget it, look forward.
And for those women who have children, their first reaction is for the sake of their children, they don't want their children to grow up in an unsound family, they hope that the love between their parents will not be missing, and they will temporarily let go of their knots.
Whatever the reason, it is because there is a higher value, and this value cannot be obtained after leaving the relationship, even if the feelings, children and money are not considered, there will still be other reasons, and there is no lack of clarity about why you want to continue the relationship.
It is only when you continue to derive this value from the relationship and get its desired rewards that you can find some relief and relief when the pain and confidence disappear every time you think of the other person's betrayal.
Tell yourself "I accepted this despicable person for the sake of." Otherwise, what do you use to convince yourself to endure this disgusting?
In fact, you stay only because you are incapable, you are too cowardly, even your courage is insignificant, no one respects your big picture and dedication, and no one sympathizes with your helplessness and pain in the years to come.
All that is to give him a chance is actually to give himself a chance, to forgive him, just to forgive himself for this waste.
The reality is that starting with forgiveness doesn't get the relationship back on track, one forgiveness is often accompanied by the next betrayal, and the other person will only become more indulgent and even openly ridicule you.
And you still have hope, hoping that the other person can change, hoping that you can let go of the past and look forward together.
However, whether you can change or not, whether the other party can change for the better, is his own choice, not under your control, the only thing you can control is to return yourself to reality, if you choose to continue the relationship, no matter how the other party treats you, you have to fight a path of rebirth.
It's better to understand why you're here and focus on ongoing value capture rather than hoping that the relationship will be repaired, that the other person will change, or that it's for the sake of the kids.
You have to change, your way of dealing with difficulties needs to be optimized, your cognition and mind need to be improved, your attitude towards relationships and marriage needs to be more rational, your attitude towards yourself and even life needs to be repositioned, and your life energy needs to be cleansed and enriched.
Only by being reborn from the past self can we get out of the predicament of this betrayal and truly gain strength.
Even if you can't do without him now, one day you will succeed in getting rid of this despicable person.