Introduction.
Recently, a highly educated parent in Shanghai said their child's performance in English was puzzling. The Kochi couple are highly educated, the husband is a top student of 985 schools, proficient in five Chinese, and now works in ***, and the wife is an English teacher in a high school in Shanghai and a returnee. Their child is now in the second grade of primary school, but everyone thinks he is a mischievous and disobedient child. When I was in elementary school, the house became a mess, and every time I finished my homework, my father would shout, my mother would shed tears, and the child would look like he didn't care. In the end, my child only got 28 on the English test. An expatriate friend came to her home by accident and was surprised to learn her child's English score, and asked why she didn't let her child go abroad to study English. However, one of his friends accidentally slipped out of his mouth, and the daughter of a teacher at Peking University was only admitted to an ordinary university. There is a strong connection between this case and the fact that many parents are concerned about their children's education and the pressure they put on them.
Children with low English proficiency in the background of high education, questions from foreign friends.
A highly educated couple in Shanghai, their children did not perform well in an English test, which made many foreign friends very puzzled. The couple are highly educated people, their husband is a graduate of a prestigious university, proficient in multiple Chinese, and currently works in ***; His wife is a returnee who now works as an English teacher at a high school. Their child is now in second grade, a mischievous child, and since elementary school, the family has been in shambles. Although his father often yelled at him and his mother often shed tears, his son didn't care. In the end, the kid only got 28 English. One day, a foreign friend came to visit and was very surprised to learn about his child's score, and asked why he didn't let his child go abroad to learn English.
However, this expatriate friend did not know that even well-educated parents still encounter various difficulties and difficulties in their children's Xi. Poor learning Xi is not entirely due to the lack of careful instruction from parents, there are many more reasons for this. Every child has a unique personality and Xi learning style, and sometimes their expectations and upbringing are different from those of their parents. So let's take a look at the Xi situation of the daughter of a teacher at Peking University.
The daughter of a professor at Peking University has been online three times.
There is a teacher named Ding Yanqing at Peking University, who was already a very bright genius when he was young. At the age of 6, he was able to memorize the Xinhua dictionary in its entirety, and after graduating from middle school, he was successfully admitted to Peking University. After completing his studies, Ding Yanqing went to Columbia University to study for a master's degree in education. At present, he has become a doctoral supervisor and full professor at Peking University. His wife is also a graduate of Peking University, and their daughter must be a standard Xi talent. However, Mr. Ding's daughter is very mediocre, when she was in primary school to Xi, her academic Xi grades were very average, and her academic Xi in middle school was also very poor, and she was finally admitted to a medium-level college. Teacher Ding tried a lot Xi of make-up classes to put pressure on her to study Xi well, but the effect was not ideal. Eventually, she lost interest in her studies, developed mental problems, and left home on a rainy day. Mr. Ding and his wife frantically searched everywhere and finally found her during a rainy day. However, when her daughter refused to go back, her complaint sobered them up: I am also an ordinary child, why can't you accept an ordinary girl? This sentence made Professor Ding and his wife realize how ridiculous their actions just now were.
This case shows us that no matter how high the education or intelligence is, there are all kinds of difficulties and difficulties in teaching children. Different children have different growth processes, and parents should be more tolerant and tolerant, rather than blindly taking scores too seriously. Sometimes, expectations are too high and too much pressure is given, which can cause them to have rebellious emotions that can lead to difficulties in their studies.
Academic scores are not the same as IQ and future development.
Li Mou, a doctoral student from Zhengzhou 985 University, and a doctoral student from 211 University, both of whose children did not perform well in high school Xi. Li often cried about this incident, and even broke the table when he was drunk. However, this does not lead to the conclusion that the child has no future. Academic performance is not the same as intelligence and future development. Many successful people do not excel academically, but show talent and potential in other areas. Parents should guide their children to explore their own interests and strengths, and provide them with timely support and encouragement, rather than blindly pursuing academic achievements.
Parents' thoughts on their children's concern and pressure.
It is normal for parents to pay attention to their children's education and put pressure on their children, and they want their children to have a better start and a better future. However, sometimes excessive concern and high expectations can also cause a great burden on children and have a negative effect. Parents should know that every child is unique, and they have their own growth path and characteristics. They don't have to grow up as their parents hoped. Parents should fully respect their children's personality and wishes, and provide help and guidance to their children in a timely manner. We should pay attention to the development of children's comprehensive qualities and abilities, rather than just academic achievement.
Conclusion. The poor English proficiency of the children of well-educated parents does not necessarily mean that parents do not pay enough attention to the nurturing of their children, nor does it mean that there is something wrong with their teaching methods. Every child has his own growth process and style, parents should be more tolerant and considerate, and do not pay too much attention to scores. Academic performance is not the same as intellectual and future development, parents should guide children to explore their own strengths and hobbies, and provide timely support and encouragement. We should pay attention to the development of children's comprehensive qualities and abilities, rather than just academic achievement.