Why would a cheating man divorce for the sake of the mistress?
Many wives feel that the only answer is that the cheating man loves the mistress.
A cheating man abandons his wife and children for love, and ignores his family.
But the reality is that in an extramarital affair, I really fall in love with Xiao San, because love divorces are actually a minority.
Men themselves are rational and will not make choices that are not in line with their interests simply for the sake of feelings.
Therefore, the real reason why a man divorces for the mistress is not only that he has feelings for the mistress, but also has two additional conditions.
The first reason is that the junior is profitable.
How much does a man lose to divorce for the sake of the mistress?
On the one hand, there is the loss of property, as long as the wives know a little about the law, consult a lawyer, and prepare for divorce in advance, they can get at least half of the joint property of the husband and wife.
The vast majority of men do not cheat on them as soon as they get married and want to divorce, and the number of middle-aged and elderly men cheating is the largest.
They also have a lot of joint property between husband and wife, and in the face of property loss, many cheating men will not choose divorce at all.
On the other hand, there is the loss of reputation, and the vast majority of men have a good face.
Cheating and abandoning his wife and children for the sake of the mistress are completely different things.
People may be relatively tolerant of cheating, at most they talk about it behind their backs.
No one will be embarrassed for other people's private affairs.
But abandoning his wife and children for the sake of the mistress may inspire many people's sympathy and desire to protect.
Cheating men may not only face being discussed, but also may be deliberately embarrassed by some people.
In addition to these two aspects, a cheating man also has to pay for marriage, and if a man chooses to divorce for the sake of the mistress, his efforts will be in vain.
After more than ten years of running a marriage, the time, money and energy spent have been wasted.
These unrecoverable silent costs are also unaffordable for cheating men.
So there are very few men who will really divorce for the sake of the mistress, because the loss is too serious.
What most cheating men want is marriage and extramarital affairs in parallel, that is, not to divorce, continue to cheat, and find a way to make his wife accept the existence of the mistress.
If the cheating man does not take into account these losses, he insists on divorcing his wife and marrying a mistress.
There is a high probability that it is because the mistress is profitable, and the cheating man is lost because of divorce.
married to the mistress, he can compensate for it, so the cheating man will choose to divorce.
The second reason is that the junior draws a big pie for the cheating man.
Cheating men will have certain expectations for their married life with mistresses after divorce.
Many juniors will seize this point and give cheating men all kinds of pies.
After all, most mistresses are in extramarital affairs, and they are very pleasing to cheating men.
The requirements of the cheating man, the mistress will try his best to meet them, and work hard to create a happier feeling for the cheating man and the mistress.
Cheating men will have the idea of divorce because they feel happier with their mistresses than with their wives.
But a cheating man is a little more sensible, and he will not be completely confused by the happiness in front of him.
They will also consider how long this happiness can last and what benefits the junior can give them.
Cheating men are very realistic, and they will not choose to divorce just because they feel happy temporarily.
As analyzed earlier, divorce has a lot of losses, and the cheating man must feel that it is worth it.
It is for the sake of the mistress to divorce, it is worth losing so much, and the cheating man will choose to divorce and marry the mistress.
The mistress is just to please the cheating man, and it is not enough to make the cheating man happy for the time being.
The mistress also needs to understand what the cheating man wants, and catch the cheating man's dissatisfaction with marriage and wife.
and then became the opposite, making the cheating man feel that the mistress is completely different, and the marriage with the mistress is not the same.
What the wives can't do, the mistress can do, and the mistress who can't give the wives can give the cheating man.
What the cheating man loses is an unhappy marriage, and what he gets is a happy marriage with the mistress.
The cheating man is full of expectations for the future, is very dissatisfied with the status quo, and has real feelings for the mistress, and his feelings for his wife have faded, so he really plans to divorce and marry the mistress.
In fact, to put it bluntly, Xiao San has this ability and can empty the white wolf.
Regardless of whether the mistress can do it or not, she can make the cheating man believe that she can do it.
The cheating man divorces and is with the mistress, and he can get the happiness promised by the mistress.
The wives may think that the methods of the junior are nothing, but they are extremely effective for the men who pay for the cheating.
Finally, what should the wives do?
The most basic thing is to determine whether the divorce is in the best interest for you according to your situation.
If divorce is the best choice for the wives, the wives can use the divorce as a bargaining chip to negotiate terms with the cheating man.
If you can't keep the cheating man and this marriage, at least you have to keep more benefits.
If wives don't want to divorce, then find the reason why the man has to leave and solve the reason.
Let the cheating man have no reason to divorce and marry the mistress, and solve the extramarital affair, which is what wives need to do.
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