Reading guide: With the passage of time, there are more and more "broken relatives" phenomenon in rural areas, and many young people are no longer keen to go to relatives after returning home. Why is that?In the upcoming year-end and New Year holidays, what was supposed to be a craze for visiting relatives has now changed in a way that makes people feel uncomfortable. After young people return to their hometowns, they are no longer willing to participate in the activities of visiting relatives, which has also led to an increase in the number of "severed relatives" in rural areas. So, what is the reason why today's young people are reluctant to go to their relatives?Let's dive deeper!
First of all, the feelings between relatives gradually faded, and everyone had their own social circle. In the past, there was a great deal of emphasis on kinship in rural areas, as relatives were very frequent. They often help each other and lend a helping hand whenever they want, and this relationship naturally becomes very close. A few decades ago, when working in the countryside, relatives helped each other, and there was no money exchange between them, only food and drink. This creates a relationship of mutual assistance and mutual benefit, which helps each other and at the same time enhances the relationship, which is pure and free of distractions. But now the situation is different, even if it is a help between relatives, there is a certain fee. And sometimes it may be better to ask relatives for help than to find other people, because many times there are often conflicts between relatives, and there will even be a situation where "acquaintances hurt acquaintances". Therefore, some people naturally lose their favor with their relatives after being cheated by them. At the same time, with the changes of the times, everyone works outside all the year round, usually has their own social circles, and rarely contacts. Even if you go home for the New Year, the form of visiting relatives is just a formality, and there is no real sense of giving.
Secondly, the phenomenon of comparison between relatives is serious, and it has become a burden to go to relatives. Nowadays, many young people say, "Relatives are not as good as friends". I usually prefer to ask friends for help when I encounter problems, and I am not so willing to ask relatives. Many young people think that relatives are only related by blood. And if you have a deep friendship with friends, you can basically be on call, and you will be obligated to help with anything. In contrast, asking relatives for help may not be like a friend. Moreover, some young people feel disgusted with visiting relatives and are reluctant to deal with relatives, mainly because visiting relatives has brought them a heavy burden and is very cumbersome, especially the comparison between relatives is too serious. During the Chinese New Year, some people will ask you how much money you make in a year, whether you have bought a garage, or when you will have children, etc. These words that seem to be concerned on the surface are actually a kind of comparison. If you live a better life than theirs, they may be jealous of you;If your life is not as good as theirs, they may gloat. In short, visiting relatives gives young people the feeling that they bring less joy and more trouble, and are far less simple, free and easy than with friends.
Finally, the intrigue between relatives is also quite serious. Although not all relatives are like this, in real life, there are cases where some relatives betray each other, calculate each other, and intrigue with each other. It is often said that people's hearts are separated from their stomachs, and they know their faces but do not know their hearts, which can be said to be a deep reality. Take visiting relatives during the Chinese New Year as an example, some people may just want to send red envelopes to make their children happy. However, there are also some people who will be clever and calculating on red envelopes. The same is true for gift-giving, and there are even people who give some expired gifts. In recent years, there have been so many such examples in rural areas that I believe many people are aware of them.
In general, the times are different nowadays, and young people attach relatively little importance to family affection. They work hard outside the home, earning a living on their abilities and connections, and rarely rely on relatives. In addition, young people nowadays have a more casual personality, unwilling to wronged themselves, and unwilling to wronged themselves in order to please others. Because some people feel that the help of relatives is not great, but rather a burden and trouble. As a result, they have chosen not to move around, and the interaction between people has decreased, leading to a gradual estrangement between relatives.