My name is Chen Sisi, I am 27 years old, and I work as a designer in a foreign company. My boyfriend Zhang Xiaopeng and I have been in love for 3 years, and now we are ready to get married.
I grew up in a very good family, my father was a businessman, and my mother was a full-time housewife. I know how much my mom takes care of me, and she puts all her energy into taking care of me and my dad. No matter what I have to do, she is fully supportive and never lets me worry about trivial matters. I slowly developed the Xi of being taken care of, and I didn't know how to do housework.
In contrast, Zhang Xiaopeng's life is not as good as mine. He was an only child, and his father was a small clerk, but his mother doted on him. Zhang Xiaopeng told me that he had never been in the kitchen, because his mother said that the kitchen was a woman's place, so he was lazy and ate delicious food made by his mother all day long. However, he is very good and takes good care of me, and I think he also has room to grow, and I believe that he will become more mature after marriage.
I was flattered that Mama Zhang treated me like her own daughter. I looked at Zhang Xiaopeng, and he smiled at me too:"I will take care of you for the rest of your life, don't worry. With your mother, you're the queen. "
On the wedding night, Zhang Xiaopeng put his arm around my shoulders and said:"Sisi, we will live happily. If your mother does all the housework, you will take care of yourself wholeheartedly, dress yourself up beautifully, and let me love you stupidly. "
I smiled and nodded, thinking that what Zhang Xiaopeng said was very right, with a virtuous and capable mother-in-law like Zhang's mother, I simply accumulated a lot of virtue in my previous life to have happiness in this life. The first month of the newlywed life was indeed very sweet, Zhang's mother took care of the family in good order, and Zhang Xiaopeng and I were tired of being together every day, and spent a heartless honeymoon time.
One day, I got up early in the morning and wanted to surprise Zhang Xiaopeng and Zhang's mother and make a hearty breakfast. As soon as I put on my apron and walked into the kitchen, Zhang's mother hurriedly said after me"Sisi, don't worry about this, go make up for a beauty sleep for a while, I'll do all these housework. You are a daughter-in-law, you have to listen to your father-in-law and Zhang Xiaopeng, and the most important thing is to make them happy. "
I was a little embarrassed and said:"Mom, I also want to help you share some housework, I don't want to work so hard every day. "
You!Just know the nonsense!"Zhang Xiaopeng also came out of the bedroom at this time and scolded me"Mom told you to go to sleep, and you went to sleep for me!You should listen to me after marriage, I have the final say!"
I was so stunned by him that I could only put down my apron and go back to the bedroom. Zhang's mother entered the kitchen with a smile and sang in a low voice while making breakfast.
This has happened many times, and I wanted to try to do some housework to help Zhang's mother with the burden, but both Zhang Xiaopeng and Zhang's mother blamed me for not doing these things. Zhang's mother said that it was her responsibility, and Zhang Xiaopeng directly ordered me to avoid housework.
It's up to you to dress up and please us. "Zhang Xiaopeng always said so.
I felt more and more as if he was treating me like a doll, and I was also an independent person who deserved to share the housework equally. But every time I brought it up, the mother and son looked unhappy.
Once, I couldn't stand the way Zhang's mother got up early in the morning to cook and wash clothes. I hid from them, got up early in the morning, cooked a few dishes, cleaned the room, and by the time they got up, everything was ready to stop.
Mom, Xiaopeng, I made you breakfast, let me serve you today. "I said shyly.
Unexpectedly, Zhang's mother and Zhang Xiaopeng were furious, and Zhang's mother looked at the dishes I cooked, and tears came down:"Sisi, you don't understand these housework, don't do it in the future, you'll hurt your hand!"
Zhang Xiaopeng slammed the table even more heavily and said loudly:"Chen Sisi, if I tell you not to do it, don't do it!Do you understand generosity as a disobedient wife!"
I was startled by Zhang Xiaopeng's roar, and suddenly woke up to the fact that our mode of getting along after marriage began to be out of shape.
Zhang Xiaopeng didn't love me and care for me as much as he did when he was in love before, but often asked me to be obedient. I don't want to be treated like a doll or a jewel in my pocket anymore, I want to take on the responsibilities of being a wife.
Xiaopeng, I was wrong, but you can't lose your temper with me so roughly. I also want to do my best to take care of this family, you and Mom have been doing the housework first, and I feel that I am useless. "I tried to control my emotions and explained to Zhang Xiaopeng.
With mom here, how can you be useful!"Zhang Xiaopeng was dismissive"She takes care of the house clearly, you just have to be responsible for making me happy. Don't bother me, you know?"
I swallowed, Zhang Xiaopeng's attitude made me very sad. I thought that when I got married, he would give me respect and understanding, but I didn't expect him to yell at me like a child.
Zhang's mother hurriedly came over to persuade:"Xiaopeng, don't say that, Sisi, she is also bitter in her heart. Sisi, don't touch the kitchen in the future, so as not to be in danger. "
I looked at Zhang's mother's haggard face, she seemed to have lost a lot of weight, and in order to serve our mother and son, she gave far more than she could bear. My heart is like a knife, but Zhang Xiaopeng still goes his own way.
Every bit of married life is stimulating my nerves. Zhang Xiaopeng pointed fingers at me, Zhang's mother took good care of me, I was like a marionette at the mercy of others, this is not the marriage I want.
Finally, one day, the situation reached a point out of control. It was rare for me to work late from home that day, and Zhang Xiaopeng also worked overtime and returned late. Zhang's mother was busy in the kitchen alone, ready to cook dinner for us.
I couldn't stand it anymore and decided to help Zhang's mother cut some vegetables. When she was crooked, I was startled and hurriedly supported her. I saw Zhang's mother with a pale face and cold hands, and she fell ill next to the kitchen counter.
My eyes were red, Zhang's mother was still thinking about us at this moment, she was so weak that she was all squeezed out of the rest by our mother and son day after day.
An ambulance came and took Zhang's mother to the hospital. My heart was like a knife, and tears finally came out of my eyes.
After Zhang's mother was sent in, she needed to continue to observe**, and suddenly there were only two people left in the house, Zhang Xiaopeng and me.
These days, we can only rely on takeout to feed our stomachs. Zhang Xiaopeng doesn't know how to cook at all, and he doesn't know anything about housework. I'm not very good at it, but it's okay to cook a basic stir-fry.
After two days of hard work, Zhang Xiaopeng finally couldn't help it:"When will we be able to eat the food cooked by my mother, the takeaway is so greasy that I am about to throw up!"
I looked at Zhang Xiaopeng with an impatient face:"Mom is still in the hospital for observation, how can she cook for us?We'll have to learn to do it ourselves. "
Do it yourself?What kidding, I've never touched the kitchen!"Zhang Xiaopeng frowned.
Now it's time to start learning. "I took a deep breath and decided to convince Zhang Xiaopeng:"Mom was too tired to go to the hospital when she got sick, and we couldn't rely on her anymore. I will do my best, and you will also learn to share the household chores. "
Share household chores?I'm not a woman, so why do I have to do housework!"Zhang Xiaopeng said loudly dissatisfied.
I struggled to keep my tone in check:"Now it is not a question of the division of labor from the perspective of men and women. Mom's weakness is caused by both of us, and we should take responsibility. What do you say?"
Zhang Xiaopeng was silent, a trace of doubt and retreat flashed on his face. After a long time, he said sullenly"Then you teach me to see if I can learn it. "
Seeing Zhang Xiaopeng relieved, I secretly breathed a sigh of relief. In the days that followed, I began to teach him how to cook simple home-cooked meals, as well as operate the washing machine and dishwasher step by step. Zhang Xiaopeng was clumsy and reluctant at first, but gradually he got started.
Doing housework does add to our burden, but I also feel like we are closer as a couple. Zhang Xiaopeng no longer only scolds me, but jokes and jokes with me during the cooking process, and the fun of cooking makes him feel a little more pity for me.
It turns out that housework is so difficult, I used to be so ignorant. "After dinner one day, Zhang Xiaopeng said to me with a red face"Sisi, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have done that to you before, you worked hard. "
I shook his hand with emotion:"This is also the process that we need to grow together after we get married. In the future, let's take care of the housework together. "
Well, I promise to change in the future and become a competent husband. "Zhang Xiaopeng nodded solemnly.
That day, he took the initiative to help me finish washing the dishes, and we looked at each other and smiled, and a sweet feeling rose in our hearts that we had not seen for a long time.
After this accident, my relationship with Zhang Xiaopeng improved significantly, and he no longer treated me as an ornament, but began to treat me as a member of the family. I no longer passively accept the care of Zhang's mother, but actively assume the responsibilities of a housewife.
Zhang's mother gradually improved after staying in the hospital for more than a month, and was finally able to go home. On the day she was discharged from the hospital, Zhang Xiaopeng specially asked for leave, and the two of us went to the hospital to pick her up together.
Back home, Zhang's mother was stunned. The spotless room was covered in a layer of dust, the cobwebs in the corners were getting denser, and the floors, tables and chairs were dirty.
Mom, don't worry about it, you go to the bedroom to rest. "Zhang Xiaopeng hurriedly said"Sisi and I will take care of the housework during this time, and you try to take care of your body in bed for a few more days. "
Okay, then mom will go and rest for a while. Pay attention to yourselves. "Zhang's mother still couldn't help but tell us a few words.
When Zhang's mother entered the bedroom, Zhang Xiaopeng and I glanced at each other and tacitly divided labor. Zhang Xiaopeng picked up a broom and started cleaning, and I put on an apron to prepare a delicious meal for Zhang's mother.
In the past month, the two of us have learned to share the housework, and although we are not yet very proficient, I know that as long as we work together, we will definitely make this family a happier place.
After dinner, Zhang's mother finally showed a relieved smile on her face. She watched us wash the dishes and brush the pots, and her heart was warm: "Sisi, Xiaopeng, my mother is really old, and the family will be handed over to you to take care of in the future." As long as you love each other, Mom has nothing to worry about. ”
Mom, you've worked hard. Zhang Xiaopeng's eyes reddened slightly, "In the future, we will divide the housework equally, so you can cultivate your body wholeheartedly." ”
I also walked over and held Zhang's mother's hand: "We will work together, you can rest assured to go to the elderly." ”
Zhang's mother nodded with relief, tears rolling in her eyes.
The rarest happiness in life is that your child can be on his own. We will definitely let Mama Zhang enjoy the joy of family.
Zhang Xiaopeng and I exchanged a smile. After going through this ups and downs, we finally regained our original love for each other. I believe that in the days to come, we will work together to make this family smile every day.
After Zhang's mother was discharged from the hospital and went home, Zhang Xiaopeng and I officially shared the housework. At first, Zhang's mother was not very reassured, and always wanted to help or guide us, but we were resolute and drove her back to bed to continue to recuperate.
Mom, we've all learned all kinds of housework, so you can watch TV dramas in bed with peace of mind!Zhang Xiaopeng persuaded.
Yes, Mom, the most important thing for you now is to take care of your body, and we are at home. I quickly chimed in.
Zhang's mother watched anxiously as we washed our clothes and dishes, for fear that we would break things or hurt our hands. After some persuasion, she temporarily put her mind at ease and obediently went back to her room to recuperate.
In the beginning, our housework was really not very efficient. Zhang Xiaopeng often leaves water stains when washing dishes, and I can't cook well enough. But after repeated practice, Xi we gradually found the know-how, and we also cultivated a better tacit understanding with each other.
Mother Zhang saw us busy washing and washing in the house, and she was moved and blamed herself. She understood that it was all caused by her over-pampering of the two of us, and that if it wasn't for her illness, we might never have grown up.
Finally, after Zhang's mother recuperated for a month, her body had improved by seventy or eighty percent. One night, the three of us gathered around the dining table for dinner.
Kids, it's really hard work. Zhang's mother said with emotion, "In the past month, you have taken care of me and taken on housework, my mother really blames herself, I am sorry for you in the past." ”
Mom, this is what we should do, you don't have to blame yourself. Zhang Xiaopeng held her hand.
Well, I forced you to grow. Zhang's mother nodded, "In the future, I will let go appropriately, and you must work together to make this family more united." ”
We will, Mom!Zhang Xiaopeng and I both nodded heavily.
Since then, Mama Zhang has really learned to let go slowly and no longer easily make decisions or arrange household chores for us. Zhang Xiaopeng and I have become more and more mature and stable, and the relationship between husband and wife is heating up day by day.
Now the atmosphere at home is harmonious, and every day the three of us discuss major family events together. Zhang's mother has also learned to enjoy leisure time, she will go out to meet and chat with old friends, and her life is much more colorful.
Watching my mother gradually turn red, Zhang Xiaopeng and I exchanged relieved eyes. We went through this turmoil together and finally made this home a happier place.
After this change, my relationship with Zhang Xiaopeng has become deeper and deeper. We began to have our own little family and learned to understand and support each other.