It is difficult to establish a sense of trust between a cheating man and a mistress.
Although when they are in an extramarital affair, the two of them seem to be in true love.
Once you want to transition from an extramarital affair to a marriage, the two people will begin to weigh the pros and cons of various calculations.
Because one is a cheating man who betrays his wife and marriage and calculates his wife's property.
One is a junior who has no shame, is a third party to others, and is scheming and calculating the divorce of the original partner.
When the purpose of two people is the same, calculation and trickery are for the benefit of the same together, so it will not appear hateful, but the interests of the two people begin to conflict, so the true face exposed before will become an ugly face that has to be guarded against.
Like the situation that Xiao San and Su Yue said before,
She has been with her cheating man for a year and a half, and the two met purely by accident.
She is young and beautiful, her education and work cannot be wrong, and the cheating man is mature and stable, and her career is successful.
looked at each other and felt that this was a fate given to them by God.
Like thunder, the second encounter developed an extramarital affair.
After more than a year of being together, the junior will become pregnant, and then tell the cheating man that he wants to give the child a complete family.
During this time period, the cheating man is the time of deep affection for the mistress, plus the blessing of love crystallization.
A cheating man is willing to divorce and marry a mistress, but property division is a big problem.
Xiao San also knows very well that emotionally she definitely has an advantage over her original wife.
But the cheating man and his original partner have been married for ten years, and they have accumulated a lot of joint property between husband and wife.
Although the cheating man has good ability and earns a lot of money, he really loses half of his property, and the cheating man is unwilling.
Xiao San herself is not a woman who can completely ignore interests for the sake of love, she can understand cheating men.
But the mistress will not tell the cheating man that he knows that the cheating man does not divorce for the sake of property, and he knows that the cheating man is reluctant to pay.
or instigated a cheating man to grab property with the original partner, and not a penny could be kept for the original partner.
This kind of sharp, heavy rhetoric does not match the image of Xiaosan's pure love.
The route taken by this mistress is to give some "advice" to cheating men in the name of being good for cheating men.
Xiao San said that he felt sorry for the cheating man, worked hard outside, and couldn't give the man love
always manages a lot of cheating men, making cheating men live very hard.
If a cheating man wants to get rid of this hardship, his wife should fulfill his love for the cheating man, and he should also take the initiative to give up part of his property.
After all, most of the property is earned by cheating men, and the cheating man is exonerated and finds a reason to fight with his wife for property.
The words are good, and the cheating man is willing to listen to it, and he feels that the mistress understands him and is on his side.
The latter two people calculated and transferred a lot of property, and the cheating man did not have much property loss, so he divorced.
After the divorce, the cheating man really wants to marry the mistress, because he has feelings, and he feels that the mistress thinks about her everywhere.
At the beginning, when we talked about marriage, it was very smooth, and the two of them were about to enter marriage, and they were more affectionate when they "achieved positive results".
The problem was that before the marriage certificate was obtained, Xiao San suddenly made a request.
Xiao San and Su Yue said that the more it was time to get the certificate, the more uneasy she felt.
She will think that her future married life is not all beautiful, happy husband and wife relationships.
Instead, I occasionally think that the man was a junior who betrayed his wife and cheated on him.
Then when it was time to divorce, he didn't have any nostalgia for his wife, and he only thought about getting more property.
What this cheating man means is that it is possible that he does not want to leave a penny for his original partner.
There is no way to do it, and some property cannot be transferred without a trace, so it is left to the wife.
said to the original partner that he had been thinking about his feelings for many years, but in fact, he wanted to take it all away in his heart.
Xiao San began to worry about what she would do if she got married and the cheating man changed his mind one day.
She feels that she is scheming more than her previous original equipment, but the cheating man may be more calculating and ruthless than her.
Therefore, in order to protect his interests after marriage, the junior avoided ending up with the original partner.
The kind that wants to get a cheating man to sign a prenuptial agreement, and if the man cheats again, he has to leave the house.
The cheating man is naturally reluctant to sign, and the cheating man is not only unwilling, but also feels that the mistress calculates his property.
Then he also accused Xiao San, didn't trust him, didn't believe in the feelings of the two people and so on.
In the end, the cheating man also said that the junior in turn has no sense of morality, and he will know that three will do three.
The cheating man is also worried that the junior will cuckold him in the future. Ask the mistress to sign a prenuptial agreement as well.
Not only did the two of them not get their certificates, but they also began to have constant conflicts, and Xiao San felt very painful.
Su Yue's evaluation of this junior is self-inflicted, which can be regarded as a report of the present world.
In the end, Su Yue wanted to say that the relationship between the cheating man and the mistress is itself a somewhat distorted relationship.
There may be some feelings, but they are based on immorality and dishonesty in the first place.
is built under the cover of betrayal, concealment, and all kinds of lies, and two people may not have such a deep understanding of this relationship when they are in an extramarital affair.
Because at that time, the cheating man and the mistress were surrounded by freshness and excitement, and fierce love.
Wait until the novelty and excitement subside, and the love fades.
When you need to weigh the pros and cons at first, you will see the disadvantages of this relationship.
Mutual distrust and mutual defense will become the main theme of this relationship.
An emotional relationship full of distrust and defensiveness naturally cannot be happy.
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